i asked a few questions about cheating b4 and most of u sided with my husband. wat about this? we were talking about the situation(again) and i told him(again) that i didn't think it was a big deal since i only made out with a couple of guys(no sex). he said cheating is cheating. so i said what if it was a couple of girls? he said that was different. that wouldn't have bothered him. wtf?!
2006-06-12 14:40:03 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sorry dummy, that's cheating, and if you don't think it is, would you like him to do what you did?? If so, why are you married????????
2006-06-12 14:44:43 · answer #1 · answered by ladyren 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Cheating is cheating. If you make out with anyone but your husband it is cheating. The fact that he might enjoy you making out with a girl is just his little amendment to cheating - although, like I said - cheating is cheating.
You should talk to your hubby and be honest with him. You both need to figure out whats ok and whats not okay in your relationship. The fact that you made out with other men indicates that there may be problems - why do you want other people besides your husband?
2006-06-12 21:47:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
cheating is cheating!!! Whether you are cheating with a male or female is inconsequential. If you are married, you are violating your vows and the relationship. If you are in a monogamous union, you are violating your union and your self- respect. If you lack such discipline that you must act on every impulse that arises then maybe you might want to consider living the single life a bit longer until you are ready to COMMIT and or settle down. If however, you two have defined your relationship to include outside affairs then you are not really in a relationship to begin with. It is probably a smorgasbord.!
Junadee
2006-06-12 21:48:49 · answer #3 · answered by Junadee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is no different for either one of you in this case. It would be considered cheating on both parts. Did he realize you mean you doing it with the girls or him being the one making out with them. All these would be wrong and considered cheating and i am in no way taking any sides here... Cheating is Cheating no matter who is the one doing it!
2006-06-12 23:01:05 · answer #4 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If both married parties do not agree on the "fling" then it is cheating. I have a couple of married friends that have agreed that they can have others and they are fine with that. Short of having that agreement it does not matter male or female, it is cheating!
2006-06-13 11:26:19 · answer #5 · answered by tailos 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All men have a fantasy of two girls getting it on. Don't ask me why. Your husband is wrong there - it would still be cheating, because it is someone else no matter which sex.
Cheating is cheating, no matter whether you just kiss or actually have sex.
2006-06-12 21:46:08 · answer #6 · answered by Amy D 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Its only different because lesbianism is a fantasy of a lot of men. Its a terrible double standard but that's just how it is.
But dear sharing any intimacies with a man other than your husband is cheating. Sorry.
2006-06-12 21:46:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah, I agree wit ya...wtf? precisely. I think UR kinda lucky as my husband (who's a 54 year old impotent 'control freak'.. controls all the money in the marriage to 'keep me in line' kinda **** goin' down) doesn't even want me like writing in HERE, man.. Thinks some guy might get all 'lusty' and all and track me down up here in Michigan and have his way w/me I guess? lol. Society sux in that it seems to be o.k. for the guys to get with girls but when a woman wants some affection on the side (****, I wish I had some) everyone jumps your ****! I totally agree w/you anyhow.. wtf! later-
2006-06-12 21:54:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is turned on by (a) lesbian love and (b) by the idea of you having a girlfriend. As far as I can see, he has no right to demand that you stay away from other boys. If he complains about you seeing other boys, deal with him! Bring boys home and make out with them in front of him. Don't allow him sex until he stops interfering with your sex life.
2006-06-12 21:51:59 · answer #9 · answered by Monica 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I've heard that some men think it's different because there is nothing they can do to compete with another woman. However, it's a blow to their ego if you are cheating with a man because it means the other man (men) can provide something he couldn't or wouldn't. There are things a female can provide that a man can't regardless of his desire to do so.
2006-06-12 21:45:46 · answer #10 · answered by jd 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either way you look at this, it is cheating. Doesn't sound to me like either one of you were ready for marriage. You don't make out with anyone but your husband.
2006-06-12 21:46:43 · answer #11 · answered by jbpammy004 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋