should not even talk, so he is mad, i live 3.5 hours away from them and she comes and visit i told him that i pay the bills in my house and i can have anybody over that i want, he cheated on her and she retaliated by trying to get him arrested over a car that he owned and she put the car in her name for him, after the break up she wanted her tags, and he refused so she decided to call the police. however she was hurt, and her feeling took over she was thinking with her heart and not her head. It was his actions, that cause her to react like that. Overall she still loves him, and regrets what she has done, but she is a very sweet girl. He is very upset with her because he could have been arrested, I said coulda, woulda, shoulda, we can't live our lives on that, and i told him to grow up.
2006-06-12 09:12:28 · 9 answers · asked by Lorraine W 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
your son have to understand that he brought her in your life,and just because they broke up doesn't mean you can't be friends with her tell him to grow up and get over it
2006-06-12 09:42:50 · answer #1 · answered by BIG MOMMA 4 · 8⤊ 1⤋
I'm 37 years old and have a 16 year old daughter. She has been through one bad break up. It took her longer to get over the guy but since then she has come to terms with it and has said on many occasions that she has no problem with me talking to this boy etc...You are a grown lady and as you said you pay the bills in your household. If i were you I would make sure the visits with your sons ex were not when he was around. They still seem to have bad feelings over this and until then I would keep my distance. If after time goes by and your son is just harboring hateful feelings then that's on him not on you and I would have as much to do with this girl as you wanted too. Good luck!
2006-06-12 09:21:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, loves him? maybe. But wise, definitely not! But if you think she's sweet, and you want her around... he shouldn't interfere...it's your life...and if he want's nothing to do with her, you're free to do whatever you want with your life.
But in the end of the day, he's your son. At least make sure she's not there when he decides to come over to visit you....may cause problems you don't need.
Good luck
2006-06-12 09:33:16 · answer #3 · answered by xqueenyx 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Understand that "arrested" in this case means your son being gang raped by AIDS infected psychopaths non-stop until the issue is straightened out in court. And his ex-girlfriend knows it. You are being a bad mother by spending time with someone who is so obviously a true enemy of your son.
2006-06-12 09:18:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats a very fine line. Good Luck! But it sounds like you need to talk to your son...he is family and you don't want to lose him over this. You should be able to do what you wish.
2006-06-12 09:17:25 · answer #5 · answered by brezzy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that blood is always thicker than water. ur son is most important even though he did wrong but u should act as a father in this situation and not a friend u should never get involved.
2006-06-12 09:22:51 · answer #6 · answered by deana_raines_1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like you said, you can be friends with whomever you want. I am somewhat in the same situation regarding my ex wife. We had been together for 23 years. She does not want me to do anything with "her" family. They were my family also for 23 years. I see them whenever I want and they see me whenever they want. She has no say.
2006-06-12 09:18:53 · answer #7 · answered by icemountian8 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
personally i think you should be allowed to stay friends with whom ever you want. the animosity is between your son and his ex - not you.
2006-06-12 09:16:19 · answer #8 · answered by Josie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes! continue to be friends with her. She did nothing wrong.
2006-06-12 09:16:17 · answer #9 · answered by Simmy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋