my boyfriend is foreign but i'm pregnant and we are going to live together, but i don't know how to tell her i'm 22 i think i'm old enough to make my own decisions or I'm I ?
2006-06-12 11:07:32 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Can you guys afford living together and being pregnant and then having a baby ? If you have a non-complicated pregnancy, you will be out of work for about 6 weeks after the baby is born, will his salary alone be able to take care of you then? Do either of you have benefits or insurance?
If not, you might want to stay home with mom until after the baby is born. Either way, she will have to be told and being straight forward and honest is the best way.
One tip financial tip, after you reach your second trimester, start buying diapers each week. You can get away with the cheaper brands of newborn diapers, generic wipes too. As the baby gets older and more mobile, you will want to invest in the good brands. This will take a big chunk of the cost of having a baby later on. Since you don't know if the baby will have a allergy to formula, it's hard to buy that yet, you can check expiration dates, get only ones that will still be good and can be returned if the baby can't tolerate them. Stick with one brand if you do buy formula.
Take care and be good to yourself. Your mom will be okay, this is her grandbaby...she might be shocked at first, but overall, most moms are pretty good after the surprise wears off.
2006-06-12 11:38:21 · answer #1 · answered by barefeet561 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, unfortunately, your mother is going to have to accept it. You should sit down with her and have no interruptions, disconnect the phone and tell her that you would like to speak to her... the biggest fear that one feels and actually "saying", but once you have said it, the rest will be easier because it is out in the open.. Tell her that you and your boyfriend really love one another and that we are planning on getting married, personally, I think that you should have gotten married or at least engaged before becoming pregnant, because if you are good enough to be his baby's mother, you should be good enough to be "his wife" . . . So, that should be something that you as a woman and a mother, should want from your baby's father. . . I think that would in someway make your mother feel better, and also the fact that you are teaching your child, that it is OK to conceive out of wedlock.. Well, once you reassure your mother that you are going to get married and you are planning on having a family, if you are not already, see how she reacts and what she tells you.. Explain to her that she should accept your relationship because nothing that she says or do, will change your love for your boyfriend.. Also, you may have your boyfriend with you when you are talking to her, because that shows that he is responsible and not afraid to face up.... Assure her that love is real between you two and that he is serious about you. And that your pregnancy will not in anyway destroy your future because you are going to work on accomplishing all your goals, explain to your mother that she is the choice of being a grandmother and being there for this baby that has nothing to do with this, or decide to not only give up on her grandbaby but her daughter.... Speak to her like a WOMAN, not her little daughter, so she can see that she must see you now as a woman who is responsible and that you are treating her more than a mother, but a friend...
2006-06-12 18:56:59 · answer #2 · answered by Snowwhite 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say your boyfriend is foreign, what nationality?
I have two children both grown up and older than you, I would dearly love to have grandchildren and would trust their choice of partner. Why is your mum so against yours? Please tell her.
Mums are the most vital part of any girls pregnancy.You will need your mum now more than any other part of your life. If your mum loves you and I guess she does she will stand by you so when the baby comes and you prove you have a good relationship she will be your asset. i think maybe she is worried if he has a different culture to you. Good luck I'm sure she will come around, I'm very envious of your mum!
2006-06-12 18:33:06 · answer #3 · answered by LILY 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your pregnant there's nothing your mum can say or do your having a baby!!! my mum tried making me have an abortion because the father of my baby was 33?? at the end of the day its Wat's in your heart that counts x you sound pretty mature, if your boyfriend loves you then that's all you need,your gonna have your own little family now!!your mum isn't gonna still fall out with you when your having her grandchild, she will come round definitely, regardless xxx
2006-06-12 18:21:07 · answer #4 · answered by kxannx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are old enough. And your mother has 2 choices, she can accept it and enjoy her grandchild and all the wonderful moment he/she will bring [[[or]]] she can throw a fit, act like a mad woman, ridicule herself and miss out on the best thing our bodies were designed to make. Who loses here you or her? The answer is obvious.
2006-06-12 18:13:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you're pregnant, you're going to have to start making your own decisions. In fact, if you're pregnant, I think you've already been making a few on your own.
2006-06-12 18:10:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should just tell her. If she starts getting upset tell her it is your decision and "you can choose to support me or not. Just know that if you dont then you wont hear from me." That usually opens mother's eyes.
2006-06-12 18:16:27 · answer #7 · answered by Preggo with # 2 YAY! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does not really matter what your mom wants, you are over 18 and responsible for yourself, Good Luck!
2006-06-12 18:13:22 · answer #8 · answered by MC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
becareful this guy may be using you to get citzenship. you are old enough to make your own desicions,if you still live with her she has the right to voice her opionon and concern
2006-06-12 18:11:08 · answer #9 · answered by kleighs mommy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋