Two months ago my Boyfriend Ryan killed himself because my dad was abusing me because I wouldn't brake up with Ryan.Ryan didn't like seeing me in pain and he thought if we just would have broke up it would have been even worse, seeing and not being able to do anything.So Ryan thought if he was out of the picture my dad would stop, his suicide not said that he loved and would do anything to make my life easier.I miss him so much and I keep blaming myself, sometimes I think his suicide was my fault and if he would have never met me this would have never happened, Should I think it is my fault?
2006-06-12 16:45:21 · 31 answers · asked by bubbles 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Well you must not have felt too bad about it since you didn't waste any time getting you another dick to sleep with and then getting yourself pregnant.
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Grow up
2006-06-12 16:53:34 · answer #1 · answered by fun_guy_otown 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please.
Please.
Please.
Please go see a counselor. It will cost money, but it will be worth every penny. If anything it will be someone you can talk to without them being biased and telling you their opinion.
Do you really think they will say it is your fault? You know it is not your fault, but you are trying to find a way to justify his death. You did not pull the trigger, and there many people that have been abused in the world and suicide is still a rarity in those cases.
Get away from your Dad and go to the counselor. I know you still love your Dad, but that does not mean you have to live with him. God will bless you on this difficult journey. Open your eyes and ears and your life will be stronger than ever before.
2006-06-13 00:05:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it wasent your fault.. but if you are being abused you should have told someone that could have got you out of that situtation. teacher ,911,or someone... he must have had a lot of problems you dident no about..and he dident tell you bc you had problems your self.When a teen commits suicide, everyone is affected. Family members, friends, teammates, neighbors, and sometimes even those who didn't know the person well may experience feelings of grief, confusion, guilt - and the sense that if only they had done something differently, the suicide could have been prevented. The reasons behind a teen's suicide or attempted suicide are often complex.
the presence of a psychological disorder, especially depression, bipolar disorder, and alcohol and substance use (In fact, approximately 95% of people who die by suicide have a psychological disorder at the time of death.)
feelings of distress, irritability, or agitation
feelings of hopelessness and worthlessness that often accompany depression (A teen, for example, who experiences repeated failures at school, who is overwhelmed by violence at home, or who is isolated from peers is likely to experience such feelings.)
a family history of depression or suicide (Depressive illnesses may have a genetic component, so some teens may be predisposed to suffer major depressionhaving suffered physical abuse or sexual abuse
lack of a support network, poor relationships with parents or peers, and feelings of social isolation
dealing with homosexuality in an unsupportive family or community or hostile school environment.. i would like to add i dident no your bf and im not trying to say anything bad about him...ok... but if he really wonted to help you he wouldent killed himself . he would have figured a way to get help for you...not to leave this world and you to...
2006-06-13 00:00:39 · answer #3 · answered by purple 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not your fault, not your father's fault - it is his fault alone, and noone should be left to carry the guilt.
He must have had a lot of deeper issues that you were not aware of for him to take his own life.
I know it's a cliche - but in time, you really will start to get over this, it does help. That pain will probably be with you for ever, but it will be in a different form and you will think back with fondness at times shared and happy memories.
All the very best to you
2006-06-12 23:49:58 · answer #4 · answered by LadyRebecca 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no. suicide is extremely selfish and the fault of the person who does it.
to lay that on you was totally wrong and unfair.
I'm so sorry for your loss, and this may sound harsh, but it's the honest truth.
try contacting a grief support group via 1800suicide. I found it very helpful when my friend killed himself.
Also, tell a teacher or ADULT friend about the abuse from your dad. that needs to stop too -- you don't deserve it and it's not your fault either!
2006-06-12 23:49:19 · answer #5 · answered by alter_tygo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh honey, this is not your fault. You need to speak with a professional regarding the abuse and your feelings and thoughts on Ryan's suicide.
2006-06-12 23:56:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Killing oneself will not solve any problem. Be a man to stand up for his rights. Too late now. U r not at fault so stop blaming yourself. Time will pass and move on. Find one that can speak up for u and himself. Future is yours to make, not your dad. Have a plan for your future, speak to dad and surely he will give u his blessing. Always good to be blessed by your parents as one day may need their support. Who knows. So move on and good luck.
2006-06-12 23:55:24 · answer #7 · answered by Whitesands 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not your fault. Ending life is not answer to every question. Nature has given life to solve the mystery of these universe.
Instead of making sucide if he have left your city or state it will be better. He had taken last step which is wrong. Taking birth is not our hand but ending life is our hand(Brain)
2006-06-12 23:50:34 · answer #8 · answered by Jaideep P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know its hard to deal with. i lost a boyfriend three years ago, even til this day i still think about it. i want to tell you to focus on getting away from your father. you shouldnt be abused. as for your boyfriend, it wasnt your fault. i know its hard to believe now but as time goes on it gets better. it never goes away but you learn to accept it.you might find it helpful to talk to someone to clear your head. it doesnt have to be a professional or anything just maybe a close friend you trust or try writing in a diary.
2006-06-12 23:59:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please get youself some counselling my dear. I feel your pain. It is not your fault that you are being abused and that Ryan killed himself. He must have had some problems that he didn't share with you. Killing himself wasn't going to help you in any way. Can you get away from your abuser asap?
2006-06-12 23:47:28 · answer #10 · answered by sinned 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should go see a cousilor and tell them what you typed here. they can help you through this. What your dad doing to you is not right. Maybe Ryan had this on his mind before you met him but gave a reason I don't know since i am not professional so go see a cousilor and they can help you.
2006-06-12 23:48:33 · answer #11 · answered by alexia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋