My husband's family is being ripped apart over their inheritance. There was no proper will. Three siblings think the other two are cheating. And vise versa. My husband says he never wants to speak to his brothers again. One side says items were stolen before being accounted for. The other side claims cheating on the appraisals of what is there. Some similar but less extreme things happened in my own family when my grandmother died. And I never thought it could happen to my own family. But it is so common. My question really is 'what is at the root of such quarrels and why are they so common?"
2006-06-12 08:31:33 · 16 answers · asked by ifyousaysooooooooooo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
My family went through that with the death of my grandfather-i just decided to keep my distance. I think it is terrible-belongings are wothless anyway. we cant take them with us. i think that people are greedy jerks-that is when the truth usually comes out in people is in bad times-hard to admit but true. my grandfather didnt even have anything much. i didnt take anything-just my memories of him-that is all i needed.....
2006-06-12 08:36:19 · answer #1 · answered by Chef 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I know you won't like my answer but sometimes the truth is hard to swallow. The fact is, this was your MOTHER'S inheritance and she decides if she wants to give something away. This wasn't your decision to make. If you had such a sentimental attachment to the rings, then I feel sure your grandmother would have left the rings to YOU but she didn't. She left thing to your mother. Look, I understand why you'd be torn up about this and that you may be used to your mom consulting you on everything but the fact is, she IS a grown woman and doesn't need your permission to do things. It's her life, her inheritance and her issues. All you can do at this point is MATURELY tell her how hurt you feel about it because you wanted those rings and then move on. Life is far too short to spend it sending nasty letters to family members, ranting to your mother, or throwing yourself a pity party.
2016-03-27 01:51:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like the Bible says, " The love of money is the root of all evil'. Another convincing demonstration of the importance of having a will. I'm sorry that you are having to witness firsthand the "family feud", my father went thru that with my uncle, when my grandfather died, and they did not speak to each other for 30 yrs.
2006-06-12 08:37:11 · answer #3 · answered by wild1handy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In over 20 years of counseling on wills, I have to say that money does bring out the worst in people. (I guess it really IS "the root of all evil...") Feelings of entitlement and greed come roaring to the forefront in inheritance matters. Time and time again, the lack of planning for the absolute certainty of death and the desire to avoid being perfectly clear about distributions leads to the kind of savage divides you describe in your post. And they are so common because we, as humans, give into these inferior feelings.
2006-06-12 08:36:38 · answer #4 · answered by two 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Money can take the nicest family you have ever met and turn them into a pack of hungry wolves in 30 seconds, people get greedy, when they do they lose it and money is the only thing that enters their minds. Why do you think these dictators do what they do, same principle, they end up where they have everything, you have nothing, and you have to beg to survive. Saddam Hussein was a perfect example of that. He had lavish palaces where he lived and money stashed everywhere, but millions of people were starving to death every day under his rule. One word!!!"GREED"
2006-06-12 08:40:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is because it makes them feel like they have power. Like they are more in control of the situation and maybe even a feeling of entitlement. Some of the relatives may feel they were more caring for the deceased or the favorite and therefore, it is their right to take what they can. I'm in or was in a similar situation. Sometimes, it is like they forget about the person that actually died.
2006-06-12 08:37:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Greed? Money tends to divide. Its a shame to dishonor our loved ones and all that they worked so hard for.
"For the love of money is a root of all kinds of evil."
1 Timothy 6:10
2006-06-12 08:33:35 · answer #7 · answered by EC 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The root of all evil..MONEY! For the love of money and very little else would family members act in such a way...
2006-06-12 08:39:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Money and greed. they each believe that they are owed from that person. They should each be happy that there is something left behind for them. This is the time to get together and remember the deceased and not money.
2006-06-12 08:39:11 · answer #9 · answered by ladeda 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
money , people forget about morals when money comes in . My family has been through the same thing , our side just said screw it we don't want anything , leave us alone you selfish bastards . the power of greed is unstoppable to the weak
2006-06-12 08:37:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋