What do I do?

Question

I have been with my fiance for over a year and we have a son together... but lately I have been "noticing" his friend... I mean I want him bad... do I ignore these feelings or what... I want to be with my fiance I just also want to know how it would be to be with another man...help

The other guy wants me too but he ALSO has a fiance with a child..oddly enough our kids are 2 months and 3 months... i'm confused on how to deal with this

Answer 1

ive been with my fiance for 61/2 yrs. once in a great while i will notice another guy in that way but i quickly dismiss it when i think about all the great times we've had together, all the problems we've been through, what we went through to be together, etc. i know how u feel about the curiousity of being with another man because ive been with my fiance since i was 17. thats young. if ur truly in love, dont mess with it. ur gonna meet lots of really good guys in ur life, but u have to ask urself if they'll treat u and love you as much as what u already got.

Answer 2

Sorry, can't have the best of both worlds, no one can. But, depending on how old you are, I'm guessing pretty young, than I would think that it is quite normal to have these feelings for other guys. I think that we all have feelings for other people, even when we're in a relationship, once in awhile. However, you need to make a decision, on whether or not, to act on those feelings. If you haven't dated too much, maybe you should take the time to play the field for awhile, before you settle down. Getting married is a big decision, and some people are just not ready, when they think they are. Just because you had a child with the guy, doesn't mean that you have to marry him right away. Just what ever you choose to do, be honest with your fiance, and let him know how you feel. Good luck to you all.

Answer 3

Maybe there is something about your finance's friend that you feel you're missing in your relationship. Perhaps the friend has different interests that you find attractive. You should explore why you are attracted to him. Maybe the friend has a quality that your fiance doesn't have and you don't want to live the rest of your life without. I'm not saying pursue the friend -- I'm saying investigate your own feelings.
It could also be that the friend is exactly (more or less) like your finance and you're just attracted to him because he reminds you of your boyfriend. Basically you need to look inward to answer this question.

Answer 4

what youneed to do is wonder why you feel this way perhaps your husbands friend makes you feel good in some way or your fiance hasnt been doing his part in satisfyiing you if you really cant controll your feelings i suggest seperating a while but dont go right to the other man maybe having time to relly think is all you need but whatever you do think of the impact it will have on the kids don,t do anything that coulld cause them harm i hope i gave you useful advice because thats a tough thing to deal with.

Answer 5

You may not be mature enough to get married so maybe you should just tell your fiance that you are not ready for marriage!!!!!!!!!!! You have to get over the feelings of wanting other people to have a successful marriage so either don't get married or really think about want you want but don't cheat on him that isn't fair to your fiance!

Answer 6

Don't go there, girl. That old saying about 'the grass is greener on the other side of the fence' is just that, an old saying. It ain't true, no sir.
Turn some of that passion toward the man you've got a child with, meet him at the door naked, do something wild, but leave that other guy alone.

Answer 7

Okay...So you love you're fiance but you love someone else? @.@ If you love this man enough to marry him i don't think it's worth leaving him for one of his hott friends that passes by, it's good to be friends, just avoid friends with benefits, just remember your engaged and have a child, it's deciding is it really worth leaving a man you already fell inlove with, for one of his friends?...

Answer 8

I really dont think you are ready to be engaged. If you truely loved your fiance, you would have no desire AT ALL to be with anyone else!!!!!! How would you feel if the situation was reversed and your dude was wanting to test out your best friend. I CANT STAND PEOPLE LIKE YOU!!!!!!!

Answer 9

Does he want u? Is he worth throwing away what u got? How does it affect ur child & how do u raise him between these 2 men? What do u mean by 'u want him bad'. If u mean u want to **** him, then u need to pinch yourself & wake up. What's at stake is more than just a few *****.

Answer 10

it really depends if you want a life with baby daddy. if you don't make your move. when you make your move, it will get back to baby daddy and with one of his friends, you may suffer a lot. one thing I think women fail to realize when they ponder this shyt is that when you have sex for a long period of time with someone, it begins to feel natural like a part of you, you go screwing someone else, it may feel good because you are getting away with something, but when the newness wears off, you will be aching for baby daddy. baby daddy will make you do without. there are lots of older women that don't have regular sex any more for those reasons. it just doesn't feel right to them. so be careful when let that lust take over. know what you are getting yourself in to.