I was together with my ex for almost 3 years. We met at work and we hit it off. We had a beautiful baby girl together, but things just went downhill after that. I expected things from him that he didn't want to do. He refused to grow up and I kept forcing him to. He became abusive recently and I have since left him and I'm trying to stand on my own two feet again.
I feel like I depended on him for so much, that I can't live without him. My friends tell me that I'm wrong... I can only depend on myself. I have my beautiful baby girl, and it sucks because everytime I see her I'm reminded of him.
Everything reminds me of him, my apartment, my car, my bed... EVERYTHING! I need some help on getting over him. I know he's no good for me, but I can't help constantly thinking about him. He was the love of my life!!
2006-06-12 10:07:46 · 8 answers · asked by kisme86 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your daughter is the result of all that was good in your relationship, You may be right about depending on him...you need to stand on your own to feet and take care of your daughter in order establish a healthy relationship with another...do not, I repeat do not look for the same kind of man that will cause you to continue to be dependent on...good luck...all the love to get you thru such a crisis is in the eyes of your daughter.
2006-06-12 10:22:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Purge your apartment of everything that reminds you of him. Pictures, teddy bears, everything. Rearrange the furniture around the house so you get a new vibe and it would symbolize a fresh start. Buy new sheets for your bed, change the curtains, this is now your space as a single mom.
Yes, you can live without him, YES YOU CAN. You have to let go of the memories, otherwise, you will keep on hurting. If you keep on with the false ilussion of a reconciliation then you won't be able to move on.
Socialize more and meet new people, summer is the perfect opportunity to circulate socially. Don't wait at home "just in case he calls", let go and move on. When you meet new people and have your social schedulle full, you wont have time to think about that bozo.
Good luck!
2006-06-12 17:24:54 · answer #2 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well look at it this way, the love of your life, was only good for giving you one thing. And thank God you have her. People change after they have kids, they want more out life, they want better things for their kids, but not every body grows up. Just be thankful you did, you wouldn't want your daughter to have two crappy parents, or two parents that don't get along. Just be thankful it was over with before your daughter got more involved with her dad. As fas as getting over him, just think about all the bad times you had together, love is blind. But once you focus like a normal human being again, it's so much easier to see evertyhing they did wrong when you were together. Keep your friends close, and do lots of "girl" things with your daughter. And if you can't find anybody, they do offer free single parent dating sites.
2006-06-12 17:19:15 · answer #3 · answered by heybitches 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anything that involves the heart - our emotions, our feelings - is always hard to understand. You still love him, but doesn't like what he's doing. If you two don't get along well anymore, then might as well just let it go. Just live your life. Take care of your baby well. Things don't always work out. The consolation is at least you tried. The most fatal mistake that you should avoid is to force yourself to like someone or to get involved with someone just to forget him. Don't do that!
2006-06-12 17:33:06 · answer #4 · answered by judge_d'red 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the time to surround yourself with those that love you and care about you. Get together with family and girlfriends as much as possible. Spend time with your adorable baby girl!!! When ever you start to "miss him" or think about him, just remember the headaches, heartaches and physical pain he caused you. Remind yourself that YOU and your daughter, deserve so much better. TIME really does heal all wounds. Live life for YOU and you'll soon be over HIM!!!
2006-06-12 17:37:34 · answer #5 · answered by PacificDreamer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take it easy.you can't get ooover from someone that fast.yah that's kinda hard but u have to give urself a break from ol these pains and tears.embrace God and u will soon find peace and He will give you the wisdom for you to overcome that.Above anything and anyone else,you shud have depended and prayed for God's guidance.Anyway, His heart is 24/7 open for u.Ask Him and He will surely give u the answer.
2006-06-12 17:30:30 · answer #6 · answered by fvcm_26 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how could he possibly be the love of your life with the way he treated you? find some new friends, try new things, join different clubs, you need to focus on yourself and other things and find someone more deserving of your love
2006-06-12 17:11:22 · answer #7 · answered by twentythree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
poor bunny!
2006-06-16 12:40:28 · answer #8 · answered by QueenRulerTiff 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋