My child turned 18 at the beginning of the year and he is out of school now as of early June. His mother and step dad have taken steps to put him in an expensive college -over 20,000.00 per year. I have had to save money where I could and not have some of the things I always wanted--I have never deprived my child of anything even though my ex had the child pay for school lunches with his own money--I paid for things beyond support. Without consulting me as to what I wanted --we have a joint legal agreement-- they enrolled him in a major university--I wanted him to go to the local community college as to where the costs might be in the area of 2,000 to 2,200 per year that I could afford. Can they take me to cour to pay for those inordinately high costs. I'm retired--to me that is way out of line--what do you think--here in Illinois. Yes he is a very smart "A" student. What can people like me do?
2006-06-12 16:21:04 · 13 answers · asked by Twlight Zone2 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
That would build a wedge between you and your child. One that may never be able to be resolved. Is it worth it to you to do that?
I would tell the wife and son that you have a certain amount of money............wish you had more............but that is all you have because of your fixed income. Who says that your child cannot help with the expense? If your child pays some, your wife pays some, and you pay some............that would help alleviate the cost. What about grants? There are so many out there that are unused. Anyone who has a good grade point can get one.
Call the high school counseling office and they can give you a list of all the grants...............have your son and yourself go through the grant writing process and spend the time together building good memories.
Think of ways to help instead of ways to get out of it.
I would do anything to give my child that opportunity.
2006-06-12 22:38:32 · answer #1 · answered by heartwhisperer2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
child support stops at 18 if you had an agreement about college yes you are entitled to pay half but not for an expensive college i think if it did make it to court they would side with you and might even end up not having to pay any so stand tall and tell em to kiss ur butt
2006-06-12 16:29:44 · answer #2 · answered by doc33 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
College is usually negotiated along with the child support. Since the child is on his own, you don't owe his mother anything, but I would definitely double check with an attorney.
2006-06-12 16:34:40 · answer #3 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry your child is such a burden to you. You should tell him he is not worth an expensive college. Then tell him you don't have to pay for it because it's not in a divorce decree. That I know, my father f*cked me out of a decent education (wouldn't even help out)my mother wasn't surprised, he didn't even sign his support checks! I don't even talk to him barely and I keep my sons far away from the cheap b@stard. It's too expensive to spend money on gas to see him anyway. I hope when he's clutching his chest in pain in his last hours, he can remember how much his things and money means to him as he is alone dying.
2006-06-12 16:30:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well, it depends on what state you live in. If in N.J. no but I can't speak for other states. In N.J. you don't have to pay for your child to go to any collage. As of 18 they are emancipated. There for they are responsible for there own collage. Go to you child support payment people and ask get a good attorney and see what the laws are in your state. My husband and I had to go Thur this and we did not have to pay for collage. Do your research.
2006-06-12 17:33:26 · answer #5 · answered by Need_two Beloved 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in the state of Texas if the child goes to Collage
he get child support paid to the child until the age of 21
and not paid to other parent.
for school and Bord
2006-06-12 18:26:36 · answer #6 · answered by glennmettlen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u have the money than go for it but since it's expenisve dont. after 18 the child turns 18 they cant take u to court.
2006-06-12 16:34:02 · answer #7 · answered by iranian gurl and proud 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, you are under no obligation to pay for college. Let his mother and step dad pay for his college. They have no legal recourse to come after you. If they want him in that school, let them pay for it. You pay the 2000 you would have paid, let them pay the rest.
2006-06-12 16:42:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he/she enters college AFTER they blow out that 18th, birthday candle, then NO: you don't have to bear such financial responsibilities.
Check with your attorney, but I feel this is correct for Illinois
2006-06-12 16:27:47 · answer #9 · answered by Mr. Wizard 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, not unless your marital dissolution agreement/divorce decree says that you have to pay for it.
2006-06-12 16:34:04 · answer #10 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋