My 16 year old stepson is a good kid but he is such a smart *** at times I get on to him and my husband gets pissed off. I have had it with the smartass remarks and all and I feel like this is my house and when he visits hes should have more respect for me am I wrong or what!!!!
2006-06-12 12:50:26 · 9 answers · asked by IMSOINLOVEWITHYOU 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
This is such a hard thing to deal with. If the step children live with you daily it is easier but when they only visit it is so difficult. The father does not want to be the bad guy when he is not with them daily so they get away with more. Also the rules they are used to at home are not the same as in your home and it is hard for them to adjust or they use that as an excuse. My ex-husband and I had many fights concerning this. When his kids came to visit they should be held to the same standards my children were held to daily but he did not see it that way. Also when he was around his daughter was good but when he left for work she became the devil on earth. But if I told him he felt I was being too harsh. I wanted to set up a camera so he could see but never did. As an adult, you deserve respect from anyone who steps foot in your house. Demand it and tell your husband that you expect him to help you enforce it. If he can not do this you have serious problems. A family counselor told us that we had to put one another before our kids or we would never make it. He finally kicked me out - I guess we now know his priorities. Priorities should be God, husband, children, other family, and so on. Good luck and I will keep you in my prayers.
2006-06-12 12:58:22 · answer #1 · answered by Toni 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
no no no you are totally right. almost in a similar situation with a step son 17 & step daughter 16. unfortunally it seems that both our men dont seem to listen cuz i have the same problem. i just keep telling my self 1-2 more yrs
2006-06-12 12:54:57 · answer #2 · answered by browneyedgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should respect you, but your husband is the one that has to enforce the rules of how he speaks to you.
You can't make the kid respect you, respect is something you earn.
Remember your vows, when you married this man you knew he had kids and they are his to correct.
2006-06-12 12:53:38 · answer #3 · answered by yeller 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say just deal with it. It's not like he lives with you and if he's 16 theres really no changing the way he is now.
2006-06-12 12:58:02 · answer #4 · answered by cindos_69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's 16, what do you expect. One day he will be a man and cut this **** out.
Ask him to stop because it hurts you.
If he doesnt listen...dont cook or clean his clothes! for a while until he gets the hint!
2006-06-12 12:53:56 · answer #5 · answered by cheesytwist 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i believe it is your husbands responsibility to enforce the rules and ensure that his son respects you! i struggle with almost the same issue, I am a stepdad with 14yo daughter. at times she has been disrespectful to me as well.. i speak to my wife about it and she talks to her...also i speak to my daughter about it to let her know how it makes me feel (especially when my daughter asks me for something or wants me to do something for her and i REALLY dont want to do it because of how she disrespected me previously) i tell her that its a 2 way street...
what also helps me is reminding myself that i was once a teenager...
2006-06-12 13:02:23 · answer #6 · answered by heresthedeal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you take him the wrong way. It could just be his sense of humor. Just another way to look at it.
2006-06-12 13:07:25 · answer #7 · answered by Mrs.King 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may not like the fac t you took his real mother's place
2006-06-12 12:59:16 · answer #8 · answered by c1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him a dose of his own medicine. I bet he'll cut that crap out real quick.
2006-06-12 12:53:12 · answer #9 · answered by Leslie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋