what do i do if im a young very young and i am already inlove but my parents just dont understand?

Question

im am only 13 and my boyfriend is only 14 about to turn 15 we love each other alot and older people just really dont understand it. my parents just think that he is tellin me that he loves me so that i would let him get into my pants, but i know for a fact that its not like that and now my parents and his parents have cut off all contact between us and it feels like im dying inside. i feel like if i cant be with him then i just dont want to live at all. so wut do i do?

Answer 1

At the age of 13, you are not physically or emotionally ready for that kind of relationship. Your parents and elders are stating these things because they have *been there*. Please realize that older people were once your age... and have been through the same, or similar things as you. You're not alone, and we all go through things like this..

Simply stated, wait a while.. you are both far too young to give your lives up, or create such havoc in your lives.. and your parents lives over this relationship. Chances are, in 2 or 3 years you will look back and wonder why you were even interested in this person.

Again, I'm speaking from experience.. been there, done that.

Older people have been there too!!

Answer 2

The problem is honey, is that your parents DO understand. They just want to keep you from making a mistake that you will end up paying for, for the rest of your life.

Trust me. I'm nearly 40. You may feel like dying now, but NO boy is ever worth that. Although it does feel like that from time to time.

And as for your boyfriend. He IS trying to get into your pants darlin... ALL boys are. If they aren't.. then they are looking to get into other "boys" pants. If you think otherwise, then you are too young to even be dating. That is the problem with someone your age in thinking that their boyfriend isn't like that... YES HE IS. I have a son who is 16. He is a good kid... but ya know what.. and he hasn't had sex either.. but that is ALL he thinks about. Been thinking about that since he was 13... so you are definatley wrong on that one darlin.

We older people understand it completely... we just know more.. and know if left to your own devices... you two would end up being parents or sometime way too soon. If both sets of parents are part of the separation.. then apparently you two have given them a reason to do this... normally parents would let a boyfriend girlfriend thing happen... you two obviously have done something you shouldn't have. Therefore lack of judgement is YOUR misunderstanding.. not theirs.

I am pretty sure, as a parent... I know what happened to make them keep you two apart... slow down honey.. your just 13.. let the teenage years begin before you decide you want to give up your life on this boy....

Answer 3

Look you don't have to listen to your parents ok.Check this out when he has his fun with you and you have a baby on the way then is not the time to tell your mom you should have listen to her.This guy is not stupid really he's a man an they will say whatever it takes to get some p**** trust me I'm a man and if I could go back to being a teen I would screw ever girl I could and would not care what I told them as long as I got what I wanted. You say you love him have you even farted around him yet or has he went to buy you some women products for your period if no you need to chill cause you cant be broken an in love it don't go together.

Answer 4

Dear, I do understand because about 25 yrs ago I was you I was too in Love and my parents didnt understand me or him. But I got married and we stayed together for 15yrs. I know you are hurting right now but do you or he have a good education? Or does either have a job to support yourself? See if you are going to act like an adult then be responceable like one.And just remember your parents really love you or else they wouldnt tell you to slow down or forbid you to see romeo.Just ask yourself one qustion .What do I have to lose if I wait a little while? And if you love him and he loves you your love will not dissappear .But it will grow stronger, if you really are in love with each other. See because love is when you will do anything to make the other person happy.And this is sometimes means really a big sacrifice. If you dont really know what that person is all about so look deep.And ask a lot of qustions, and make him mad once just to see how he will treat you when you disagree .Life is about a lot of up and downs. And if we didnt have the hills to climb then we would never enjoy the down hill ride.

Answer 5

I know you think your parents don't understand but believe me they do. Hon, you are only 13 you have your whole life ahead of you. What you have is puppy love, he will move on and so will you. I know that right now you think he is your world and to you he is but trust me in a few years you will look back and thank your parents for stepping in and making the right choice for you. Your main focus should be school and hanging out with your friends. Not a serious relationship. He is not worth dying for, no one is you are just hurting and your heart is breaking but this too shall pass.

Answer 6

I understand how you feel. I am only 20 years old. I can remember back to being 14 years old and having a serious boyfriend that I was with for 2 years. I remember thinking how he was my world and how much I loved him and wanted to be with him. Well we eventually broke up and I did move on and I can honestly say that looking back, what I thought was love, was not love at all. I understand, being at the age that you are, no matter what anyone says, you aren't going to listen because in your heart and your mind, you feel like you love him. and that's okay. if its is meant to be, you two will figure it out. If its not, you will move on. But regardless of what happens, you should NOT feel like you cant live at all and cant be without him. No guy is worth that. No guy should complete you. You should be complete without a guy. He should just compliment you. Just hang out with your friends and try to get your mind off everything. If its meant to be, it will be.

Answer 7

I think I got u on this one. First, just take a deep breath. I can understand exactly how ur feeling and I'm 17. U need to ask yourself is this really love you're feeling. I say this because I read that "... if i cant be with him then i just dont want to live at all." Sorry to tell u, but that's not love. If u were really in love with him, u would not feel so helpless as to say you wanna die if u want be with him. Love is patience. I'm not going to tell you what to do, but I'll give a lil insight. Think about what you REALLY feel b4 u get all crazy...

Answer 8

the reason you think you're in love is because, at age 13, you don't know what you don't know! Heed all the advice here that says you're not ready and you don't know what love is .... if you did, you wouldn't be trying for an exclusive relationship with a 14 year old boy... why? because true love is wanting what's best for the other person. A mutually exclusive relationship and all that it implies at such a young age, is definitely not in the best interest of the other person.

Answer 9

I do believe you are hurting and angry and confused, but your parents love you and want what is best for you. You probably won't understand this until you have children of your own, but hang in there. Prove to them by your attitude and actions (obeying them and taking active part in your family, and not sneaking off to see this boy) that you are really growing up, and responsible enough for a boyfriend. Things will work out, even though right now it doesn't seem like it.

Answer 10

Actually your parents are right, im a 21 year old male and i know what this boy is thinking, especially when he is that young, hell im 21 and getting in girls pants is still all i think about. If you do get back with him "do not" have sex with him and see just how long he sticks around, i bet it wont be that long, thats the real test!