How do i forget about my ex-husband who went out on me and move on and trust someone new??

Answer 1

You just do it, honey. We are pre-programmed to want to be with someone....it is just natural to wish to be partnered. If you teeth aren't pretty, see the best cosmetic dentist in your area, if you are overweight, loose it. Buy some great clothes, have a teriffic photo taken, spend some bucks on yourself, and put up a personal ad on Yahoo and Match.com. All this has happened to others, before it has happened to you. In our busy world, this is the modern way to meet people who are sorta "pre-selected" according to things important to you in a mate. This is not to say that internet dating is safest -- there could be a nut beside you in church. Use common sense, and you'd be surprised who you will find.

Answer 2

For some people, time is the only healer. For others, a new relationship does help. Some people use professional counseling to help, and others simply join a group of others who have had the same experiences because sometimes just talking about it helps. I have been there and for me, time and talking to others is what worked. In the back of your mind when you enter a new relationship, you will always more cautious, but that's not a bad thing either. It took me 5 years after my divorce but I found a wonderful man the second time around and we've been married for 16 years now and I've never been happier. As for the trust issue, I have decided to be realistic in knowing that the unexpected could happen to anyone at any time, but it doesn't help to worry about what could happen. Just move on and enjoy life and remember that all of your experiences, good and bad, make you who you are and just be stronger and smarter for the experience. Don't give up on being happy ever. There are a lot of good guys out there who don't cheat. Best wishes to you. It will get better if you keep your heart open to what's ahead.

Answer 3

It is going to take some time to get past that. You will never forget what happened but you can get past it by doing more positive things. Its hard to trust someone after they have broken trust with you. I know this from experience. I think time is the best healer. I say have a good support system like friends and family. Talk to them about your feelings. Your friends can help build your self esteem and confidence and I think that sometimes help raise your confidence as a person to other things. Its a matter of healing and building that trust up and the best place to start is with yourself. Its hard to pick up the pieces and move on from a painful experience so make sure you have people who love and support you help you heal. Just have patience and you will find yourself getting more confident to trust again.

Answer 4

I felt the same. I thought I could never love again. For me it was the end of the world. He ex-husband threw me out of the house in midnight with my two kids in December and showed up with some older lady but I went to a shelter and they did alot of talking to me. It work now that he tries to go back I dont feel a thing for him. It took me 5 yrs and one simple night followed with counseling and a new guy. I did not look for him he saw me outside my apartment and after him wanting to talk to me for weeks finally I gave it a chance and finally without me knowing I was in love more than ever. So dont look just wait for when it comes your way. But remember no matter how long it last a little or a life time. Cherish every moment. Its not easy but one day you wont feel a thing for him. And you wont be able to know how it happened. Best wishes for you.

Answer 5

its time to clean house .throw all of his stuff out buy new bedding and make your self a great dinner.also remember you will always love some one but when someone break trust that is a main ingredients in love also you must for give yourself then forgive him then you will be able to move on and dont play the what if game .you are better then that and deserve a lot more good luck as they say one day at a time

Answer 6

Sweetie, you and I are in the same boat (almost..mine left a note and walked out). I can only tell you what has helped me. Stay busy, busy, busy. Don't stay in your house and dwell, I know it is so easy to do that, but don't. Start taking a walk at night, organize your closet, clean out your pantry, start exercising. I know it sounds silly, but keeping busy is the key. Just remember to take one day at a time. Don't think about tomorrow, today is here....just get through today. As for trust, that's a limb we all crawl out on in ANY relationship. Don't rush yourself. I'm doing counseling, which I would highly recommend, it's helped me a LOT. I wish you all the best. You CAN go on with your life, you are worth going on with your life. Let the bimbo he moved on with wash his dirty underwear now.

Answer 7

by letting go and excepting what happened. keep positive thoughts and keep reassuring yourself that the whole world isn't full of untrustworthy people. your intuition will play a huge part here if you truly listen. trust is a hard call on any level. sometimes you just got to throw caution to the wind and see what comes back. i always start trust with something little. good luck

Answer 8

If you can't work through your feelings yourself and trust people, you could probably benefit a lot from counseling. Counseling will help you make sense of what has happened and help you work through the pain and trust issues that you've been having.

Answer 9

The best advise for you and everyone else that is in your situation at the moment, it to remember THE NEXT PERSON IN YOUR LIFE WAS NOT YOUR LAST . Don't ever compare what your ex did, and don't hold what he did against the new one.

Time heals all wounds.

Answer 10

I suggest surfing www.divorcecare.org and finding a group near you. They offer help with learning to cope with your loss, finances, emotions and kids as well as how to safely start dating again.
Besides, the people there are a good support group once a week while your getting through it.
Trust with anyone takes time, so when you first start dating, give it time.
Best wishes.