My best friends brother told me that if he wasn't with his fiance he would be after me. This is the second time he said this. I told my boyfriend and he was very mad because he felt I didnt put the guy in his place for exanple tell him to f... off. I didn't because it wasnt the right place or time his fiance (who is becoming a good friend of mine) was nearby. What should i do about this situation?
2006-06-12 14:13:58 · 25 answers · asked by Den 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I would be honest with him, and let him know that he is making me very uncomfortable by what he is doing, then if he still insists on displaying the same inappropriate behavior, I would let his fiance' know about it.I agree with your boyfriend that you should have let him know on the spot that he is way out of line, but I also understand your discretion, however, your feelings are just as important as everyone else's. So if this person is really bothering you the best way to handle it is to say something yourself, because if your boyfriend says something he may not be as casual about it if you know what I mean.
2006-06-12 14:19:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
The modern cheater, cheats right out in front of their mate. They think, as long as it is in the open, they want get caught, because of the exact same reaction you had. These new cheater people are waaay bold. You have to fight fire with fire. Regardless of where your at when he makes an indecent proposal again, you must be ready for him. Try something like this,...after he says, "lf I wasn't with my fiance I would be after you".....then you tell him "alright, lets just call your fiance and my boyfriend over and lets, let them in on your secret"......and be prepared to actually call out at them, he will play it all the way, hoping you are not going to carry your threat threw. If you have to literally call them, tell the fiance as soon as she gets over to you, what he said, and watch him squirm. These guys prey on the fact that no one would dare cause a public scene. So make sure he gets all the publicity he can, and I bet you will break him very fast.
2006-06-12 21:25:15 · answer #2 · answered by smplyme132 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, tell boyfriend that you can't control another persons action just by being rude to them. Next, dump boyfriend for such juvenile attitudes.
Now, for the friend's brother, remind him that he is engaged and that you are not interested in sharing or being his ' last fling of freedom '. I wouldn't tell the fiance that her future hubby is hitting on you. It would cause a lot of strife. The brother might just be going through some pre marital jitters and this is how its coming out. He might not be serious about it, even if he told you this every day. If you want to be friendly with the future bride, try to do just the girls stuff with her and your friend.
2006-06-12 21:18:26 · answer #3 · answered by yodeladyhoo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kick him in the balls and run and tell the horny mans fiance. This guy and others like him really suck the big one. I cant believe he is about to get married and yet he wants to score with some one else. The guy does not know obviously what the meaning of marriage is and I'm sorry but I don't think this guy will ever. I am getting married August with my fiance and I love her to death. I will respect her till the day I die and will only look to her for love, comfort, and the one and only girl, woman, lady in my life. KICK HIM IN THE NUTS ONE FOR ME PLEASE!!
2006-06-12 21:22:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Calmly explain to your boyfriend that his fiance was nearby, and that if you had told him to #%&* off, you would have gotten on her bad side. If he still stays mad, then tell your best friend's brother that you're not single, that you have a boyfriend, and such talk is inappropriate.
2006-06-12 21:17:20 · answer #5 · answered by The Slingshot Effect 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what needs to happen and tell his fiance.
For one, she has the right the know. And two, this guy is obviously going to cheat on her at some point and it will give her the knowledge she needs to make the right decision - to leave him!
2006-06-12 21:17:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he says something inappropriate to you again you need to call him on it and let him know that you are not interested and you don't want to hear his comments again. You don't need to keep things a secret or be afraid to confront him in public - what he does is wrong and it puts you in a bad place. His fiance has a right to know what he's saying behind her back - so if he says it again around her don't be afraid to be honest about what he's doing.
2006-06-12 21:15:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy is trying to intimidate you. He is a bully. Tell his fiance...maybe she won't believe you at first but when she has been given a hint , about his character...she won't be so gullable. This guy is immoral. Both you and his fiance are in danger from this guy because he obviously doesn't have respect for either of you. You have to tell her.
2006-06-12 21:18:41 · answer #8 · answered by toe poe gee gee oh 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should've told him off in front of his fiance so that she could drop this loser! I think you should tell her! (although she might not believe you) I'd get him to say it again but tape it or something however you do it she deserves to know what kind of man she's really with!
2006-06-12 21:16:30 · answer #9 · answered by MelC 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friends brother is having what is commonly known as "cold feet"...either that...or he likes the chase, it seems marriage won't change him any. What should you do about this situation?...thank your lucky stars your man isn't that shallow. Be thankful for what you got and be there for your friend when she has 2 kids and he's had ANOTHER affair, she'll need you then.
2006-06-12 21:17:24 · answer #10 · answered by carolscreation 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋