I caught my husband cheating last summer while I was traveling for my job. She was the single mother of a child my husband coached in little league. She burned up his cell phone day and night leaving messages I could not repeat in public as recently as February. Her son is not playing little league this year; however, she is showing up at the ball park frequently (now with her fiance of 2 months). I have maintained myself at the ball park but I really want to speak my peace and get it out of my system. Any ideas......?
2006-06-12 09:12:24 · 20 answers · asked by n b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The best advice I can give you is: Let it go! When you mess with trash , you get dirty. You are better than that! She will get hers in due time, trust me. Don't dirty up your hands with trash like her! Good Luck!!
2006-06-12 09:18:22 · answer #1 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
If she is leaving your husband alone and moving on with her life and you have forgiven your husband and you two are moving on together - why open a can of worms? If you really think talking to this woman will make you feel better then do it - but I don't think anything good will come of it. This woman obviously has no shame about what she's done since she keeps showing up to the ball park.
You have every right in the world to speak your mind to this woman, but just make sure that you might not get anything out of it but a big headache and more drama.
2006-06-12 09:20:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Become soccer parents intead of baseball parents.
Avoiding the constant reminder of the betrayal will help you breathe easier and help you heal better, instead of having to go through the pain and anxiey of knowing that your husband's ex-misstress will be there and that she is going to rub her newly found happiness on your face every wednesday.
Be a lady and avoid any further confrontation, it's time to move on and let the past be in the past,a nd rejoice that she has someone else now,
Good luck to you
2006-06-12 10:00:41 · answer #3 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Exactly WHY is she showing up with her fiance? Unless he has a kid in little league, that's too weird.
Still you need to concentrate on your husband, not this woman. If you still can't trust him with her around (now that she's engaged & bringing fiance along,) how can you trust him in the presence of any woman?!
2006-06-12 09:23:04 · answer #4 · answered by M Huegerich 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave her alone. Why blame her instead of your husband? Isn't there enough pain in the world without you creating more when it isn't being called for? Concentrate on creating a good life with your husband instead of venting on someone who may be having a hard enough time already.
2006-06-12 09:53:25 · answer #5 · answered by AnOrdinaryGuy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first you are still with the man right. I d not understand that most of the time if they cheat once it will happen again. if she keeps coming around I agree with Sean the wolf. have a talk with the boy friend and tell him what was going on. I still would not let hubby off the hook yet.
2006-06-12 09:20:09 · answer #6 · answered by liza 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By getting upset every time you see her, you are giving HER control over YOUR LIFE. Ignore her. Talking to her or her fiance will not help you.
You need to talk to your husband about how you feel. You need reassurance from him that she is no longer an issue. He needs to let her know that these attempts to contact him are not welcome, and if need be change his number. You also might want to talk to a counselor or pastor about how to rebuild the trust in your relationship. Good luck!
2006-06-12 09:36:43 · answer #7 · answered by browneyedgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont do anything at the ball park you dont know how the other will react trust me i confronted my ex last summer at the ball park major mistake. we wound up in jail and it was just awful. all of the kids saw it including my own and then we were banned for the rest of the season it just was awful. take it from experience catch her somewhere else.
2006-06-12 09:29:51 · answer #8 · answered by Sue D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first you need to talk to husband if he cheated once he will cheat again,tell him to change his cell number and find out why she is still coming around and if you have her address write her a letter and if that don't work have a talk with her man and let him no wants going on
2006-06-12 09:49:24 · answer #9 · answered by BIG MOMMA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, and i can't help but feel really bad for her kid too!!! good for u in maintaining yourself at the ball park too!!!! tell your husband that he should really talk to her, and that if she doesn't stop the harassment to take out a restraining order on her. if u ever get a chance to talk to her alone, then tell the ho off! i really hope everything works out for you too, take care!!!!
2006-06-12 09:24:17 · answer #10 · answered by thundakat312 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋