My husband was previously married in the Catholic church.
He has two children with his ex-wife. Since their divorce and our wedding, people continue to think of them as a couple. Why does a second wife get no recognition? His family and friends still refer to her as his wife. Does a second wife ever get status or respect?
2006-06-12 12:50:23 · 6 answers · asked by amar sin mentiras 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We appear invisible to those who still like the Ex. Although they divorce legally, some family members, never recognize the marriage as over. They tend to want to blame us as if we caused it or better yet, prevented them from getting back to gether in the future. The only guarantee for status and respect, is to give the family time to know you. If you and your husband have children, some times that helps to bond everyone together. I am not telling you to get pregnant, I am just mentioning how status sometimes comes around. There are us 2nd wife's, that spend 25 years with the son, and the Ex's marriage only lasted 1-7 years, and they still never see us over the original Mrs.!!! You can't let that bog you down, you have to raise above it. Not an easy thing to do, but is do- able. As long as your husband supports you, respects you, and loves you till death do you part, then its the in-laws loss for never giving you a chance.
2006-06-12 14:46:40 · answer #1 · answered by smplyme132 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm curious as to how long you two were together before you got married. Did his friends and family get time to realize he was divorced before you came into the picture. Perhaps they think you are the mother of the kids?
It must be very hard for you to deal with this. I'm sorry to hear it's happening. I'm not sure what you can do to set them straight.
2006-06-12 12:56:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a second wife, I can assure you...NOT...lol But so long as your #1 to your husband..is all that really matters, but no, have never been accepted, by his family, courts, government...irs...I just don't exist...neither does our son we've had together...but OH WELL...we're a happy family, without any of the rest of them, and wouldn't have it any other way!! I feel your dilema though.
2006-06-12 13:09:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds more like a lack of respect from his family, and doesn't really relate to the rest of the world as a whole. Speak up and demand some respect.
2006-06-12 12:56:40 · answer #4 · answered by opticalnoise 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My second wife was the love of my life. She's the one that my family thnks of when I say 'my ex'.
I'm just sorry I screwed up so bad when I was with her. I miss her so much more than my first ex.
2006-06-12 12:57:41 · answer #5 · answered by DW 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course, I'm the third wife and my hubby's family LOVES me more than the two before me. The first two never existed as long as theyr'e concerned.
2006-06-12 13:37:11 · answer #6 · answered by Common_Sense2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋