i went out the other night, the first time in a long time to have a good time by myself and relax...i had all my responibilites taken care of; my daughter was at a friends house for the weekend, i had a preplanned way home if i got too intoxicated...so i thought i had all the bases covered...save one i guess..which brings me to my question..
i know when i went out saturday i did nothing wrong, but my husband acts as though i commited the crime of the century and wont allow me to forget it...i had only wanted a little time to myself before i begin classes tomorrow, i've tried talking to him about it, but he turns a deaf ear..Im with him almost 24/7 as we both work together as carpenters, but there are times i need to get away from him before i totally go off the board...i just get tired of it all and also all the fights at home cause we have no space apart....is it me or is there something wrong with this picture? or wrong with me?
2006-06-12 12:20:19 · 13 answers · asked by mkg101carp 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You needed time alone and you got it. Could it be that your husband has problems with your going to a bar without him? Maybe if you'd gone shopping, for a coffee, to the library or some place where you weren't drinking and coming in contact with other men, he wouldn't feel so bad. Next time, let him know you want to be ALONE, not with another guy, and go somewhere else. I think he's worried about you flirting with other guys.
2006-06-12 12:27:01 · answer #1 · answered by lottyjoy 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing wrong with you. The fact that you need a little space does not mean that you love your husband any less. Unfortunately some men do not understand the concept of space. They are not comfortable with it. You just have to keep letting him know that you love him, and that he can and should trust you. After all if there was not trust, you would not have gotten married. As for how long you should hold a grudge, my answer is you shouldn't hold a grudge. You should not bring up what someone has done in the past every time you argue, I think it is very childish and inconsiderate. When I say you I mean your husband of course. But you do need quiet time for yourself, and some quiet time for prayer to ask God to put you and your husband into perspective. Marriage is not easy but it's worth it.
2006-06-12 12:36:16 · answer #2 · answered by marie b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no its good for people to have things apart from each other. I love my wife but I have my own hobbies that I do apart from her, and she has her own hobbies too. Its good to have time alone to relax and have some time for yourself. Maybe you should try to have some activities other than work that your husband and yourself can do together, then when you want time to yourself it won't be such a big deal.
2006-06-12 12:27:54 · answer #3 · answered by Greg W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do agree....I think having some time off from each other won't hurt. I think you should just sit down and tell your husband how you feel and how it could help both of you. If he doesn't understand..find ways to get some time away...
2006-06-12 12:31:45 · answer #4 · answered by Maria A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your hubby is a pinhead. jesus himself couldnt spend 24/7 with anyone. i did it for a few years once and it destroyed a good relationship. get off the same crew before it ruins yer marriage.
2006-06-12 12:31:40 · answer #5 · answered by Daniel T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is your husband. He needs to listen to you no matter what. Write him a letter, or a poem, or something to catch his eye. He needs to wake up and smell the coffee. Your his wife and he needs to deal with this.
2006-06-12 12:27:18 · answer #6 · answered by candymeerkat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Holding a grudge actually means that you dont forgive YOURSELF for not picking something up that happened to you. You have to allow yourself to make mistakes and not punish yourself for making mistakes.
2006-06-12 15:44:47 · answer #7 · answered by boomerang3que 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a girl needs to break free sometimes. my husband spends a lot of time at home in the winter and he drives me nuts. as for your husband, he'll come to his senses soon and see how stupid he's acting.
2006-06-12 12:25:46 · answer #8 · answered by Ms Berry Picker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u hold a grudge as long as u want because it depends on what the grudge is for!
2006-06-12 12:29:19 · answer #9 · answered by valerie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a day
2006-06-12 12:26:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋