Normal or not ?

Question

I have been married for a year and a few months. I love my husband very much. I plan on spending the rest of my life with him. My question though is, is it normal to not want to have sex sometimes?

Answer 1

Yes.
There's more to a relationship than sex.......

Sex without emotion, is like food without taste.

Answer 2

Yes, it is very normal. My fiance and I sometimes don't feel like have sex. Sometimes it's him; sometimes it's me. You don't have to have sex if you don't feel like it. Sex is NOT what the whole relationship is about. The sex will be good, usually, if the rest of the relationship is good.

But, just remember this: men have sex to relieve stress and are very visual beings; women have sex for emotional reasons and have to feel loved and cherished to have it. This may help you later if there are sex problems. Having sex/making love is about showing each other how much you love, cherish, and respect each other.

But, DON'T give it if you aren't up to it. Giving in to him when you don't want it and vice versa can be considered abuse on the other person part (especially if it is all the time). It is total disrespect if one partner demands that the other one give them sex when one doesn't feel up to it. I know a woman whose husband DEMANDS that she give him sex whenever he wants it, if food is on the table or stove, if the kids are in the house or not, etc. This has degraded her so bad that she hates sex and him. He believes how a lot of women from the olden days do: women are to give in to their husbands no matter what or when, even if they don't want to have sex, etc, or don't enjoy it. That is soooooooooooooo old fashioned and out dated! and disrespectful to the one who doesn't want to give it!

You sound as if you have a very normal and healthy relationship. I wish you all the luck in your marriage.

Answer 3

Yes of course! Just because it's enjoyable doesn't mean that you are in the mood for it all the time... There are plenty of times when I am just too damned tired... it doesn't mean i don't love my boyfriend... I just have other priorities... it is NOT normal to stop wanting it completely, though... if that's the case, you might not be right for each other (if you find yourself wanting to have sex with OTHERS but not your SO) or you might have a medical condition (if you just don't have any sex drive at all)...

Answer 4

Yeah, its called hormones honey. My husband and I know that the week before cycle there is absolutely no desire on my part. That doesn't mean interest can't be coaxed. And its perfectly normal. Sex is not everything in a relationship. Its important to a marriage, but not the foundation on which it stands.

Answer 5

Yes , it's normal, once the honeymoon is over, a slowing down on your bedtime activities is expected.

However, try your best to keep up with your husband's appetite (and likewise), even if you don't feel like it, it is crucial to keep each other satisfied in that department.

Good luck. There is no reason to be concerned.

Answer 6

Yes this is normal and we all go through this at times. Sexual peaks comes at different times and ages too. How does your husband feel about this?

Answer 7

Yes it is normal not to want sex all the time.

Answer 8

If your husband pursues all activity with you towards his ultimate goal of sex, you may not want to have sex any time he does. He needs to pursue touching for touching sake only - what follows will come naturally by your attraction to him.

Answer 9

Yes it's normal... a relationship should be more than sex.

Answer 10

i guess I have been married for one year and my husband and I have sex everyday I guess its up to you every one has there own sex drive seems normal to me