I had a best girlfriend of 4 years.She'd call me at least once a day to chat.Sometimes, call me at work-three calls one day. If no answer at home, she would leave message, but then try to track me down. My boyfriend has cell phone- would call him and ask if I was there-he'd be at work (construction site)and would tell her NO I wasn't there and he didn't know where I was. She would sometimes call my part time sitter job and ask if I was there.When I got home,would return her call to find out it was nothing important
She called my BF's cell Sat morn at 7AM, woke us to say her printer didn't work? I went out of town to my parent's farm-she called me there to say that her debit card was declined.That week end, she called at BF's again to say that her duplex neighbour playing stereo too loud.
Talked by phone to her and said I was feeling smothered-needed a break from her calls-would call her next week.Message later that I was abusive-she wouldn't call me again-friendship was over. ??
2006-06-12 09:34:55 · 9 answers · asked by ritarills 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
wow.... i think your friend is lonely and she has no one to talk to except for you. maybe you should take her out and have her meet some friends so you wont be the only one she has to talk to. if you're a true friend don't buzz her off, that will only hurt her and one day when you need her she'll be like well you didn't care for me so why should i care for you? you know what i mean. just do the right thing.
2006-06-12 09:39:56 · answer #1 · answered by ♥Miss X♥ 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
souns to me like she is needing a BF as well,,,,I am betting you were friends before the boyfriend...she is probably feeling displaced. You telling her that you were feeling smothered was like saying I don't like you anymore. I am betting she is still wanting to be friends but scared to call you. Follow through with your "call you in a week". Maybe ask her to lunch. If she doesn't answer or return teh call...call again. Talk to her and explain in person what was going on and how you felt. Let her know you still care but your life is busier now and you have less time for everyone right now...but you still want to make time for her and remain her friend.
2006-06-12 16:45:04 · answer #2 · answered by teetee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing in expressing your feelings, and you had the right to. Everyone has to learn to allow people to express gentle criticism without blowing it out of proportion. You could call her and say you hoped she had time to think abt it and still wanted to be your friend since you hadn't been trying to end the friendship. If she is still unreasonable there's nothing you can do.
2006-06-12 16:58:36 · answer #3 · answered by daisy519 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's acting a bit possesive....i don't think this is normal....go to her and try to have a civilized conversation, and tell her how you feel, and that you don't appreciate the way she's been acting lately.
Be honest, and open about it....ask her why she needs to call so much? doesn't she have a life..maybe she's lonely and doesn't have anything to get busy with....
try to find a way to keep it goin though....it's obvious she needs help...and if you're her friend, you're the one who should provide that support.
Don't worry about the none sense of abusive thing she said...she's hurt, angry, and doesn't even know why your mad at her calling too much!
Talk, talk, talk.....Good luck
2006-06-12 16:55:22 · answer #4 · answered by xqueenyx 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This girl sounds like a major drama queen/snob. She gets to board and calls you to complain about her life and how it's horrible. That is a drame queen clue. She doesn't want you to like someone better than her so she calls to make sure you don't forget her 24/7. That's her way of saying she needs some attention.
2006-06-12 16:45:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
She sound very clingy. Let her cool down, call her next week like you promised. Tell her you would like to remain friends but she needs to back off a bit. Be honest with her, if she wants to truely be your friend she will understand, if she doesn't understand its time to move on.
2006-06-12 16:43:01 · answer #6 · answered by Badkitty 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
More than one phone call a day is more than enough if the person does not want you to call them.
2006-06-12 16:36:55 · answer #7 · answered by richards_tr 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if the friendship meet the world to you try to be the Frirst to try and make up it don't matter who was wrong or right get your friend back cause friends don't come easy OK
2006-06-12 16:38:53 · answer #8 · answered by annabello726652003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
one call is anof
2006-06-12 16:39:27 · answer #9 · answered by summer loving 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋