My fiance and I were together for about 4 years. Lately we've had some stress about moving into a new apartment and we recently got a new truck for him. Anyways, he was acting a little distant the past 2 weeks or so and I would ask whats wrong- hed say nothing. Well, this past Saturday we were cuddling watching a movie with our Tinkerbelle and it was the sweetest moment. Pure relaxation. Then the Sunday after that, he's telling me i give him too much attitude and I need to pack my things and leave. I've lived at his house for 1 year and he was so cold and cruel to me. What's worse is that there was no real reason for why he called things off. He just kept yelling and saying things were my fault. Im a tiny thing and I dont give much attitude to anyone for no reason. Friends and family say he was scared to move out of his parents house and play the role of grown up. Whats even worse is that he wont talk to me or return my calls, what do i do? I feel like something is pushing him away
2006-06-12 12:02:15 · 17 answers · asked by monetmanagement 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
Leave him be!! I know you want an explanantion, or want things to be right and work it out. However let him reach out to u.Something is bothering him and he is taking it out on you.Perhaps he wants to make the break up easier by trying to make you hate him and not want to be with him. Leaving him guilt free about it.Think logically and only take responsibility for the things you have done wrong, and not what he tells u!
2006-06-12 12:08:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Number one thing is, don't think it's your fault. He is obviously pressured by his own emotional actions, and is mad at you for NO reason what so ever. Sometimes when someone is told to get their things packed and leave, the person that tells them that will say it out of being mad, but is probably serious. Either give him time to come back to you. Tell him how you feel about what he has done to you. Tell him how you feel about being with him, and that you don't appreciate the fact that he has treated you cruely. Tell him how you truly feel. If he does and the relationship doesn't go on correctly, then you don't deserve him and shouldn't be with him. He is just making an excuse for you to leave and for ya'll not to get married. Some men can feel very pressured because they feel like they loose their freedom from getting married. They can feel all kind's of emotions, and they can also take it out on the person that they will soon marry. I would have to say that you might just want to let it go. And insince he's been with you so long, and hasn't married you yet, he doesn't want you. I'm sorry, but if he won't marry you at this moment, he most likely never will until he REALLY needs your present, and you shouldn't fall for something that low. And YES, I am 15, but I am SOO mature for my age, so don't think that just because I'm 15, I can't give you good advice. (Just saying. lol) If you need anything else, you could freely email me at lvbs793@yahoo.com. Good luck!
2006-06-12 13:15:59 · answer #2 · answered by lvbs793 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably what they've told you is true, he's scared of moving away a place he knows is safe to something new and unknown and besides moving and aranging things cause great stress. Still he had no right of treating you like that, if you still want to fix your relationship I think yuo should wait for a while and try to talk to him again and state that things cannot be that way anymore.
2006-06-12 12:07:33 · answer #3 · answered by darkwind_faery 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is sleeping with someone.
If a person doesn't give any good reasons and continually blames things on you after doing a 180 in the way he treats you it has been my experience of the same.
I would not try saving something that is not worth saving. He treats you horribly. Don't spend good energy on bad feelings, life is too short.
2006-06-12 12:14:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like there is someone else in the picture and he doesn't have the guts to tell you. Move on, as difficult as that may be. If you have any accounts with him (credit cards, loans, utilities, etc.) that could effect your credit score in the future, be sure to get them closed before you leave. If you have a lease with him, work with the landlord to get your name off of it. It would be terrible to have to relive the pain of this separation for years if he were to hurt you by defaulting on joint debt. Be well!
2006-06-12 12:27:49 · answer #5 · answered by Bill F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call me crazy but it sounds like he was looking for an excuse to dump you. That really sucks. It could be another woman or his own insecurities. He obviously isn't ready for you so look for a better man. Good luck and God bless.
2006-06-12 12:24:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he is pushing you away. almost in similar situation about 6yrs ago with ex husband. he just never had time for me. always for his friends & work but not me. Sorry to say but it sounds like he is ready to move on with out you. It will be hard to get over but this get better as time passes. Good luck. I comfronted my ex about our problem he said he just didnt love me any more. so i decided that i was not going to stick around and wait for his feelings to change
2006-06-12 12:16:00 · answer #7 · answered by browneyedgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i says you just move out and find your own place and forget about him. i know this is easier say then done but you need to find yourself a real man to be with. four year is way too long to be with someone that is immature. your're not getting any younger. sorry but it's true.
2006-06-12 12:28:56 · answer #8 · answered by helpme 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont call him or beg for him to go back to you thats what men tend to like just give hhim his space when he is ready to work things out with you he will call you
2006-06-12 16:38:18 · answer #9 · answered by sony93931 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you still want to be with this man, try to talk to him and see what's going on and see if you two can work it out for the better.
If he's still being a jerk, just leave!!
2006-06-12 12:50:42 · answer #10 · answered by x68ioweu1x 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋