Can I ask my ex girlfriend to help me through a manic depressive period?

Question

I had a depression caused by many factors and then a terrible week of manic and anxiety attacks , the only person I wanted to turn to was my ex for that period only is this possible

Answer 1

You can ask her anything but be prepared if she says no.

Answer 2

Thats crazy. im going through the same thing.

I turned to my ex though.

I noticed when I did, I got no result from it.

I mean I let things out, but I guess it didnt help too much because talking to my ex made me realize I just wanted them back more.


I also had the anxiety attacks as well. I still do but theyre pretty minor now considering I have a pshycologist and 2 therapists.

So if you have no intention of reuniting, I can tell you things will run smooth.

If you have a feeling thats what you probably want from this then be careful. Theres a chance they may not want the same thing. And if your ex dosent, just tell youself, "I went in expecting this to be a possibility" That way you wont be so bummed out.

Answer 3

Depends on what is beind the motivation to contact her. In times of crisis it is easy for us to revert back to old behaviors and be around people who are not necessarily healthy for us. You need to look at your boundaries, your relationship with her, do you have another girlfriend now, how will this connection benefit you and her. There is always a hidden agenda to our behaviors whether it is positive or negative. If she is a good friend and has been there for you during your depression and has been a good and positive support network then it could be a good idea. The fact that you are asking the question should tell you that you need to think about it first, are you using this as an excuse to contact her? Try relying on friends and family. You can also go to your therapist or the one who treats your mental illness. As long as you are being honest and truthful you are doing good. And most importantly, you need to take care of yourself.

Answer 4

It's really unfair for your ex "grilled fried" oups sorry "girl friend"

If you want a real chance to make it, it's not in giving up on your personnal hope and selfesteem. You should see a doctor, takes some light pills for anxiety and move on your life up to the top where you dreamt and with another person than your ex partner.

Plus she or he deserves a new start, especially after having someone probably with lots and lots of problems. You should concentrate only onto solutions of each of them, and face up your life with humour, respect of yourself and others, and also with a lot of hapiness.

What can you do to feel happy, swim at the beach, have a nice walk till sweting a maximum, harm nobody (included your ex or yourself) and learn...learn to feel a happy person on this earth. Exactly the contrary you've done. Change your habbits patterns, go for a coffee, listen to some music and have fun, laugth and love yourself. To be able oneday to love again someone else.

Good luck

Answer 5

Hon, You need to see a Mental health doctor. It IS common to have one person you consider a safe person in this disease..

However Hon, You can`t depend on an EX girl friend. You need to see a therapist and work out your anxeity and problems.

It isn`t fair to dump them on some one else..

Please take control of YOUR OWN life. Happiness comes from within. IF you think that ANY PERSON in the world can MAKE you happy you are gonna be so dissapointed.. YOU must find YOUR path to happiness. ONLY YOU can make YOU happy..

1-800-273-TALK >>>> 1-800-273-8255 or
1-800-784-2433

They can help you.. Please hang in there...

Hugs from Texas & God bless. {:-)
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Answer 6

I'd have to say that in order to be healthy, you need to turn to a professional. In the state you're in, you're probably not going to make really awesome decisions in regard to your personal life.

It's also not really fair to get your ex involved in this very serious medical situation you're in.

You need professional help; your ex can only confuse the issue (she'd only confuse the issue even if she were the leading expert on the disease, simply based on your prior relationship).

Get help, let her lead a somewhat normal life and take care of YOURSELF with someone who knows how to help you.

Best of luck.

Answer 7

my ex-husband would do the same to me. but I would always be the one with the stress, I would help him and he would be off destroying his life again and I would have to pick up the pieces, it is very painful to watch someone we care about go through something like this. If you really feel you need her help, get help from a doctor as well, don't put it all on her, it would be selfish of you. You need to show her that you are trying to help yourself first, also if she agrees to help you, contact your doctor and give permission for him to discuss your problems with her. My ex-husbands doctor once told me that even though I was the wife, he couldn't discuss my husbands problems with me even though I was the one trying to help him. Put it in writing saying she can be involved with your problem. If you don't want her to have that kind of control than don't even ask her. It is up to you to decide if you really need help or not.

Answer 8

By all means yes. As long as she wasen't the cause of the attacks.If she was and you talk to her it could possibly trigger more attacks. If she wasent and she knows you wellenough then she can help you through this by doing as little as talking to you. Sometimes all you need is a good friend to talk to, and if this dosent help please find a professional.

Answer 9

It might be if she is willing. But it could create a codependent type experience where you will become dependent on her in the future. It would be better to get professional help for your condition as it is probably going to span your life time on and off.

Answer 10

Have you ever wondered about the reason of our existence? Have you ever wondered why we die, and where we go after death? What will happen to us in the end? Have you ever asked yourself why God made the earth and all that is in it under man’s dominion? Why were the night and the day, and the sun and the moon created? What are we supposed to do during our lifetime? Were we created just to eat, drink, and enjoy ourselves before we die? As one poet put it:
“I do not know whence I have come.
I saw my feet walking on the road.
As they please I go and stop.
What am I doing here?
How did the road find me?
I do not know! I do not know! I do not know! ”

God has emphasized in many verses of the Qur’an that He did not create us without purpose. He said: “What! Do you think that I created you simply in jest? And that you would not be returned to Me?” (23:115) He also said: “What! Does man think that he will be left to roam at his will?” (75:36) In addition, He said: “Do people think that they will be left to say: “We believe,” and they will not be held accountable?” (29:2)
Indeed, God Has created human beings for a purpose and with a purpose: TO WORSHIP HIM ALONE (Monotheism). He said: “I have not created the Jinn and humankind except only to worship Me. I don't require provision or feeding from them. Surely Allah is the All-provider, the Possessor of all strength, the Firm.” (51:56-58) In fact, all prophets told their people to worship God alone (Monotheism) and shun worshipping His creation (Paganism). God said: “I assuredly sent among every people a messenger with the command: Worship Allah and avoid worshipping false gods.” (16:36)
Prophet Abraham, for example, believed in One God, who had no partner. Anyone who holds a different understanding of God than this has contradicted the religion of Abraham and follows falsehood. God says in the Qur’an: “Those who reject the religion of Abraham make fools of themselves.” (2:130)
Prophet Jesus was reported in the Gospels to have said: “It is written: ‘Worship the Lord your God and serve Him only’.” (Luke 4:8)
Prophet Jacob also said (in the Qur'an) to his people: “Indeed, those which you worship besides Allah are only names that you and your forefathers have established, for which Allah has sent down no authority. The command belongs only to Allah. He has commanded that you worship none but Him. That is the right religion, but most people do not understand.” (12:40)
Read more about the TRUE BELIEVE which supported by the Miracle Holy Quran :
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Real happiness and peace can be ONLY found in submitting to the commands of the Creator and the Sustainer of this world. God has said in the Qur’an: (Truly, in remembering God do hearts find rest.)
(Qur’an, 13:28)

On the other hand, the one who turns away from the Qur’an will have a life of hardship in this world. God has said:
(But whoever turns away from the Qur’an, he will have a hard life, and We will raise him up blind on the Day of Judgment.) (Qur’an, 20:124)
This may explain why some people commit suicide while they enjoy the material comfort money can buy. For example, look at Cat Stevens (now Yusuf Islam), formerly a famous pop singer who used to earn sometimes more than $150,000 a night. After he converted to Islam, he found true happiness and peace, which he had not found in material success.
To read the stories of people who have converted to Islam, please visit

http://www.islam-guide.com/stories

At this web page, you can read the thoughts and feelings of these people, who are from different countries and have different backgrounds and levels of education.
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Answer 11

I think its possible. If you two are still close and talk to each other often. She probably knows you better than some people and it would make you feel better to talk to someone you feel comfortable with, so i say yes you should talk to her.