i feel lonely?

Question

when evrybody find out im bi everybody is going to hate me.help please

Answer 1

Not everyone is going to hate you, sweetie. Surely you know that! You might be suprised. I thought the same thing when I came out as a lesbian. I was soooooo pleasantly suprised! Mind you, there were people who did have a problem with it...but it either got resolved or I let them go about their merry, negative way. \

Keep positive people around you. Start by telling someone you know has a really big chance of being supportive. You can do this, and I know everyone is not going to hate you.

Answer 2

If you are not ready to come out, don't. There is no pressure to do so. And when you feel you are ready, first tell the people you think would be the most tolerating and understanding. To be honest, most people are a lot more tolerant these days and it is highly unlikely that "everybody will hate you." In fact, some people may respect you for being open with them. Your coming out will be a true test of friendship/kinship. When I first came out to my family and friends, they were shocked and confused, but they were far from hating me. It was just hard for them to understand but after I spoke with them they were very supportive, even though some of them didn't necessarily agree with what I was doing. Trust me, it will be a load off your shoulders! And if you think about it, would you really want to have friends that could not accept you for who you are? If they cannot handle your coming out, then the more power to you. You don't need people who will bring you down. So when you feel your ready to come out, when you are emotionally stable, hold your head up high and don't let them bring you down. You are who you are, be proud :)
"Be who you are, and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind."-Dr.Seuss

Answer 3

You will probably feel isolated from a few people, but there will be some people that love you even more (maybe even a very special guy or gal!). I recently found a wonderful book that is great to let you know that you are not alone. It is called "Bi Any Other Name". My bi partner is also going to read it because we don't know too many other bi people and are interested in hearing their stories.

Answer 4

Everyone won't hate you, but it is a tough time in your life. You don't have to tell anyone you don't want to tell.

I would only tell people you trust and know love you no matter what. There is surely someone in your life like that. Start there. You don't have to tell everyone.

As more time passes, you will not want to be around people who would hate you for that reason. I think you would be surprised by some people. I was surprised by my family's reaction to me being gay. Although some of them still have a problem with it, I just don't associate with them because they bring negativity into my life. I did enough of that on my own because of how other's made me feel. I've learned not to do that, and so will you.

I bet you are a great kid! I like you already.

Answer 5

how can you be sure of that? you can't, you can never really know how ppl will react. what I think is that the ones who really care for you would not leave you or hate you. is your sexuality so important for them? believe me, if you have REALY friends they're not going to hate you. it may be a bit different to talk about parents/family. I know from my own ecperience tat they may surprise you - in both negative and positive way. they can reject you, they can try to persuade you to change this idea, they may say that you're destroying your life by such choice, but in the other hand they can be supportive, they can accept you the way you are, they may say that it's your life and your decisions.
don't you have any person who you blindly trust and are quite sure tha this person won't leave/hate you? talk with the person, it's really good if you have someone to share your worries with.
if you don't have anyone to talk with you may contact me if you want. I wish you good luck!!
are you sure you wanna come out? sometimes it's better to keep things a secret, at least from some ppl..

Answer 6

I know this can be really scary, but it's going to be ok. People do have a lot of sterotypes for bisexuals. Straight people think bisexuals are just curious and gay/lesbian people think they don’t want to say their gay/lesbian, which is untrue. (That doesn’t count for all straight/gay/lesbian people, it’s only a common bad reaction bisexuals get.) Bi people are in a group all there own, and very sure they could love either a girl or guy.

There are resources that can help you and you could find a local GLBTQ group in your area so you have someone to talk to about it. You are not alone in this. There are other bi girls and they care.
http://www.bialogue.org/index.html
http://www.youthresource.com/

Answer 7

Everybody will not hate you. I can promise you that.

The number of people who will hate you will be MUCH MUCH smaller then the number who will just get all weird and uncomfortable around you. And the number of people who get weird and uncomfortable will be MUCH MUCH less then the number who will be just fine. And the number of people who will be just fine will pale in comparison to the vast hordes who will want to tell you about their bisexuality... in gross detail.

Seriously dude, people tell me the weirdest sh*t. And its almost everybody... everyone wants to share their own little bi moments... they got drunk and made out with a girl at the bar... they've always been curious... they used to fool around with their roommate... they enjoy gay porn... they've always wondered.... sweet muscular christ! It never stops. Trust me, you'll never feel alone again. You'll just feel bad for all the closet cases that don't come out already.

Answer 8

The people who will hate you aren't worth your time to begin with. Find some GLBT groups and make some friends there, that way, when you come out, you'll have friends to support you in case of any fallout.

Answer 9

I think you are being to hard on yourself. People are more open minded these days. Be proud of yourself for knowing who you are. As you grow older you will find true friends and have fun, new relationships!

Answer 10

You will find out that the people that love you will stand by your side and love you for the person you are. Stay strong and keep your head up.