The reson I wan to leave is verbal abuse I want to take my chidren with me. What im asking is that if i live with a male friend with my 3 kids will this look bad even if it is not a sexuall relationship. Will this look bad in the courts eyes. I need help and cant afford a place of my owne at the moment.
2006-06-12 14:06:54 · 19 answers · asked by okfy9 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You can make sure that the court knows this friend and you are not involved. Bring the man into court for witness and tell them that you can't afford anything else because your ex is abusive and provides shitty child support.
2006-06-12 14:07:35 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest you going to a homeless shelter, or a woman's shelter they will help you and give you advice the best way they know how and you can stay there until you can make better arrangements, and your husband will not be allowed to be within 200 feet of the place, you will be safe there. the woman's shelter should be in the phone book under Abuse right in the beginning of the book. they will help you and assist you with a lot of the decisions you need to make that is the best bet. do what is best for you and your children..but get out now before things get worse. Best Of Luck!!
2006-06-12 14:11:15 · answer #2 · answered by captures_sunsets 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might look like you are cheating on your husband and if he gets a good lawyer they may use it against you. If the verbal abuse is so bad you have to get out then you need to go - and when you leave get in touch with a lawyer and tell him your situation. Does your friend have ample room for you and your kids - where you would have your own room?
Have you talked to your husband about how you feel and how his actions are affecting you? Have you tried going to marriage counseling to work out your differences?
If you have to, then stay with your friend if you have no choice. If you are in danger your first priority should be you and your kids.
2006-06-12 14:08:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you are leaving due to abuse the appropriate place is a womens shelter for you and the kids,, call your local sheriffs dept.
If your not able to make it on your own the place you can get help being able to learn to make it on your own is with counseling and safety at a shelter. Taking your kids to a guys house isnt' the best way,, either go to your family or the shelter.
2006-06-12 14:13:35 · answer #4 · answered by yeller 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutly not. Explain that u did what u had to do to get out of an abusive relationship and acually I dont even think that u would have to exsplain yourself like that as long as its a safe enviroment 4 the kids
2006-06-13 11:30:08 · answer #5 · answered by jp5150 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it dont look bad you would be lucky to have a friend offer to help.If the courts see it is wrong well the system needs to change because the system is wrong.Some people are not as lucky to have a friend to help.You could also try a womens shelter if you are so concerned over the matter either way if your're not happy leave because the kids wont be happy otherwise & kids are the most important thing.Good luck please let me know
2006-06-12 14:13:30 · answer #6 · answered by vic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will be fine there. keep everything above board and noone will think anything they shouldn't. It is far more important that you and your kids get out from under an abussive spouse.This sort of abuse is very damaging and spreads not just to you but to your kids. You do not deserve to live like this. You deserve a peacful non threatening place for you and your kids. Good luck and god speed.
2006-06-12 14:12:59 · answer #7 · answered by Riki 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you live in the US or Canada? if yes, then i have two words for you, Woman-care shelter. go talk to them. first. don't trade down. and most of all consider the kids. you can always jump and run, but what about them? also, your statement "not a sexual relationship," seems implausible. what does he get out of it?
i wish you all the best whatever you decide. good luck.
2006-06-12 14:24:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it looks bad, in my state of Va. if you spend as little as 1/2 hour, that's adultery, if u have the time to do they assume u did, you need to check the laws, and why dont u have a female friend to stay with, that doesnt sound right, that a man is the only friend u have is a man
2006-06-12 15:04:14 · answer #9 · answered by charlesjerrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it will look bad. But at this point in time you have a responibility to take care of your children and get them out of a bad situation. Not to mention yourself. Do everything else by the book, meaning, take notes of dates(when you leave) and anything else that may happen, how he treats you when you leave, threats or whatever. You owe it to yourself and your kids. do what you have to do. period.
2006-06-12 14:17:26 · answer #10 · answered by kiss me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋