2006-06-12 11:28:56 · 35 answers · asked by Marmot 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I just like the guy. I find him attractive but that's all
2006-06-12 11:34:05 · update #1
You should not judge! Is awful when you have tentations around!
2006-06-12 11:36:19 · update #2
First of all unless anyone has walked in your shoes they should not be judging you. I am going through the same thing right now. It has not been easy for me. This person is a friend of mine and my husbands, he is also married. We were chatting then one thing lead to another, the chat turned sexual and from there I formed an emotional bond with this man. Nothing has happend physically but it has totally messed up my emotions, I feel like I am a mess since this has happend. I have a great husband, and I am no longer communicating with our friend, but honestly I always think about him and miss him, why I don't know but it has been real hard. This is one door I wish I never would have opened. I don't know your details but the one thing I can tell you is to ask yourself what led you to do this, I had to do the same and I am in counseling right now. Believe me I did not expect this hardship when I first started dabbling in this, it seemed harmless and kind of fun, but like they say when you play with fire, you will get burned and that I did.
2006-06-12 14:03:01 · answer #1 · answered by missy 1 · 5⤊ 2⤋
It's perfectly normal to develop crushes on other people despite the fact that you are married. Just because you say I do doesn't shut off your attraction to other people. The big question is if you act on it. Look at your marriage long and hard and that will give you your answer. You've made a promise to this person and you owe it to them to keep your promise. If you're in a good relationship it's not worth ruining. But like I said little crushes never killed anybody.
2006-06-12 11:34:08 · answer #2 · answered by wsucougal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there! I am about to divorce, not because there is someone else but the way my husband has treated me and my daughter. ..We all have a crash whether you are married or not and that is quite natural for human who has got feelings towards others. How does your husband treat you? ....May be you haven't realise how lucky you are yet. The longer you married you easily fall into a dull routine. The most important thing is to find your own happiness which exist around you all the time. You need to pause from time to time and appreciate the things around you.
Have you got any children? ...If not, get one from your husband!!
Having a baby makes your life so busy that there won't be a time for another man!
2006-06-12 14:37:26 · answer #3 · answered by yumiko_hansen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's natural to be attracted to people no matter your situation, but if it's more than that, you should think REAL hard before you do anything that can't be undone.
Once you cross the line, there is no going back. If you have any love or respect left for your spouse, you won't cheat. If you feel this other person is someone you have to have, then you should seperate from your spouse and begin anew.
2006-06-12 11:34:38 · answer #4 · answered by ajah_sedai 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I think you should be sure first that you truly liek the other person. Because sometimes after spending some time with the same person things start to get a little boring and maybe you're just looking for something difeerent. Although perhaps if you need to think about your reasons for searching someboedy else
2006-06-12 11:49:48 · answer #5 · answered by darkwind_faery 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you know that if you cheat then that is commiting adultry and that's a sin. I mean I say leave your husband if you don't feel like he's treating you right. I mean why did you marry him in the first place, evidently you don't love him. Word of advice: Don't rush thing hun! Have a nice day.
2006-06-12 11:37:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will always like someone else, but chances are that once you get to know them.... you might not like them as much as you think you do. Just look at who you are married too, you probably really liked them at one point... but as time goes on you begin to know them for who they really are. If your happy in your marriage the only way to stay happy is to look at all the good things & if some of those good things faded away it is time to paint them over again for old times sake. no one will ever be truely completely happy the real goal is to be content.... that is what really last.... just think about it
2006-06-12 11:37:22 · answer #7 · answered by Starscream 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well get over it u chose to be married. thinking of another in that way while married is not right,or fair to ur spouse. think long and hard is it worth the trouble of damageing your marriage? if not hAppy than do something about ot before u commit adultry. good luck
2006-06-12 11:34:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do they inturn like you? If you feel confident enough ask them for a drink, but are you prepared to take on a great risk that your new relationship could be short term and you could have thrown everything away on a whim, if so they had better be worth it.
2006-06-12 11:38:06 · answer #9 · answered by beefypete_quizmaster 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're not the first and you wont be the last person to experience feelings for someone else even though you are married ,i wont comment on any more because you didn't go into details but just don't feel like you're alone in this because you're not
2006-06-12 11:35:46 · answer #10 · answered by sclady62001p 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋