Is the way we were raised or treated as a child partly responsible for who we are now?

Question

If a child molester molests a child and you find out he was molested as a child as well, are his parents partly to blame for his behavior now?

Answer 1

There is no doubt that our experiences effect what actions or behaviors we choose now, BUT, no one is responsible for my actions except for me. Same goes for you or anyone.

Every single moment of every single day, we choose how we want to behave, act and react. If we don't like the way we behave, we need to accept responsibility and change it.

Answer 2

Parents are always to blame for some of the way their child thinks and reacts. If you raised your child to be strong then when something happens such as being molested then they will have an upper hand about dealing with the situation. But thats a truamatic event for a child. So, it would be the parents job to make sure they get the proper treatments thats needed. Everyone that has been molested gets some kind of habit or mindset of something when they get older and don't even notice it. And most of the time it's sexual.

Answer 3

I've recently learned that sexual behavior is genetic. A man can molest one of his children but the other, unmolested, might turn out to be a sexual predator of some kind instead, though he may or may not act on it. A grand father can molest his daughter as a child, and when she has a son, he can have thoughts of the same behavior, even thought the woman is completely absent of sexually deviant thought. But if a boy is molested as a child, it severely increases is chances of becoming a sexual predator as an adult, as an addition to his genetic curse.

Answer 4

Certainly experiences in our youth play a role in who we turn out to be, and there are proven statistic supporting that there is a chain of voilence in not only child molesters but any criminal behaviour it serial killings, rape, etc - however, altho something in the person's past that may of influenced their adult behavior should not be used to excuse it - they know the difference between right and wrong - if not they would commit these crimes openly and not try to run and hide - they know what they are doing is wrong and rather than fight the urges and get help they choose to satisfy the urge and encourage the sickness - so yes, I feel childhood instances may be part of the equation but should not be used as a crutch - each should be held accountable for their own actions

Answer 5

A molester chooses to do an activity that is illegal regardless of how they feel about it personally. Of course they are damaged by their experiences as children.

The way people are affected by childhood experiences depends on their temperament, personality and support by other people. Some people are very resilient and some are totally ruined by trauma.

Answer 6

Yes if you mean his parents molested him or knew of him being molested.....but as adults, we all have the power to change for the better.

Answer 7

i wouldn't blame the parents unless they were the one's who molested.

Answer 8

We have free will and can direct our own lives when we are adults. There will be scars but with the help of a good therapist they can be reduced.

Answer 9

no not really because i have a friend that was raped at age 5 and her parents don't push her or lecture her that much and she is very smart, strick, social, a neat freak, and she does'nt act out in bad ways

Answer 10

yes...there are a lot of factors like genes, the people who surround him/her, experiences....there's so many....the list could go on..

we are all unique...and it's just a matter of how we will face everything, positively and constructively...