I olny hear from my ex girfriend, preety much after one of her realitonships end...I think, no, i know that she still wants me...and to tell the truth, i'm so still into her, but i don't know if i want to put myself in the situation...what do I do?
2006-06-12 11:53:09 · 16 answers · asked by Chef Shortie 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
1...im a freaking lesbian....Men...tsk tsk..
and no im ot in a relationship...
2006-06-12 11:58:34 · update #1
Oh forgot...we've been broken up for two years.....
2006-06-12 12:00:31 · update #2
I ask for fcuking love advie no preaching or praying...THANK YOU VERY MUCH!!! DAYUM!!!
2006-06-12 12:02:07 · update #3
Nympho....yes...i do need sex ...BUT THATS NOT THE POINT!!!! lmao
2006-06-12 12:06:22 · update #4
Angela...Do I know you??? You sound very much like my best friend with the same name and ending initial...hmmm....are you gay???
2006-06-13 01:27:46 · update #5
Honey, please don't tear yourself up. Remember, that you are a valued person, your have a life that can be beautiful. Don't let her use you, respect yourself, where is your self-esteem? Next time she calls, be polite and considerate, but let her know that you have your own life and she isn't in it. Politely tell her to find another ex to cry to.You my friend are worth so much more than to be used as a sounding board. Stop feeling sorry for yourself, and find someone who appreciate you for you . Please, do this for yourself. I found someone I adore and am adore back, we would nerve be disrespectful of each other as she is to you. Take a long hard look at yourself, you are one hell of a women. Someone out there is dying to meet you.
2006-06-12 12:54:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 2⤋
Well, it's a bit telling that you only hear from her when she's done with a relationship. It would be interesting to know why. Have you asked her? Does she come to you for a shoulder to cry on? Does she ask for your advice?
You should also think about why you all broke up in the first place. Was it something on her end? A certain behavior, or lack of? Is she breaking up with her other girlfriends for the same reason? If so, that would be a big red flag for me. It would mean that she isn't getting past the issues in her life that caused you two to break up in the first place.
How many relationships has she had between the one with you and the last break up?
Why can't she maintain contact with you, as any other friend would?
To have a successful relationship, you should be friends too. Sounds like she needs to work on that department before you could even consider rekindling a romantic relationship.
I know I probably raised more questions than I answered, but your heart is too precious to risk on someone that will only walk away.
2006-06-12 19:07:37 · answer #2 · answered by Autumn BrighTree 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are her security blanket...which can be good or bad...relationships are built on a lot of things. The two of you could have a very open relationship where she feels safe with you because of how you treat her. Or maybe the two of you have really good sex and that is something that doesn't compare to he other relationships. Whatever your attachment with her is built on is not the real issue though because in time you both will apparently see the reason but the issue is if you are satisfied with her behaivior because of this reason. Can you deal with her being the way she is...if not then something has to change.
2006-06-12 23:23:28 · answer #3 · answered by missconduct 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it depends. Are you currently in a relationship? If so, it'll be kind of hard. But if not...why did you two break up in the first place? If it's not that big of a deal for your break up, then sure, go ahead and try again. There's not much to lose...i know what it feels like to wonder about ex-girlfriends. However, if you think it's a bad idea to get back, ask yourself why. Then it's up to you whether it's a good enough excuse. Good luck
Okay...if you're not in a relationship, then obviously you have doubts...and even one doubt is enough not to get back. But, its still up to you..I personally want to go in a relationship not worrying about anything.
Oh and ChristianGirl....get a life..that's RUDE!
2006-06-12 18:57:19 · answer #4 · answered by M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, after reading all the extra info too...
Ask yourself a few questions...what really could happen with this? could it actually go somewhere? She might be into you, but is she willing to stick it out? Are her other realtionships with males or females? If it's males, I think you may have aproblem because she very well may not want to be in a lesbian relationship.
You just need to decide what's most important... if you think it could really go somewhere, and it's worth the heartache that you probably will go thru...then you know what to do. And if it's not, you know as well.
2006-06-12 23:11:51 · answer #5 · answered by scorp 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on why you two broke up. If you broke up because she was needy, insecure, jealous, or just weird, you might want to make sure she has changed before planning a glorious reunion. Keep in mind, there is a reason this didn't work the first time.
But if you really feel like old issues are moot now and you still have feelings, what the hell, just go for it.
2006-06-12 19:24:53 · answer #6 · answered by dani_kin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like most of the controversy here is with her. Either she doesn't love you but knows that you will be a soft place to fall when she is hurting. Or she doesn love you but needs time to realize it and that is why she keeps coming back to you. Maybe deep down you are the one for her, she just can't see it yet.
It has been a long time since you split and if I were you I would be sick of this situation. Sounds a bit like she is playing you. Just sit her down and make it clear that she can't just ignore you while she is with someone, either youare friends or you're not. Either you are together or you're not. It's not fair for her to treat you this way.
2006-06-12 19:10:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The main questions asked for any long term relationship are the shared interests you may have with this person. Same issues, same ethics, hobbies....sex aside..can you see yourself spending the rest of your life with this person? If so, then it is worth your efforts to renew your love and live with her foibles as well as she with yours. The tough part is truly knowing her feelings for you, so lay it on the line with her. Ask her. You can't renew any love without this knowledge. And can you trust her words, even if she says she wants you still? Is she a chronic liar? Guard your heart. Good luck Joan
2006-06-13 17:44:56 · answer #8 · answered by truckinotter 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Joan,
I think that you should follow your heart and if you still love your ex, try to work it out! But try not to be her rebound or the thing she takes of the back burner when she needs you. How long were you together? Did it end badly? These are things you should consider. Good Luck and remember that everyone has a soul mate is she yours?
2006-06-12 20:57:01 · answer #9 · answered by sweet candy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guess it depends on why the initial relationship ended. Personally, I tend not to give people second chances. Moving backward never seems to be the right answer.
2006-06-12 19:10:50 · answer #10 · answered by lcraesharbor 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋