He likes his girlfriend...there is no way...that i am going to break them up!
But this girl is shallow and a bit**! He thinks that she is the most beautiful woman in the world because of her character but honestly she is not....! Why is he so blind?????As his best friend what should i do...they are dating 5 months...i give a huge effort to help them not to fight...etc but this thing cannot go any further...he is getting hurt all the time by her….what sort of friend am i???
Thank u all!
2006-06-12 11:38:02 · 9 answers · asked by ? 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You can't understand what i am trying to say!
2006-06-12 11:44:32 · update #1
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2006-06-12 11:44:49 · update #2
I think I know your situation
And I think you place yourself into a mediator position, think deeply before act is essensial in this role. I don't see any point that you want to get closer to your male friend, but strive to help them in anyway that you can.
It will be better if you not let any negative emotion influence your judgement. 'this girl is shallow and a bit**!' this statement clearly show the snap judgement that you have on that particular person. And on this issue, you may think that you want to study more about his girlfriend, to see if your judgement is correct. Not just the way she behave, but her thoughts and her personality.
If you want to see the issue clearly, you first need to be calm and not too boil by the feelings in you. Be empathetic to them and try to understand their situation more.
You said that he is getting hurt by that relationship. Ask yourself what you can do to change for the better. Yes, you can offer all the supports that you have. But you need to understand that you cannot handle all the issues they have, they need to be left alone and settle some of the issue for themselves. In other words, it is their personal affairs and we cannot get too involve in it. You need to set limits as well, less that you become too involve into their situation and affect by them.
I think you still a good friend to him. And as a mediator, you sometime take part in their relationship and sometime you just a bystander. Be patient and empathetic to them.
Good Luck
2006-06-12 13:31:41 · answer #1 · answered by Sonny 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a wonderful best friend. However as much as we try to protect the people we love, we have to allow them to live and learn. If your friend really likes this girl, nothing you say will change his mind. Eventually he will start to realize she is not good for him. If she does end up hurting him, just be supportive and try not to say "I told you so".Also dont put an effort into stopping there fights. That has to be draining on you. Believe me your friend will get tired of it.
2006-06-12 11:45:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
love is blind. that's why he's so blind. it's no use. i think you'd be better of steering away from them. you risk your friendship by getting in the way. not to mention your sanity. LOL.
you can try to talk to your friend when she's not around. if you mean good, then i think you should try to convince your friend to look at things more closely. in this case, who his girlfriend really is. be ready to meet confrontation with his girlfriend though. be ready if he gets angry too. it's not easy, but hey, who said friendship is easy anyway?
2006-06-12 11:46:25 · answer #3 · answered by phaditama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are placed in a no win situation. If you tell him that his girlfriend is a *****, he'll be mad at you and may end your friendship. If you don't tell him and they break up, he'll be mad because you didn't say anything about her being a ***** while they were dating(even though if you did he wouldn't listen). And if they last and you never say anything it'll be hurting him without him even knowing it.
2006-06-12 11:42:42 · answer #4 · answered by retrodragonfly 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes people just have to learn on there own.
You can be a shoulder to cry on. But you cant make him understand that he's making the wrong choice.
In my opinnion... it should be you.
But honey dont be a bit*** about it yourself... because he might just get rid of you.
2006-06-12 11:41:37 · answer #5 · answered by BeezKneez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him that if hes getting so hurt by her than it's not worth it. just be there for him, you can't make him do anything. let him know you don't like it when you see him hurting because of her..
2006-06-12 11:43:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
be careful what you say to your friend. he's gonna think your gonna break them up and hold it against you. (even if it is for his best). give it time and he will realize that another girl will treat him better.
2006-06-12 11:48:53 · answer #7 · answered by jo jo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're the sort that wants him for yourself. just admit it, tell him how you feel and see what happens. and or just move on.
2006-06-12 11:41:24 · answer #8 · answered by vanessa w 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you interfere you will not be friends. Simple as that.
2006-06-12 11:42:10 · answer #9 · answered by Irish 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋