if your ex boyfriend breaks up with you and gives no explanation?

Question

If your ex boyfriend after 5 years breaks up with you that's what i'm guessing because he hasn't called me in two weeks, and when I call him he tells me he'll call me back but never does. What do I do..... Yes I know you'll all say move on and forget about him, but he never gave me an explanation to why he left me. How can you just stop calling someone, or how can you just stop loving someone after so many years being together, does that make any sense. Just today I broke and called him asked if we could get together and talk cause I need closure his answer was I'll call you later, and of course he hasn't. Would it be a good idea if I change my cell number. I don't know what to do anymore, and in case you're wondering I have a very strong feeling he is or already has cheated on me. I don't know if the pain will ever go away but if anyone out there is in the same boat as I am right now I feel for u all. It's very hard to let go or try to let go especially if u really love the person

Answer 1

It's hard but you go on. You can't make him explain himself and he probably never will. Try to understand that you don't want someone that is capable of this anyway and move on .

Answer 2

I just found out for sure that my man of four yrs. has recently cheated on me. He says that I did nothing wrong and that he's sorry and doesn't know why he did it. This man is 52 yrs. old. My heart is aching soooooo bad. I asked him if he was seeing someone else of course he lied. I stopped seeing him the last two wks. he left eight voicemails and I had several missed calls from him. He had already cheated and said he wanted me back. It's hard to let go and it hurts, but each day it'll get easier with prayer and time. You can change you telephone number but,you'll still wonder if he's trying to call.You will still call him from time to time. I know exactly how you feel sweetie. My ex says that he never broke up with anyone and didn't know how to tell me that he wanted to end the relationship. This is all bull because he's seen enough movies to get a clue as to how to end a damn relationship. If that's not bad enough, he didn't even use condoms. I'm totally devasted. I'll just keep praying and meditating. Oh, we work at the same hospital.

Answer 3

You do need an explanation and you do deserve one, however, it doesn't look like you're going to be getting one any time soon. Something (or someone) happened. He's moving on and for whatever reason, doesn't want to tell you why. Maybe it's so you'll still be there just in case "this" doesn't work out for him.
I don't know why you want to change your cell phone number. That doesn't make any sense.
Five years IS a long time, but you can get through this (even without closure). Look at all the divorced or widowed people who are able to move on and find love again! Don't sit around feeling sorry for yourself and wondering what you did. Hang out with friends, go places, meet people, let people know that you're available again. Don't let this guy steal your life! There are lots of guys out there.

Answer 4

He might not want to break up with you. He might just need some time to get things straight in his head or he may be going through something that he doesn't want you involved because it might hurt you. Don't seem too eager to hear from him. You might be scaring him off by being so needy and whiny.

5 years is a very long time. Tell him that you love him and that you will wait for him to come to you when he's ready. Or, you tell him that you'll give him a week, and by Saturday you would really like to know where the two of you stand.

Be proud of who you are and don't seem too desperate. Don't give him that satisfaction. If he doesn't come back, he's the one that will lose out. You, being a strong person, will find someone that can enjoy being with you and cherish you for who you are.

Good luck :-)

Answer 5

Do not call him anymore! You are giving him the pleasure that he wants! He wants you to keep sweatin him like he a pimp or something! I know it's hard without an explanation, but just count it as a loss and move on. Change your cell phone number and don't call him any more. Go shopping for cute outfit and go out with your girlfriends to the hottest club in your area and just have a good time. Life is too short to be wasted. He has another girl and he really didnt love you. If he did he wouldn't have treated you like this!

Answer 6

that sucks and it is really hard to deal with. Basically i would just leave him alone and just try to get over him which i know it is gonna be hard ex-specially since u guys do have a long history together. He seems to be a jerk and not a real man to treat u the way he is treating u. It's time to face the facts that it is time to get over him get ur self together to meet someone else on down the line when u recover from him. it's a long processes but honey there is woman who have been through worst and has been able to move on and be happy with some one. Think about this if he does call u or does come around how long do think it is gonna take for him to hurt u again. u deserve better honey u really do.

Answer 7

He didn't break up with you, he's just cheating on you. I wouldn't call him anymore and I know it is hard but just try to keep yourself busy. The more you call him the less he is going to want to talk to you about what is going on. Don't go changing your cell number because all you're going to do is call him and give him the new number. You love him, just wait, he'll call and when he feeds you that drag about WHATEVER he claims he was going through. (because he is going to be "going through" something) You let his punk a** have it!!! Even if you decide to forgive him and stay with him, for two weeks (the same amount of time he blew you off) you make his life a living hell. You break his pockets, I mean spend every dollar in his pocket everyday you see him. Make him pay. 5 years is a long time to give someone, for them to think they can just stop calling you with no explanation. I am pissed at this dude, if I knew him I would slap the s*** out of him. Acting like years are like days!!! WTF!! Oh yeah girl, but trust me when I say he found "Ms. New Booty" and that's why he is not trying to hear you right now.

Answer 8

He already has someone. He has probably been seeing her for a while since he is acting so cold toward you. 5 years is a long time.
When I read it that's what I thought.

Stop calling him. I would get my number changed and if he comes around ignore him. He's just being RUDE and hateful!

Even tho you don't won't too hear it!!! lol
Go out and have fun and find you another man. The best way to get over a man is to find another one!
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Answer 9

If he left you with no explanation, and you said he's cheated on you before did you ever get the impression he could of just left you for another woman? If he doesn't call you back, that's his problem not your's, you tryed to see what was wrong and he didn't even call back like he said he would. Your right, but there are better men out there who will treat you better, i understand you like him a lot, But look at what he's doing? what he's done? do you love him now?

Answer 10

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She will not want you even more. You need to show her that you don't need her and can live your life without her. She still cares about you I am sure. Maybe try "flirting" with other girls around her to make her jealous. I know its bad, but if i saw my ex flirting with someone else it would make me REALLY ANGRY. However, you still need to show her you care about her too. Show her what she's missing and remind her of it. Be confident and don't show your broken heart. Try ignoring her? Girls hate that. You want her to come to you. Once she does this YOU have all the power.

She will realize what you mean to her and she will hopefully come crawling back. (I am in the same situation as you, except I am the girl trying to get my ex back). Try not to be so clingy and give her space. But try to be around so she sees you, but don't talk to her much. Keep convos short and if you txt her, which you shouldn't, then also keep it short and bland. This will be hard to do because you just want to let her in your life again, but you can't. If you show her that you are desperate to get her back, she won't go for it. Make her come to you and REMIND her of all that she is missing out on. Hope this helps. And trust me, I know how you feel. Girls usually come around easier than guys so you should be lucky. ughh wish i could say the same.

Answer 11

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