Me and bf is already a year in this relationship.For now,he is still waiting for the annulment of his previous marriage to be approved by the court.He is pretty sure that the marriage will be annulled already, we are just waiting for the papers for him to sign. Now here is the situation,He wanted me to stay with him in his house eventhough i've rented a room for me to stay on my own.The thing though is that he is still unemployed since he is still reviewing for BAR exam ( LAW ) and he is already 34 yrs. old, im 25.Im currently working rightnow. He is still depending with his parents financially and im ashamed to stay with him in the house when in fact i would be an additional expense to them even if im not eating meals always in their house. Though his parents was telling me to stay in the house but i really couldnt take it coz they might just been being plastic and just trying to please their son since their son change a lot when i came to their son's life.Do i need to feel different?
2006-06-12 17:32:01 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I REALLY THINK YOU NEED TO STAY JUST WHERE YOU ARE AT THIS TIME...... WAIT TILL THE ANNULMENT COMES THRU AND HE HAS SIGNED ON THE DOTTED LINE..... HE IS STILL MARRIED NO MATTER WHICH WAY YOU LOOK AT IT....... SO PLEASE WAIT........ LET HIM TAKE CARE OF ONE WAY OF LIFE BEFORE HE STARTS ANOTHER..........
GOD BLESS
2006-06-12 17:39:51 · answer #1 · answered by Annie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I applaued you for wanting to be independent. If you feel that you would be uncomfortable staying there when he can't support himself financially then don't. I mean if you don't feel comfortable then there is a good chance it could cause problems. Why has it taken him so long on his BAR exam? I would look at everything in the situation and make sure that you want to be with him if he can't get some type of job to at least help support himself. If I was you honestly I would take a second look at everything that is going on. But to me it sounds like you are more grown up than he is. Just take another look before you jump into marriage.
2006-06-13 01:18:19 · answer #2 · answered by leftys_rowdy_rebel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to do what you feel is right. Personally, I think that moving into his parent's house with him would be a huge mistake. It sounds to me that he depends too much on his parents and isn't independent enough to take on the responsibility of a realtionship with a good woman. If he were living by himself and supporting himself, I'd say to give it a try. However, it seems that you are not a native English-speaker, so I need to say that maybe you're living in another country where the society has different ways than in the United States. In that case, an American can't help you unless it's someone who has lived in your country long enough to understand your customs and view of the world.
2006-06-13 00:41:54 · answer #3 · answered by quietwalker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Angel, I would slow things down. He has only just got his annulment and moving in together under his parents roof seems a little to cosy.
He needs to find his independence again with you as his girlfriend. Having your own space allows you both have a zone were you are in control of your relationship.
Trust your own gut feelings on this and keep your room.
2006-06-13 00:44:05 · answer #4 · answered by cmscot 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you really need this head ache? I was in a similar situation and come to find out the guy I was involved with was just a inconsiderate male that wanted a mommy instead of a real relationship. Get out while you still can!
2006-06-13 00:41:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first of all you dont get an annulment from a court it is through the catholc church so thats the first lie he told you and 34 years old living with his parents lmao he has no intetion on working if he is still sucking on moms tit you sound like a bright young woman find someone that will work with you and not againist you
2006-06-13 00:39:51 · answer #6 · answered by kelly19670 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Darling! Listen my advice & it will change your life...Your boy friend seems to be good for nothing and bad for nothing..
what u r doing now is exactly what u r doing now. As you love him try to make him realistic.. dont take any chances that will spoil ur life... Bcoz u have one life.. live it up!
Remember so many goods things is waiting for you....
so dont cling to anything that may make you suffer~!
2006-06-13 00:53:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this my opinion:don't stay at his parents house if you don't feel like it, you would only be a distraction since he's studying for that exam, also make your own decisions, it's your life
2006-06-13 00:45:56 · answer #8 · answered by angelus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats hard to answer! But you know, how ever u feel is whatever u choose! Its best to go on ur instinct
2006-06-13 00:39:26 · answer #9 · answered by Boo-TAN-da 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm hungry
2006-06-13 00:37:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋