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I told him i loved him so much, and so often but he hardly ever said that to me.
I cheated and decieved him so early after just a week or two, i was arranging via text message to meet a another lad the next day, as i lay in bed beside the one i said i soved so much and so often, and told him it was my friend, cherlyl who was texting me, so easily decieving him without any doubt or hesitation, and through the night as he slept i kept sending and receiving texts to and from the other one, arranging to meet him tomorrow, i had to go to sign on so i would tell the one i always say i love so much, so often to that i wanna go shopping after i sighn so drop me off outside and ill sign, go round town and be back down the flat later on.. but really the other one was waiting nearby as i kissed the one i say i love so much, every day and went inside to sign my name as off he drove without a doubt about me, without a clue what i was doing as i lay beside him all the night and with no idea my real intention was go with the other one to a house where we could spend the whole day alone, before eventually id have to go back to the flat where that guy who i say that i love would be waiting, and be happy to see me as i kiss him and i lie about the things id done that day, making all of it up to hide where i really was because he must not know how low i can go so easily and willingly and how quick and ready i muyst be to deceive him all night long and all the day, so i'll say that i love him so much and so very often, but he hardly ever said that he loved me too.. do i have any right to expect him too?

Answer 1

no it is not his fault that you are lying to his face and seeing another guy,it is your fault
you want him to say I love you , he fails to live up to your unspoken demands , so you use it to justify your depraved behavior
I do not know what your definition of love is but this complete lack of respect ans selfish behavior sounds alot more like self love and it is a good thing he doesnt say this to you if that is the case.
if you were honest with him he would not believe in your love for him either

Answer 2

I think you know the answer to this yourself. But here are a few things to consider #

Are you subconciously 'punishing' the boyfriend you live with for not telling you that he loves you, by going out with another?

If the boyfriend you live with did say he loved you, would you stop seeing anyone else? Or would you end it with him?

Do you tell the other boyfriend you love him too? Does he tell you he loves you?

Do you love the boyfriend you say you love?

Have you thought about what will happen when you are found out? (And make no mistake you will be, it is only a matter of time before someone who knows you both will see you, and word will get back to the boyfriend you are cheating on. As this has been going on for some time, it is probably likely that one or more of your mutual friends already knows, and you are quite literally sitting on a time bomb.)

Are you prepared for the pain and hurt you are going to cause the boyfriend you live with when he finds out?

Unless you do something to sort this out soon, things are going to get very ugly.

You have to take control of this situation and either finish with the boyfriend you live with, or stop seeing others. Or you have to sit down and talk to the boyfriend you live with about having an 'open relationship' (ie one where you each allow the other to see other people), because maybe you are not ready to settle down with one man just yet. But you have to be prepared for the fact that, if your boyfriend does not want to do this, then you may need to end the relationship completely.

Answer 3

After everything you are doing to him you have no right into expecting him to say he loves you and i would advise you decide what you want, do you want to be with the other guy instead?? if you do then you need to finish with the one you say you love because if he gets deep feelings for you and says he loves you too then it will hurt him more if he finds out about the affair than if he does not care for you. And i agree with a previous answer, would you love someone that did that to you???
stop playing with him and decide what you want, cheating on someone is the cruelest thing ever especially if there are deep feelings, so own up now before it hurts him too much.

Answer 4

If he loves you he loves you no matter what. now the thing that kills me is that you say you love him all the time but then you go and cheat on him. That doesnt sound like love to me. Him not saying he loves you could be a sign but it doesnt mean he doesn't love you. I don't understand woman who do this. You use the love word but you don't mean it. You can't possibly mean it. Your out fooling aroung with another guy. It just baffles me how woman can do such a thing and I know huys do it too. BUt not all guys are dogs. The ones that are not dogs always get the short end of the stick and get cheated on.

Answer 5

This is a short answer to a long question, but I hope it is insightful. What you are doing is wrong and I think you feel that way too.

Answer: You can not expect anything from anyone until you stop lying to yourself. You seem to be very pretty and good girl. I would step back and take some time to yourself, as it seems that you are able to find a guy with ease. Take your time. Heartbreak is one of the worst emotional pains one can feel.

Answer 6

I dont think u have the right to question why he doesnt say he loves you when you are faking it, mabey hes not comfortable with thoes three little words and mabey you should stop saying it to him and giving him false hope if all your doing is cheating. telling someone you love them isnt just some thing to be said its something that should be meant, and obviously you dont mean it so stop strining him along. i know its easier said than done but its much easier to cope with and then you can do what you like without him and yu wont be hurting him anymore. gd luck girl hope everything worksout for you.
P.S. mabey you should try to stop seeing this other lad and make it work wit ur b/f

Answer 7

if u have only been together for 2 weeks then u probably don't love the one u told that u love so much, but to me it seems like u don't feel that he loves u as much as u love him, so u have gone out and met somebody else because u needed the attention, but if u could cheat on him then u obviously don't actually love him as much as u think. if i was u i would leave the guy u think u love so much he dosent need to know what u have done but do it before u get caught.

Answer 8

You are a dizzy slapper, and you sound like Vicky Pollard off of Little Britain. I hope that was the intention, and that the whole question was a joke, because I would find it so depressing if it wasn't.

Answer 9

This is not a question of rights. Its a question of attitude.Your attitude is self centred.Your feelings cannot be foisted on another,the foundation of your love is sand and as we know you cannot build on it.Change your attitude. Give more take less and the guy just might fall for you.

Answer 10

Shaddup

Answer 11

No, the simple answer to a very long question. Reverse the situation, would you still love a cheating biatch like you.