My ex and I have been divorced 4 years now. My 8 year old is very attached to him. It's to the point were it's obsessive. She called him 7 times today, she always cries for him. When he brings her back from a visit she cries herself to sleep. You would think after 4 years she would get used to daddy not being here. I used to let her see him almost 50% of the time, but the crying for him got even worse then. There have been people who asked me if he had ever been inappropriate with her, cause she just cries so much for him, it doesn't seem right. Is this normal?
2006-06-12 17:01:21 · 8 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Get some counseling for the both of you. I have a 10 yr old and he used to cry alot and now that he has been in counseling he and I are doing good. Be patient and pull back the reins a little. You are the parent and you do know what is best for your child. Good Luck honey.
2006-06-12 17:07:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i will pray for her this is so sad it could be that something happened because she sounds like she has seperation anxiety almost like shes afraid he'll get into trouble and won't see him again. I'm not an expert though so i really don't know my heart goes out to you and her Godbless you Ps you and her should have a mommy daughter day go to the movies dinner then an ice cream it helps kids distress when they escape for a while whenever my daughter has issues about her real dad or stepdad we get away for awhile shes only 5 but i instill that she always has me no matter what which i'm sure you do too it really helps and will help her to trust you more if you be a friend to her alot because then she might be less scared to talk to you if see needs too.
2006-06-13 00:17:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
has he ever been approprate with her? maybe thats why she wants to be with him? you have to talk to her and make sure she understand that nothing will hapen to her if she is with you. maybe he is brainwashing her and making her think he will die if she is not with him.heres an idea when you send her the next time, put in a audio tape in her backpack and put it on record before you drop her off, it may not record everything but it will record somethings. figure out why she is acting that way, if you can have one of your friends or family memeber try to place a hidden camera in the home. i know it sounds weird but hey this is your baby we are talking about here. sit down and talk to your baby. also record the way she acts when you bring her home so if you need to go to court the judge will see what she is doing and how she is acting when she returns home.it all lsounds like alot but trust me on this one it will all work out and you will need those vido tapes , record everything. good luck.
2006-06-13 00:24:23 · answer #3 · answered by Christina 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe for the childs sake your ex and u should really concentrate on the child and do whatever is best for her. I imagine the anxiety of 2 parents beindg seperated is very stressful and hard on your child.
2006-06-13 00:09:04 · answer #4 · answered by angelalovin2003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i would say it is, kids at that age become daddys lil girls, i have an 9 yr old son, he is the same way with his aunt and half brother, its a stage they go through, dont deprive them of there needs, it will be fine
2006-06-13 00:10:13 · answer #5 · answered by charlesjerrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she needs someone to talk to about this issue --- definately having problems with seperation. How's her relationship with you? a few items are missing from your story----
2006-06-13 00:10:31 · answer #6 · answered by jaimestar64cross 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should should take her to a family sycolyogest to get the truth out of ur daughters head Or she could be just a dadys girl
2006-06-13 00:10:28 · answer #7 · answered by Nece Muniz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get her some help sounds like she has attachment issues
2006-06-13 00:53:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋