2006-06-12 17:04:56 · 22 answers · asked by nightplay205 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Married 18 years and he invited another in his arms, heart and wallet. He said it wont happen again, how do you trust?
2006-06-12 17:09:36 · update #1
hey all, got that sick feeling and did some digging. Well found 113 texts on his cell phone bill from the one he cheated with two years go. So I got my answer.
2006-06-18 16:16:11 · update #2
Yes, all of us can make mistakes. But you must be able to truly forgive and forget. If you check on him constantly then neither of you are free. If you can not trust him then let him go. Once trust is broken it is hard to get it back. You will have to decide if worth the struggle. If he is truly sorry for what happened and you can learn to trust again, it will be worth it. Only you can decide.
2006-06-12 17:14:52 · answer #1 · answered by early bird 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Unfortunately, I'm in the same situation. I just found out my sig-o has been cheating on me for the past 3 months. I love him very much, but I'm finding it very hard to deal with a reconciliation because he works with her. We've been together for 5 yrs and I can honestly say I've never felt a reason to worry until a few months ago. Then I violated and started snooping; and got more than I bargained for. He seems to be genuinely sorry and want to work it out. But what about "ms. lady" on the job. He has the temptation everyday. Even if he's really trying, she was able to bed him down before, why is he going to miraculously not be interested now. This is so f%$@ed up. It's very painful when you trust someone and they just disrespect everything you've put into the relationship. You never really know what the other is doing and you shouldn't have to worry once you decide to have an exclusive meaningful relationship. But when the line is crossed, how can you ever really look at the person through the same eyes? From one breaking heart to another, go with your gut feelings. If you feel he is worthy, your relationship is worthy and you have the strength to put yourself through the tumultuous journey of repairing not only your broken heart but your broken relationship then go for it with everything you have. If not, wish him well and go your way. But remember to love and respect yourself first.
2006-06-14 16:24:23 · answer #2 · answered by Caitlin72 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That would depend on the man. After 18 years you know him well enough. If it was a one time deal, my guess is it would not happen again. But you mentioned opening up the wallet, that would suggest a continuing relationship. I would ask him what she has over you, and if you can provide that, then he should end it with the mistress. I've been tempted before, (married 11 years) but never crossed the line. Then again we have an open relationship and often talk of flirting with others. Good luck.
2006-06-13 00:23:10 · answer #3 · answered by Chaz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me tell you about my hubby, on what he done to me. got married july 18 2000, he cheated on me july 4th 2001, and then he cheated on me sept 2003, and then he cheated on me march 2006, he says he would cheat the first time nor second time, third time was my fault, but i dont care anymore, if he does or not. We have an open marriage now, but right now were both being faithful. Once a cheater always a cheater, it doesnt matter, how many times he tells you, he would cheat, but he will eventually, as you can see my hubby did cheat on me every two years. Paybacks are tragic.
2006-06-13 00:11:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I often wondered that same question. Truth is, there's no way you will really know. If he's worth keeping, you have to trust him inorder to make your relationship work. My advice is to be independant of him in your relationship. Take care of yourself and do what you love. Have a social life beside him. If he truly loves you, he will see what a great person he will lose if he cheats again. If he does cheat again, you don't need him, you'll probably be happier without.
2006-06-13 00:17:29 · answer #5 · answered by vinella 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoa wait a min just do what you think you should do I am a women and I believe that if people want to change than they can do it. However you make him earn the trust back and do not throw it in his face when you are angry or it will not work. because if it is thrown in a mans face eventually he will take a bit out of it.
2006-06-13 00:15:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES!!! i think they can..but only if they want to ...i think the saying once a cheater always a cheater is false...when someone wants to change their cheating ways they do... so i thnk a man can become true after he cheats but only if he wants to that he will.
2006-06-13 00:17:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how long you knew him and how long he was loyal to u untill he cheated..If its been 1 month or lower HE cant be true or even 2 NOT a keeper
2006-06-13 00:07:30 · answer #8 · answered by Nece Muniz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes he can, if he realizes what he did and what he can lose, but its the trust thing from you that will be so very hard, u will never forget, im sorry u have to go through this, people dont realize the pain and hurt it causes other people
2006-06-13 00:15:10 · answer #9 · answered by charlesjerrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a man cant be true after he cheats once, he has already gotten a taste of it and you let him get away with it. he will cheat again and just wont tel lyo uuntil you find out. dont let it happen again.
2006-06-13 00:11:23 · answer #10 · answered by Christina 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋