Why does dating suck so much?

Question

I have had 4 short term relationships and they all have ended with shít like "it never clicked" "I don't feel like it would work out" or I don't feel anything for you. I feel like I can't find anyone out there - why did these fuçkers wait so long into the relationship to tell me this? What does it take to find a good date and possibly a good long term relationship?

Answer 1

Whatever you're doing stop and do the opposite. You're are attracting that kind of person.

Answer 2

Well first of all, your mind should be on something productive like school, not Jesus.

The best thing that I can advise is to not get into a long-term relationship until you are comfortable with yourself and your life. Don’t get involved with someone serious until you have reached your goals in life because it’s not fair to them or you.

Write down everything you liked in the girls/guys you dated. Try to find the similarities, and if they are negative, avoid people with those character traits. Find the ones that were positive, and place yourself in places were people would have those traits. For example, if all the girls you dated were religious and that is something you look for, go to church mixers around town. If they were into sports, then go to sports bars/events. Don’t be afraid to put yourself on the Internet either. Love has a funny way of just happening.

Relationships are hard. There is no easy answer to your question because every situation is different. You have to realize that only 1 relationship in your entire life will work out, and that’s only if you’re lucky.

Answer 3

You should become a Muslim and give up all these non sense things. In Muslim society marraige is far stronger and the incidence of AIDS etc. is extremely low. And above all there is much peace and tranquility. However it has to be Muslim from heart and not from tongue so you have to be careful. Actually when you becoem Muslim you are just reveting to your previous innocent state. All Children are Muslims and then they are corrupted by their parents, soceity etc.through lies and wrong informations etc. Islam is the religion since time began. From Adam, Eve, Noah, Abraham, Ishmaeel, Isac, Jacob, Joseph, Moses and Jesus were all Muslims. The word Judaism & Jew did not exist at the time of Moses and word Christianity was not there in Jesus's time. Quran is the final edition of all divine books as it protected the truth and removed all man made contaminations. As Islam means peace, without islam there will be no true peace wihtin yourself and your atmosphere.

Answer 4

Because no one is honest, and truthful about what they want in a relationship, point in fact the man that I'm seeing is in another country right now. I asked to go with him, would pay my own way, and got told to spend my money on my bills - not the trip. This is the second time he's gone, so I'm thinking another woman. People lie all the time thinking that something "better" is out there, but the grass on the other side of the fence has "brown spots" in it, too.

Answer 5

Hey chill, those guys were obviously wrong for you. Your not out there dating for all those guys that were wrong for you, just for the one that is right for you. You'll probably have to go through bunch of them until you find that one is right for you, so don't sweat it, look at it as the process of elimination. As for why they waited so long to tell you this, probably because most people (myself included) are as confused as you if not more so. maybe part of them knew the two of you weren't right for each other but the bigger part of them just kept hoping that you were or would eventually become right for each other. Honestly I think the only thing it takes to start a good long term relationship is a lot of patientce and a sense of humor.

Answer 6

Hmmm. Well, my longest term relationship is the one that I'm in right now. He and I have been together for a year. The longest before that was six months. My personal opinion is that there is a right person for everyone. Eventually you'll find him, but you just may have to wait for a while. Keep dating you can't find the right person if you don't look.

Answer 7

Well, my advice to you would be to take things slowly at first. Don't do anything sexual until you know that you two are compatible, and really like each other. If you have sex first, well, that is the only thing that is atracting you two together, and let's face it, no matter how good you look, there will always be someone who looks better. So, take it slow, and then you'll know....

Answer 8

Looking at your pic, you seem kinda young, u know, not in your mid 20's yet. Your perspective of dating seems to be that you are looking for love. The harder you look for love, the more it will elude you. Dating is to learn your likes and dislikes. When you love who you are, and you know what you like and dislike, and you are no longer LOOKING for true love, that's when it will hit you. Out of the blue. Wierd huh.

Answer 9

if you want a longer term relationship, you'll have to play it like girls do. play hard to get. hold back on the sex till you know he has feelings for you. don't click - until it clicks.

Answer 10

You know you just have to keep looking for the right one to come...Love is tough...I'd know. You just have to find someone whose not there to stay for only a little while. But good luck, man. You'll find the right one. But many obstacles will come your way...just be prepared.

Answer 11

Because it is really hard to find someone we are compatable with! It too me 20 years to find Mr Right!