if im not fat y do ppl makefun of me?

Question

OK I LOVE TO SWIM AND HANG OUT AT THE PUBLIC POOL BUT THERE R THESE BOYS THAT LAUGH AT ME CUZ IM "4 TIMES THEIR SIZE" AND THEN ALL KINDS OF PPL TELL ME THAT PPL AT MY SKOOL CALL ME FAT AND CHUNKY AND STUFF AND MY FRIENDS TELL ME IM NOT FAT BUT WHEN I LOOK IN THE MIRROR ALL I SEE IS A 5`9 150 LBS COW I WEAR A TEE SHIRT OVER MY SWIM SUIT NOW TO HIDE MY WEIGHT IM 13 YEARS OLD AND IM SO SICK OF CRYING CXAUSE PPL CALL ME FAT I ACTUALLY MADE MYSELF PUKE AFTER I ATE (JUST FOR 1 DAY A LONG TIME AGO) CAUSE IM JUST SO INSECURE NOW

Answer 1

your not fat for your height but you are tall
hit in the head next time they call you fat

Answer 2

You are not fat, 5'9 and 150lbs is not fat. I can understand your pain, a young girl and people making fun of you. All I can say is stay strong, believe me life will get better. The people saying things about you are nothing but morons. If they get a rise out of you then they will keep being mean, never show your anger and never let them see your cry.

I have been there sweetie, you will grow into your own. You will things will fall into place. Most kids make fun of others because they are insecure about themselves, remember that. Don't ever resort to puking you will only end up hurting yourself. 13 years old is such a rough time, just be yourself. Everyone is not a size zero, that is such a myth, and an unrealistic goal for most. Enjoy your life and NEVER let anyone dis you! Look into the mirror and see a beautiful young girl, don't worry about the negatives always see your positives, focus on them. You will be wonderful in your life.

Take care.

Answer 3

5'9" and 150 pounds is NOT fat!!
If those are your actual measurements, you are taller than the average 13 year old, but NOT overweight!!
You are also at the age where the girls are taller than boys, but they'll catch up within a couple years.

Your body is on the verge of some major changes, so doing something drastic like developing anorexia/bulemia now could have LIFELONG consequences.

Unfortunately, you are at an age when "fitting in" is deemed important, and kids can be cruel to those who are different in any way - even though you are healthy and normal.

The key here is to realize that you are beautiful inside and out - and you are exactly how you were meant to be. It's good that you are active -- keep it up! Professional swimmers are often tall, as are tennis, volleyball, and of course, basketball players; not to mention models...

So look to your role models: Venus and Serena Williams, Tyra Banks, and Lisa Leslie for example. I am sure that these women felt awkward when they were 13, but look at how they have gone on to live their lives with dignity and to make what seems like a weakness at 13 into a strength.

If you want to tone your body and learn to be more graceful, take some dance classes or yoga or Pilates. These are good exercises at your age and will help your coordination (if you feel awkward) and tone your muscles so you won't feel as self-conscious.

Drink plenty of water and eat a variety of different things. The more any food has been processed, the less healthy it is, so keep that in mind when making choices. Stay away from junk food, or at least learn to limit the portions (for example: get the kiddie meal instead of the combo/value meal and give the toy to a little kid and make his/her day).

I'm listing some links below as resources for you to learn more about what is a healthy weight for your height and age, and other body-image resources. You have nothing to be ashamed of; so hold your head high and be proud of yourself!

Answer 4

People make fun of people who make them feel inferior. At 5'9 and 150 pounds you're in your ideal weight range (even a little on the lean size of that).

I can tell you from personal experience (I got my woman's body at 12) that boys make fun of girls they really want to date but think they have no chance of getting with. It makes them feel better because then they're the one rejecting you instead of you rejecting them. Trust me on this--I'm almost 30 now and I've had some former highschool guys tell me that the reason they were so mean to me was because they wanted to date me.

That doesn't change the way it makes you feel, I know. It still hurts. The best way I found to deal with it is to not let them know it's working. Not that I recommend this as a life skill, but if you start insulting them back pretty soon they'll stop doing it to your face. Then when people come to tell you what other people are saying about you, tell them to go take a hike because you don't care about people with such poor taste. The key is to get them to stop talking where you can hear it.

The next thing you need to do is say something nice about yourself every day when you look in the mirror. You won't believe it at first--but honey, if you are 5'9 and 150 I will tell you for sure that you are some goddess--and other boys are thinking about how hot you are. Once they realize you aren't going to srivel up and die because of the insults, they'll give up and start asking for your phone number.

Answer 5

well I know how you feel. I have been made fun of since I was in third grade. and 150 and 5"9" thats not bad at all. you weigh what I wish I did. Maybe they are just insecure about themselves. I know how it feels to be bulemic, and anorexic. I did that and lost 40 pounds in one month. If you don't like your weight, just go on a healthy diet. It will take a while for the results but in the end you will feel good because you achieved your goal the right way. :) I hope that you can get through peoples cruelty, and trust me I know it is very hard. I'm sorry to hear that someone goes through what I had to. But it will get better :D

Answer 6

You are not fat darling. You shouldn't let what other's say make you feel insecure about yourself. Sometimes people like to make fun of others because it puts them in a higher place and makes them feel better about themselves. I used to get called fat and chunky all the time but I am 5 feet tall and I used to weight 150. I got tired of being called fat so I started working out all the time and now i weigh 103 and everyone that put me down really regrets it because I bloomed. If you are really insecure about yourself then maybe you should work out and acheive the dream body that you want but do it for yourself and not for other people. Bulimia and anorexia are not the way to go though. Those diseases just cause more complications and when you stop then you will double your weight gain. Don't let someone's immaturity make you feel down about yourself. Its not worth it. You are fine the way you are.

Answer 7

If you are 5'9 and 150 pounds you are far from fat. You are healthy and don't let people tell you otherwise. At your age your peers are gonna think that the women they see in magazines and on TV are the perfect women. These people are rare, that is why they are on TV. The average size for a female in the USA is size 14. That is average.You are tall for your age and that is probably why they think you are "4 times their size" so please don't let these individuals bring you down or doubt yourself. Please don't puke or be insecure because of the few ignorant people who decide to act like idiots. You are actually on the thin side probably. You will find as you get older that boys/men actually prefer a girl/woman with a little substance to them. Ignore these people and learn to feel good about yourself. Be proud of your height and the fact that your are not a beanpole. Who wants to look like they are about to die of starvation anyway? I bet your are very beautiful and remember if it is any girls teasing you they are doing it out of jealousy and the boys probably feel insecure because they are short little things and you are tall and beautiful, and they wish they were as tall as you. They are the ones insecure that is why they feel it necessary to tease you. Ignore them.

Answer 8

You are not fat. However, even if you were fat, you have a right to attend school or the pool (or anywhere else) without being insulted. Either ignore them (meaning don't take anything they say seriously or let it hurt you - this is very hard to do) or report them to someone at school who can help control their behavior. You have a right to be there and you should not have to live in fear of being degraded all the time.

Look up "school bullies" on the internet. There are plenty of resouces out there.

BTW, typing in all caps is difficult to read and it denotes "yelling" on the net.

Answer 9

Oh my gosh!! No, don't do that to yourself! 150 lbs. for a height of 5'9" is HEALTHY! Kids are so mean and look for anything to tease people about. There was another 13 year old on here complaining about how kids in school made fun of her for her last name.
If you feel fine with how you look, then you don't need to do anything. If, however, YOU, feel like you'd like to be more fit then do it. =) Are there any physical activities that you enjoy doing? Dancing? Walking? No matter what though, realize who you are. Don't see yourself throught the eyes of others. That will only mess you up.

Answer 10

Oh honey give it time!! You are model height at 5'9"! Everyone is looking at you because you stand out! Its a good thing. Ok, the chuck will move upward to your breasts "the girls" as they are called now a days! And I'm at 168 lbs. but only 5'2" so I AM fat. Your weight is going to mellow out, don't stress. 150 is fine for your height. And tell these bozo's that muscle weighs more than fat! You are only 13 and already 5'9". Lets get you some professional modeling consultation TODAY! They are going to be all over your 5'9" frame and make you a star, no joke!

Use Mary Kay skin Cleanser III (called "cleanser three") for any breakouts and pimples. The Mary Kay toner for Oily Skin will keep you clean and clear! After getting started your face might break out a bit more, that's ok, that is the Cleanser acting to cleanse away the icky oily junk! I used to have a LOT of pimples and once I found the cleanser and toner by Mary Kay I have had a clear skin ever since. Sure a pimple may appear once in a while, but that is "normal".

The kids at the pool only notice you because you are "THERE", and you are the next super model "It girl". Don't go throwing up again. Can cause really bad damage to your insides. The fat is going to melt in the next year or so. Stay away from milkshakes and fast food. Think like a model girlfriend! You've got it made with your height. Check out the department stores near you and find out who does the modeling photos for their catalog. Its a good place to start! I mean it! You might find yourself in the weekly Wal-Mart clothing ad that comes out every week in the paper! Mervyns! Fred Meyer? JC Penney? These girls started somewhere, just like you, too tall too soon, that's all. And its a blessing, you might be making $5,000 a day doing runway modeling at the nearby Mall sponsered by Nordstrom or "The Bon" in 18 months from now. Make some phone calls. Go to glamour shots and have some photos taken. Accent your tallness, not that stupid babyfat that you are about to loose. Keep up the swimming it will keep you toned. And cows don't stand on two feet!

So smile darlin, you could be going places these other kids can only dream about. When you tell folks you are 5'9", over the phone when you call about modeling in their catalog, they are going to give you the straight scoop and point you in the right direction all excited for you! Us adults look at you and see big green dollar signs. Take advantage of your height, Brook Shields had the same problem and is famous for her story about how SHE felt at your age. Too tall, all gangly, no figure, feeling out of place and insecure. Look at her now? So concentrate on taking Spanish lessons at school, get good, bi-lingual Spanish speaking English Speaking folks are going to be necessary in about five or six more years. By then you'll also be traveling, modeling. These kids at the pool don't realize how young women, with potential like you, are going to leave them eating your dust! Feel proud of who you are, stand up straighter now, shoulders back, stretch, chin up. And look at those other kids with a twinkle in your eye because you have a secret! You are destined for beauty and easy money.....just standing around having people take pictures of you wearing some elses clothes! Let that smile of yours come out...those kids have NO clue!

Answer 11

To begin with, I can tell you that you are not fat, but you might not believe me as you are stuck in the mindset that you are.

Second, get off the computer and find a trusted adult to talk to...your parent, neighbor, aunt, teacher, someone. Explain to that person what you just told us.

At thirteen, you are and will be going through a lot of changes...physically, emotionally, mentally, socially, etc. Kids can be mean as you have experienced, but it is up to you to ignore them. Yes, it is hard, but you must do it. It is easier with the help of a trusted adult.

Last, but not least...no matter how tall you are or what you weigh, you are beautiful. Good luck and God bless.