well when i was in the second grade a long time ago i had a best friend named Josh. We did everything together like bonnie and clyde. You couldn't seperate us for nothing. Then about 3 years later i had to move away. Then he moved and we lost contact for about 7 years. Now were in the 11th grade and both 17. I mean i never ever once forgot about him and would think of him all the time. I finally had found him on my space and sent him a message with my number in it to call me. The thing is thats been about two months and all he did was message me. I told him to call me over and over agin but he still hasn't. Does this mean he doesn't care about what we had. Do u think i should just call him. Cuz my friend that knows him could give me his number. But i would really want him to call me. What should i do? And do you think he cares?
2006-06-12 13:12:11 · 4 answers · asked by T.White 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Well, it has been a long time. And you guys were pretty young. I think you need to give him some space. You told him how to reach you, so there isn't much you can do....without looking like a stalker. Maybe he has changed as a person...maybe he doesn't think you'll like the new him....or the answer you don't want to hear....maybe he really doesn't care. Maybe he thinks that was part of his childhood and that's that.
Don't continue to chase him. It will just make him slide further away. I'm sure your friendship was wonderful and could be again...if he shows any interest. And if he doesn't, I'm sure it has nothing to do with you, and everything to do with him.
2006-06-12 13:17:14 · answer #1 · answered by Autumn BrighTree 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't really assume anyone's feelings because odds are you are going to assume the wrong thing. There is no harm in calling him and letting him know you wanna talk or hang out. But, be prepared if he isn't interested in you as a friend or more. If you've left him tons of messages to call you - either he is trying to tell you that he isn't interested or he hasn't been on his computer much.
There is nothing wrong with calling him, but just be prepared that there is a 50% chance he might not be interested.
2006-06-12 13:24:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not to sound mean or anything but maybe he'd rather just keep your relationship on myspace...he might feel like talking to you on the phone might lead to wanting to hang out in person...maybe he has a girlfriend and he knows she might not be comfortable knowing he's talking to a girl from t he past (friend or girlfriend). people change and as much each of us would like to recreate or relive the past, sometimes the other party doesn't feel the same...it sad but people are different and sometimes things can't be explained...i had a friend do that to me as well. so after awhile i just stopped trying to contact her and invite to do things with me and now when i see her she's always trying to talk to me like nothing and i talk to her back all sweet and everything but keep my distance because I'd rather not start the trying to initiating activities together again just so that she can ignore me..and now I'm over it and I'm fine...
2006-06-12 13:22:50 · answer #3 · answered by Andy and Amy G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might be a totally different person that what you remember, because a lot of time has passed. He might remember your childhood in a good way, but not be interested in picking it up again. That sounds that way to me, because he hasn't called. I wouldn't stalk him by trying to get his number. Even if you did talk to him you might be disappointed in how he is now. I would just leave it.
2006-06-12 13:25:09 · answer #4 · answered by daisy519 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋