My husband does not "do it" correctly... what should I do?

Answer 1

yep, that's all you can do is tell him what you want him to do and what you want him to stop doing.
k, since i believe this is a serious question here we go. this is some good advice to give him. just print it out and put it out some where he will find it.

15 Mistakes Men Make in regards to sex...

1. Guys...Please understand that sometimes just the kiss of your lips isn't enough for us to get wet enough for you to jam your **** right in. Take some time to warm us up, we are more excited and more willing to spice it up for you in return!!

2. Don't assume that we always want foreplay...we like quickies too!! just depends on the mood. If we nudge your head back up or push your hand away...take that as a hint so we don't have to ruin the mood by telling you why we don't want foreplay this time.


3. Also don't assume that we don't like foreplay...we do very much so and it's vital that you pay attention to our bodies in many different areas...it's not as easy for a woman to climax as it is for a man. In most cases anyhow.

4. Don't obsess over your size!! Don't brag about it either. Girls tend to think if he's braggin'...he's barely hangin'. We also don't think that bigger is always better!!! Believe me....when God gives you an average size dick...be thankful!!! That's all we need!

5. Don't and I repeat don't ever think that you're going to get us all turned on and worked up by actually inserting or more so, jamming your finger(s) inside of us...it hurts and it can kill the mood in about 2 seconds flat! ROLL THE BEAN!!! That's all that is necessary!!!

6. Don't forget that there are more body parts that can be pleasured other than down south and the twins...mix it up and I gaurantee she's more likely to scream!! In a good way!

7. Don't miss our subtle hints that we are feeling frisky...it's not always easy for us to say we are horny...but believe me, we often are, maybe more than men (with some of the girls I know!!) Sometimes we just want you to take us and throw us up against the wall and have your way with us. We don't always want it in the same place, under the same circumstances, mix it up guys! Get a lil crazy!

8. Don't forget to kiss us other places than our lips...we love kisses, especially in places we aren't usually getting them ;)

9. Don't think that we want you to actually engage in sex w/ us for longer than 30 minutes. I mean, it's great that you've got the stamana...but our areas need to be handled with care! Use foreplay to prolong it if need be...but the actual act of sex should not exceed 30 minutes...In my opinion.

10. Start slow, get a good rythm going w/ us, and if you like it really fast, as we do also...it will get that way the closer you are to climax...so don't start out like you're trying to win the Kentucky Derby...chances are you'll end up coming in last place!

11. Look us in the eye, make us feel like we're beautiful, like you love our bodies and everything else about us...girls sometimes can't climax because we're too concerned we're not doing what you want...sometimes all we need is a little reassurance that you're enjoying yourself!

12. Condom users...Don't keep going after you came. If you do before us, that's fine. We usually are excited that we made you climax...but we appreciate you taking the time to stop and start the process over again just to be safe...

13. Don't think that every time we make out passionately we want sex. Sometimes we just want to feel that passion and your lips against ours!!

14. Don't spank us unless you know we're a freak like that! It is not appreciated and again... a womans mind often gets caught up in thought even during the act, so doing these things will in turn just stop us from concentrating on how good you feel inside of us and start thinking about how he just spanked me...WTF!!

15. Make us know you care about our needs in the bedroom!! If you finish first and can't perform again, the show isn't over...we want you to finish the job too!! We helped you get there...give us the same assistance no matter what it is you need to do to get us to that finish line!!

Bonus:

Don't ask us to talk dirty...if we want to or have something that's going through our minds that we'd like to be vocal about, we will! It's just too much pressure when you're asked to talk dirty...if you want that, you start talking, see if she follows your lead...if not...shut it and keep on putting those lips to better use!

To all you men out there who don't need any tips...Thank you!!

Answer 2

First, tell him you would like to try something. Then tell him what you would like. You need to be positive for positive change.
Do not start with , you do it wrong. There is nothing wrong with an honest request and a little direction. If he gets it right make sure to reinforce the behavior with a few Yes Yes's, or That's It,
maybe even a couple Oh Baby's.

Answer 3

"Correctly"?

What can possibly be "in-correct"?

this makes me worry....only a little.

Perhaps you want something different, that only means he is not doing what you want, nothing "in-correct" there.

Are you a D/s Mistress, trying to "train" your slave?

If not, perhaps there are some judgemental issues that you could benefit from addressing.

Answer 4

Teach him how then and walk him throug "it" so he will be better at "it" with you ... Be patient and loving and give him time to learn better tecqniques and ways. Buy him a book to learn from as well. I know my husband has taught me alot and i still enjoy it when he shows me something fun and new!

Answer 5

my husband calls it "driving directions" gently guide him to the right spots, give him feedback - tell him what you want. Men aren't mind readers - you have to give them a little help. You'll appreciate it! And so will he!

Answer 6

Teach him what you need him to do, and the correct way to do it so that it feels good to you. We don't come trained to do what you, as an individual, needs. We know a little, but we need to know what YOU need and want! Talk to him, and show him. Good Luck!!

Answer 7

In response to Vanessa's "mini series"... All I can say is DAMN! Great advise and I've been married a LONG time! I think I'll have that laminated and put over our bed!!!!!

Answer 8

We are the "car", you women are the "DRIVERS" Use the brakes, steering wheel and gas pedal and tell us where you want to go! A nice fresh wash and wax won't hurt either!

Answer 9

Just sit down and talk to him about it. don't say anything about it while your having sex ( you got to remember, men have a lot of pride). you don't want to make him feel stupid. Just suggest some new things that you would like him to try.

Answer 10

get on top and give him the ride of his life that way u r in control. or move to ur desires

Answer 11

Apparently you know what is correct or how to "do it" to your preference, so you should help him to gradually "improve" until both of you are in "tune" with one another.