2006-06-12 09:34:30 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My parents have been married 45 years and i have been married 3 years now and i learned a lot from them. One thing i know have kept them together is that they are great friends, they do everything together, the play and enjoy themselves, in fact sometimes we feel left out of the family as children because all they think of his themselves. They buy things for themselves before they think of buying anything for us. One time my mum went to London, she came back with about 10 presents, 7 for her HUSBAND, the rest for everyone, incredible you will say.
Another thing is their plans for their children. They have stayed together through all the storm, even when it seems they would break up because of us. I hold that very dear to my heart and i am going to do the same for my wife and children.
2006-06-12 09:54:57 · answer #1 · answered by Murphy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Me and my husband have been together for 30 years, and out of that married for 25 years. I would not say that being together that long is in sane, or we will go in sane. But I do have to say that we have had our turmoils in our marriage and at the time I did concider that in sane times. But through the thick and thin, we managed ourselves through difficult times in our lives, and took the negative and turned them into something positive. In growing old together you become wiser of each other, and really know that person inside and out. This to me is a comfort in life. When two people our truly in love, time does stand still. I would never change what I have. I am happy to know that my sole mate is with me just as I am with him. "Eternity" That's what marriage and life are all about.
2006-06-12 09:58:49 · answer #2 · answered by roseygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parents have just celebrated their 22nd anniversary... they are quite sane, and they have managed to stay together because they love each other and they agree that relationships require WORK... they both work all day, so when they get home, they appreciate their time together... I think some couples don't last if they spend too much time together... you need to take some time to miss each other a little bit or you'll take your life together for granted... Also, people have to realize that just because temptations come along doesn't mean you are supposed to give in. Life is a series of tests. Cheating in a relationship will eventually end the relationship... but every couple figures out the way to make it work for them.
2006-06-12 09:40:16 · answer #3 · answered by lizwatson109 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is a partnership. You must work together as a team. Each member of the team has their job to do, unless something happens. Then it is up to the other person to pick up the extra load until you're a team again. Working as a team and not letting one person do everything makes for more free time to have good times and enjoy each other. We have 22 years coming this September.
2006-06-12 09:48:06 · answer #4 · answered by Jurch69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was married for twenty years and stayed sane. But, she desired from someone else and now, we are no longer married and they are. Good Luck if you are striving to be long life partners.
2006-06-12 09:42:40 · answer #5 · answered by icemountian8 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn't start sane, so I can only imagine what lays for me when we get to 20 years.
2006-06-12 09:52:09 · answer #6 · answered by Sean J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love, trust and friendship. Too many people marry the wrong people with the idea that they can always get a divorce. When you marry the right person, it can be "Until Death Do Us Part."
2006-06-12 09:38:49 · answer #7 · answered by Starla_C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I stayed married for 25 , and that's why I'm a nutbar today, lol. Seriously, it's not easy to do, or easy to please someone else for that long, but it can be done. Couples do it every day, and I say, "power to them!" I just wasn't able to do it any longer, and when she left with another man, I said, "He's a BETTER man than me, if he can put up with her for any length of time!" (true story by the way). Good Luck in yours......I WISH you well!!
2006-06-12 09:54:40 · answer #8 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't argue and you get a lot of time apart. And books on inter-personal skills help too. Anyhows, with work taking up about 50-60 hours of every week, for both of you, you'll be wanting to get some comfort.
2006-06-12 09:41:47 · answer #9 · answered by smile4763 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Humor, if you can't laugh about things, it will get stale real quick. We have been married 32 years, and we still enjoy a lot of the same things.
2006-06-12 09:38:02 · answer #10 · answered by smartypants909 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋