how do you forgive someone for cheating?

Answer 1

it is extremely difficult. As a matter of fact forgiving is the easy part. the difficult part is trying to move on and trusting that person. trying not to think that every time that person is out and you are not there that they are cheating on you. And in this day and age, the other difficult part is making sure that your partner is still clean. I mean to make sure they have not contracted any diseases from sleeping with someone else. As they say, when you sleep with one person you sleep with everyone they have slept with. Another important part is communication. The two of you have to talk and find out why it was necessary to cheat. It's never really true when the person says "it just happened". Sex does not just happen. See what went wrong, if you cannot come to an agreement then you need to reconsider about continuing the relationship.

Answer 2

You can't forgive for that. Sad as it may be you have to remove that person from your life. No one should be able to get away with cheating. It will always hurt if you keep them around, your life will be tormented by the things in the back of your mind. Every time your better half goes anywhere with out you, gets a phone call, gets an email. It will drive you mad. Get rid of the person.

Answer 3

i tryed to forgive my husband and we reconciled 4 yrs later whe our daughter was 4 he did it again. I would suggest letting him go because you can forgive from a far so much better seeing him everyday will only remind you and yo will find yourself being tormented and having to forgive over and over if your not a super strong christian make it easy on yourself and teach him a lesson at the same time! sometimes i wonder if i didn't push him into cheating again because it was so hard to get over him hurting me the first time my mouth wouldn't let it die even though there is no excuse that will become an issue too it's best from a far don't waste precious time if he was willing to risk hurting you once he doesn't love you properly don't stay tyed to him you won't allow yourself the chance to be happy I am happily remmarried now i wonder why i didn't divorce him the first time he cheated i just didn't want to listen so please listen these kinda guys are usually the same you deserve better!

Answer 4

Well you either do or you dont. It sounds wierd but what I mean is that if you decide that the relationship is worth another shot, then you have to forgive AND forget.... you have to absolve him from what he has done and move on...the relationship cant work without trust..so you will have to look past what he has done and trust he wont hurt you again...and you have to make sure to never bring it up...if you brign it up every time there is a fight, then it will never go away and it will only drive him away.
If you cant forget or you cant forgive then you have to end the relationship because it will never work...you will never be happy, you will always be questioning where he is what he is doing and who is doing with it...and that is a toxic relationship.

Answer 5

i would forgive that person but not go back out with that person. the only reason is that your usual self would not be there. you would always be wondering and wanting to be with him because you dont want him to cheat on you again. you will always be worried. afarid to get your heart broken again. because if that person did it once, unless yall both had counseling, that person would do it again, most of the time, not all the time though. but if you are welling to take that chance, just say that you forgive them and that they have to promise that they wont cheat that way if they do cheat again you could say that they promised and it would probably help them. but dont cheat on that person to get back at them, it would only make you seem that you are immature because you want to hurt that person back for cheating on you. you want to be faithful.

Answer 6

it all depends on y he cheated, and if u still love him. anyone can tell u to just keep walking, but if it was a slip up can u handle getting back in bed with him or her. can u forgive him/her and fully forgive them with out bringing it back up. if u want just set some rules 4 if u get back with them and if it happens then he/she went over the three things u had to complete to feel to forgive them, then just leave.

Answer 7

You will NEVER forget that they cheated. If you forgive that is your choice. You will probably need to go to marriage counselling and work through it. You will never ever forget, but you have to put it in the back of your mind and try to forget if that is what you really want.

Answer 8

my husband has just cheated on me as well,i can not forgive him and never will, it is still fresh with me but i can not leave him as well i have 4 small kids,i don;t want to be a single mum of 4 kids.i always throw it back in his face and we are always fighting, i get nervous when he is out on his own,i am always checking after him,some times i feel like i am going in sane,but dont no what else to do...good luck i hope you find the answer,then tell me.

Answer 9

well there are few things you can do. one you could find it in your heart to forgive him go to concouling and try to work it out. 2 you could break up with him end it and start over with someone new, or 3 its cruel but you could cheat on him.

Answer 10

well if u love the person that cheat u will forgive him /her but u will never forget about it but do not throw it up in the person face when u are him/her get into a fuss