This guy is over 40 and told me he never told a soul. I am the first one to know. I always suspected something was up (maybe gay), but I am not sure why he told me. He said, he is over it some what, but how do I handle information like that?
2006-06-12 08:27:06 · 5 answers · asked by missy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
First, what is your relationship with your friend? Is it a close relationship? Is it possible for your to keep a neutral position?
And you have to ask yourself, or even him, why is he telling you this?
Does he want your help? Does he need encouragement (yours)to find professional help?
If you don´t have an education to deal with this (you are not a psychologist, etc) problably this person, your friend, only needed to talk and found in you a true friend. He only wants you to listen and that is it. It has happened long ago and probably needs to take it off his chest.
Remember that he is trusting you to tell you this, and usually the best advice we can give is listening.
And for you, it is probably very harsh information for you to hear, you really have to reamain neutral or your emotions will be affected.
2006-06-12 08:37:08 · answer #1 · answered by Oh_cielos 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never turn your back on your friend and don't judge him. That has been a burden on his heart and mind for a very long time and he has entrusted you with a secret that he would have taken to the grave if it wasn't bothering him so bad. Try and find him a support group or just listen when he talks, he needs you, more now then he has ever need someone in his life, keep that in mind and continue to be his forever friend, I know that he wouldn't leave you!
2006-06-12 15:50:47 · answer #2 · answered by nikki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Recommend that he go to counseling it is not something he should have to work through on his own. The best thing for you to do is just be his friend. Even if you are gay, which I am not suggesting do not have a relationship with him until he figures things out and decides on his own what his sexual preference is.
2006-06-12 15:33:30 · answer #3 · answered by Schmickrod 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you handle it being as understanding as you can be. he must trust you alot by telling you. be a friend not a judge.
2006-06-12 15:54:44 · answer #4 · answered by Savage 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please try to convince your friend to get counseling. It is never too late. Also, please reassure him that it was not his fault. Be there to listen to him when he talks about it. Most of all he needs to know it was not his fault and he needs someone to listen to him. Prayer works wonders, too!
2006-06-12 15:34:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋