ok this is confusing hope you can make this out
my husband and I seperated, my husbands best friend is my best friends brother. my ex knew alot about what was going on in my life calling me consistently to critize me, i started to see someone new and he knew all the details about him. I found out my best friend was telling her brother what was going on and vice versa (swapping stories) and my husbands best friend return to my ex with all these stories, but my friend never told me what he said. I stopped contact with my friend, its been a year since we last spoke or seen each other, I am very upset with her (i feel decieved). she saw my mom and asked that I call her. (i have since moved out of that town) My question is did i have a right to be bothered by this, or should i forgive as this was her brother, and maybe it was meant as just talk with her, but a report to his friend...confused?
2006-06-12 09:46:09 · 8 answers · asked by maxine553 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I am thinking that with them being bro & sis they talked. Talk to her...find out what happened. Feeling betrayed is a natural feeling however did you tell her not to talk to anyone especially her brother about these things? If not maybe she didn't think it was an issue to talk to him, also maybe she didn't think he would go to your ex and tell all. Talk if for nothing more than answers and so that you can remain aquaintences.
2006-06-12 09:56:54 · answer #1 · answered by teetee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you were still interested to your EX cos you feel bad when your best friend never relayed unto you what her brother said about your ex, LOL! Oh, women...
But then you should not hold any grudge against your best friend coz she might think it is best for you anyhow. Look! She even asked your mom to get in touch with you. I think she meant nothing bad to not relaying unto you anything about your ex. I understand it is the response of most people being deceived in that situation.
Move on with life, have fun, life's so short to keep grudges especially to people whom we know cares for us. God bless!
2006-06-12 09:56:07 · answer #2 · answered by awbmob1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have moved out of the town it really doesn't matter either way, but you should forgive and forget, you are better than that(to hold a grudge). Who cares who knows what as long as you know you are doing fine.
2006-06-12 09:52:59 · answer #3 · answered by kittykat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it was a betrayal. But, I don't think it's something sooooo bad that you have to cut things off with her. I mean, you guys are just one big circle of gossip, it sounds like. You know, I have actually had my best friend (my own sister) betray me by trying to steal my husband, and for you to be upset just b/c of that is a little uneven, don't you think?
2006-06-12 09:57:12 · answer #4 · answered by amyvnsn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well im really sorry about all of this but. id say u definatly have a right to be mad about others talking behind ure back. i know exactly how that feels like. my mom always talks bad and rudely about me and everything about me. its very very wrong.
well whether or not to forgive her is ure choice. i dont really know enough but id say dont. u dont want to risk this again and her brother is wrong too. just forget about them and move on. id still talk to them but dont be as close to them as u were. i dont think they are very good friends to be with.
2006-06-12 09:55:03 · answer #5 · answered by ~*Peaches~n'~Cream*~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's look at this in segments.
* Your "friend" betrayed your trust.
* Your "friend" violated your boundaries.
* Your "friend" did repeatedly.
* Your "friend" used emotional blackmail to get your mother involved in asking her to ask you to call.
It doesn't matter what the relationship is between the people involved. You were betrayed. Any self-respecting person with appropriate boundaries would be bothered by this.
2006-06-12 09:52:52 · answer #6 · answered by jd 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is kind of a tough one......I also have a Best Friend that kind of has "loose lips"....I watch what I say to her....she has a bad habit of repeating what I say to her Mom.....her brother.....or her Sister.....now....she is the sister of my sister's Husband....confused?.....lol....we became best friends after our siblings Married....ok....My Mom lives in WI....so does my sister, my Brother in law & my friends Mom.....so, whatever is said to my friend...gets spread around & added too.....then gets to my Mom....who calls me to try to sort it all out.....lol....gets kind of tiring.....I have learned to forgive & also learned to just not tell her anything I do not want said to my Mom....I had to learn the hard way.....I dont think u r wrong in being mad at ur friend....I think it was kind of like what my situation is....she was just making conversation....she was looking for someone to "share" with....I dont think she meant to hurt u in any way....I also dont think she meant for it to get back to ur ex....she told her Brother...not ur ex....dont punish her for her brother repeating what he was told....it was on him to go to ur ex & tell him the things...not her....Forgive & Forget....make up....even though u say u r mad at her....I know there is a piece of u that really misses her....call her....GOOD LUCK!
2006-06-12 09:58:40 · answer #7 · answered by mysticfairy74 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TRUE friends aren't worth leaving for a misunderstanding like that.....forgive and forget.....he's her brother.....
2006-06-12 09:59:39 · answer #8 · answered by xqueenyx 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋