My daughter is 13, but tiny for her age. However she has seemed to be growing farther away from me. She is being more quiet at home. I understand that its probley just that age but i dont want it to get worse. We both used to be so close....
Is this somthing I should be worried about?
...or possibly a symptom of PMS? Lol....
-Thanks
2006-06-12 13:43:58 · 17 answers · asked by Krissa D 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
She might just be starting that teenage behavior where teens start sharing more with their friends than with their parents. Either that or maybe your daughter is having some problems at school, or having some emotional problems - maybe problems with friends.
Just talk to her and let her know that you have noticed her behavior change and want to know if everything is ok. Let her know that you are there for her no matter what it is. Try doing things with her when you can - whatever it is you both like to do together. Do small things to help keep your relationship with your daughter open and flowing. Stay a part of her life - don't be one of those parents that backs off completely to give her "space" - my mom did that and it was the worst move she ever made. Kids need their parents.
2006-06-12 13:48:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you have much to worry about. I'm 24 now, and I remember clearly how I felt at 13. Friends came before family and anything my parents said to me was annoying, I would talk back or even yell at them to leave me alone at times when it got bad. Some of my friends were that way too. Just continue doing what you're suppose to as a parent and she'll grow out of it in a few years. Puberty is a strange phase, she's just going through changes.
I don't think you should take your attention away from her either because the both of you might get used to the distance and the bond will weaken. Go shopping together and make sure she still knows who's in charge. Talk to her about what's going on ...maybe it might be about a boy?
2006-06-12 20:53:52 · answer #2 · answered by x68ioweu1x 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to the teen yrs! There is no rollercoaster more scary for parents! As for the advice of snooping, DON'T DO IT!!! Especially if you have always had a good relationship with her, because it will only alienate her futher when she finds out, and she will find out. There are lots of other ways to know what is going on in her life with out being ugly and causing a rift. The best advice I was given was to set her down and tell her that you realize that she is growing up, and changing on a daily basis, that you love her, and that you are here for her whenever she needs you, and that you don't want to be pushy or nosey or the psycho mom, but things are going to be weird for her and you just want to help when ever you can. Make sure that you open up the lines of communication and keep them open. As long as she feels she can talk to you, without you getting bent out of shape about things she will be more likely to talk to you. For a while my son and I left eachother notes when he had serious questions, he just felt that it was less embarrasing and confrontational. Just be patient mom, this too shall pass. But there may be some bumps in the road. Good luck hun.
2006-06-12 21:16:44 · answer #3 · answered by suequek 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is nothing that every mother, and daughter at age 13 don't go through. This is her time to find out who SHE is on her own. Be there for her, be supportive and involved when you can, yet still allow her personal space. Allow her to find out who she is, what kind of people she wants to be around, and how she wants to start to "flower" as a young woman, no longer a little girl. Trust her and things will go just fine, and you'll find that as she ages, she'll be closer to you more and more. She needs this, and as a mother...YOU need this.
2006-06-12 20:50:07 · answer #4 · answered by silvlply_lvle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im 14 and she is growing up and needs to be with her friends and probably boyfriends more and expirence life away for awhile, take her shopping if she is a girly girl but let her hav freedom, always support her in sports and compliments are always nice, my mom never compliments me and only tewlls me what is wrong with me, she will lov hearing she is pretty or has a good hair do !
2006-06-12 20:48:11 · answer #5 · answered by soccersweetie982005 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As kids move into their teen years they need to gain their independence. I always like the image of parents as the dock, or safe harbor, and kids are the boats, they need to go out on their own and find their own way, but you will always be a steady presence there for them.
Give her her space, but don't stop letting her know you are there for her. I always emphasize to my kids that they can always come to me with anything.
2006-06-12 20:50:47 · answer #6 · answered by keri gee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In general its normal for girls that age, she's just become a teenager. However, it can also be a sign of troubles outside of the home.
2006-06-12 20:45:51 · answer #7 · answered by lettuceisgreen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At this age most teens think they're old enough to handle themselves but it could also be she's having problems with something else and she's afraid to tell you. Talk to her be gentle and supportive because if you get rough with her she won't be open with you again.
2006-06-12 20:49:39 · answer #8 · answered by kimmie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's called a teenager. They know everything and their parents are complete dolts. When she reaches her 20's, she will come to her senses. Keep the rules simple and solid between you and your husband during this time.
2006-06-12 20:48:02 · answer #9 · answered by Pancakes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its called rebellion that's what we teens do were quiet at home and a monster w/ are friends are there any other sings like dearest, than get it check out have a talk w/ her that's! kids start to get closer to the same sex parent as them! i learned that from Doctor Phil lol
im like that i quit around the house but i also have adhd and i clam im the moring and at night so..............................
2006-06-12 20:50:17 · answer #10 · answered by hunter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋