What's the best advice you can give to someone getting divorced?

Answer 1

Get a good lawyer.

Answer 2

I'm wondering: if there any children involved, &
what the reason/s for ithe divorce is/are.
But my not knowing is OK ...
You can still find Wonderfully-Helpful information (at the source I'm listing)! Just enter a word (such as: divorce, child custody, parent roles, communication, etc.) into the Search box on the home page, then research the articles in the list that the search forms.
I've found it to be The Best advice ever, as it's based upon our Creator's principles. Many of the articles are accompanied by live-scripture-links, making Scripture-finding a breeze. Some have links to the next article-in-a series, near the bottom of the page -- but others list them only near the top-left of the text ... Plus, a few related articles are also listed there, as live links. For example:

Can the Bible Help Us Today?
... The Bible Answers Vital Questions of Our Day
http://www.watchtower.org/library/w/1999/11/15/article_01.htm

How Can You Benefit From Godly Principles? :
... Your Choice of Principles
... Godly Principles Can Benefit You
... Some Helpful Bible Principles
http://www.watchtower.org/library/w/2002/2/15/article_01.htm

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WOMEN - What Does the Future Hold for Them? :
--Discrimination Against Females
-- Appreciating Women & Their Work
-- What Does The Future Hold For Them?
-- Girl Prostitutes - Who Is to Blame?
-- A Woman's Workday in Central Africa
-- Three Ways A Woman Can Improve Her Lot http://www.watchtower.org/library/g/1998/4/8/article_01.htm

Help for Battered Women :
-- "Maybe This Time He'll Change"
-- Why Do Men Batter Women?
-- Help for Battered Women
-- Machismo - A Global Problem
-- Correcting Misconceptions
-- "Sometimes I Think I Am Dreaming!" http://www.watchtower.org/library/g/2001/11/8/article_01.htm

When Sexual Harassment Will Be No More :
-- A Global Problem
-- How To Protect Yourself
http://www.watchtower.org/library/g/1996/5/22/sexual_harassment_global.htm

You're more than welcome! Sincerely,
"Make sure of all things; hold fast to what is fine." (1Th 5:21)

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I just noticed another question you had, a few days ago. This is in response to that question:

When a Mate is Unfaithful :
... Infidelity - Its Tragic Consequences
... Is Reconciliation Possible?
... The Option of Divorce
... Meaningful Support
... Why Some Stay Together
... Who Is Responsible?
... Children Do Not Deserve Divorce
... Does God Hate All Divorce?
http://www.watchtower.org/library/g/1999/4/22/article_01.htm

Answer 3

First, make sure that a divorce is what you really want, because once you start the process there is no turning back. Keep busy, it helps the pain. No matter what the marriage was like, it still hurts and hurts bad. Get rid of things around you that remind you of your ex if it bothers you. Seeing it only brings back memories that you may or may not want to forget. Do something for yourself at least once a month. Facial, pedicure, massage, something to help relieve the stress. For men what ever they enjoy that helps to relieve stress. Don't start seeing someone right away. Deal with your pain first. Getting into a relationship too quickly may bring someone into your life that your not yet ready to handle. Be single for awhile and concentrate on yourself. Good luck.

Answer 4

-Get your CD's and your books now.
-Gather YOUR jewelry and family heirlooms ASAP
-If you can work an uncontested divorce it will be cheaper, faster and you would only have to pay one lawyer. Agree on division of debt and property.
-Be generous with visitatiion and agree with joint custody, assuming that there is no safety issues. Agree on child support payments before hand, so you won't have to go to court AGAIN.
-Don-t get on a re-bound relatinship, you are vulnerable and you can do some things that you may regret later.
-If you have a joint checking account, get your own. Opt out of joint credit cards and bank accounts. You don't want to ruin your credit, do you?
-Get a reputable lawyer.
-Be generous on child support.
-Get a counselor, friend, priest, therapist to be on call at all times. You will feel the need to vent and cry and healthy to do so.
-Be-friend other divorcees, It's a great support group.


Good luck to you.

Answer 5

Live and learn, life is not over...its never to late to start over...nothing lasts forever...these are a few things I heard when I ended a 20 + year marriage....pretty much what ever holds true to the circumstances is good advice.

Answer 6

Plan a whopper party for the afternoon after the judge slams that gavel down and says you are a free bird !!

You already know the get the lawyer, cover your assets, and all that so I won't be repetitious.

Good Luck

Answer 7

Get everything promised in writing. Keep your money and assets as liquid as possible, keep your employment stable and make sure to take your half of everything you built up together.

Oh and don't trust the other half is too nice to ever screw you. They will. Survival of the fittest

Answer 8

Things happen for a very good reason. So dont think of this as an ending, but a new beginning, with plenty of benefits.

Answer 9

If there are children involved, don't involve them, have them share half the custody. It would be selfish to play tug of war. Other than that, good luck and don't forget the lesson you learned!

Answer 10

TRY to remain civil to each other and never put your kids in the middle. It sucks when it's a messy, hateful divorce and you use your kids as ammo. (I know from experience!!)

Answer 11

Get a good lawyer and dont think it is going to be nice at the end.