I caught my wife having an online sexual conversation with some one she used to go to HS with. The bad thing is that she also sent him a pic of her Vagina. She tells me that she is sorry that she sent the pic, and that it will never happen again. I have always trusted her 100% but this has put a real strain on my trust for her. I love her to death and believe her when she says she never meant to hurt me. (But again thats after the fact) and I dont know if she would have keep this up. Because she had taken another pic for Him but says she never gave it to him because she felt bad about what she had done.
I just would like some insite into what I should do. I am currently going to give her another chance and hope I dont get burned.
2006-06-12 12:47:00 · 11 answers · asked by Monty7 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Consider this the wake up call. You can get over it but you really need to get a couple of items straight. She needs to tell you what the hell she was thinking. Why did this happen? Do not let her blame you. If you were to blame she would have been looking for something from you much sooner. She needs to also define what changes she's making to stop it from happening again. Be glad that it was photos and not swapping fluids. It was poor judgment and intent but not full out cheating. Keep a close monitor on her actions and whereabouts for a time. Eventually you'll feel comfortable with her again. She may protest about your keeping tabs but you have good reason to. And yes it can work and does afterward.
I see that I'm in the minority here, but them I am proof that you can forgive and move on. That was 25 years ago and we're still married.
2006-06-12 13:07:25 · answer #1 · answered by Flagger 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yep, the computer should be gone. And if he lives near you, so should she be.
Sorry, been there, done that, burned the T-shirt. Got left with 10k in bills because my ex-husband of 15 years started up with an old high school crush that he met again at his 20th reunion.. problem is, she was in Milwaukee, we were in Texas. All those "golf trips" weren't golf after all.... "sigh".
You know that old saying... where there's smoke, there's fire. Separation, counseling, you need all of that. If it's meant to be, it'll be. No time like now to find out for sure, and a marriage of mistrust will be terrible for both of you.
Good luck. I feel terrible for you.
2006-06-12 13:03:21 · answer #2 · answered by Twightlight T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry, I do not mean to disrespect you in any way but what your wife did was very slutty...I would never even think about doing something like that. That is what I call a whore. Sorry. In my opinion she doesn't deserve another chance and if I did that to my boyfriend I wouldn't expect another chance...I would walk away with my head down in shame.
2006-06-12 13:00:13 · answer #3 · answered by Isabella's Mommy Expecting #2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My brother used to be with a girl that done that. he never found out though till after she left him. she would always chat on the internet with guys and print out pictures. I think if people are married or with someone and truly love them they would not be on chat to begin with. it just leads to trouble. there is always going to be a question in the back of your head, "Is she going to do it again"? I think it is best to ask her whats more important you or the chat. If she picks you maybe you could tell her to stay off the chat for a while. It might make you feel little more confident if she wasn't on it!
2006-06-12 13:01:09 · answer #4 · answered by blondie12405 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
obviously you can't trust her in that situation, i mean if she sent a picture of her vagina then that is seriously messed up to do in ones relationship to do like that. break up get on with life, if she loved you that wouldn't have happened in the first place. there is someone out there that will be better for you.
p.s. your going to get burned again if something like that has happened.
2006-06-12 12:56:38 · answer #5 · answered by hoh_man 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her a chance, but not by staying with her!!! she needs to know your worth.. Tell her you need a trial seperation.....and DO leave!!!
stay away for a couple of weeks...that should show her what you mean to her, and trust me....if she loves you back.....she would never, ever do something like that again! Good luck
2006-06-12 12:54:08 · answer #6 · answered by xqueenyx 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow. you are so sweet. But kinda dumb. I wish you would get a better girlfriend. No onwe who really loved their boyfriend would send a pic of their pink to some other guy. This makes me sad for you. Good luck.
2006-06-12 12:54:34 · answer #7 · answered by kw11 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do believe its time to take the puter out of the house and seek some counseling together.
2006-06-12 12:50:30 · answer #8 · answered by yeller 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to move on from her. Once a cheater, always a cheater. She did it once, she'll do it again.........it's just a matter of time! You are better than that! Move on!
2006-06-12 13:00:11 · answer #9 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, your in big trouble. throw away your computer, go to counseling, and pray it works out.
2006-06-12 12:51:55 · answer #10 · answered by hermanalfred 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋