Ever since I broke up with my boyfriend of 4 years I can't help but think that maybe it's a better idea not to get emotionally attached to anybody. I always believed that love is a risk that you have to take and you might have your heart broken but it's worth the fullfilling experience. Me and my ex were crazy in love. we thought we were eachother's soulmates and always went with our feelings when deciding to stay together, regardless of other obstacles. But now that I'm out of that whole thing, I think maybe it's best to get serious with, or marry someone who you do love and respect but are not "in love with" but "attached to". Not only because of not getting hurt, but because that way you will have more control over your relationship, your life, and your future..
2006-06-12 08:21:46 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
No, it isn't. While you are some what right in your thinking, I think you have over looked the power of love to get a couple through the tough situations. Wouldn't it be better to marry someone that you love, respect, and are attached to? Without actually being in love, what would keep you in the relationship if things got bad? It could be your confusing "in love", and lust. When you first meet someone and for the first few years you have that high that so many people refer to as being in love. What it really is, is lust, a chemical reaction in the body that gives you a superficial high. The longer you are with someone the more that chemical reaction fades. I don't believe though that when it is gone your no longer in love. Being in love is beyond that feeling. It is the high you get when you take stock of your life and realize how lucky you are to have that person there sharing your life with you and you wouldn't want it any other way. That is the person you want to be married to.
2006-06-12 08:29:23 · answer #1 · answered by rkrell 7 · 5⤊ 2⤋
NO. if ur going to marry someone it has 2 be the person that u r in love with. it doesn't matter if u and ur BF of 4 years broke up that just tells u that u made a mistake dating him and that u should find someone even better. gettin ur heart broken is part of life everyone goes through it ur not the first. don't worry u'll find someone better.
2006-06-12 15:40:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, are you, like, in my head, or what? I used to think that romantic love was the -ish. But now, I think it would be best to build a marriage off of RESPECT. You'd have to grow to "love" somone you can respect. Lust is not a good reason to marry and romantic love usually boils down to just that--lust. Marriage is as much as a business deal as it is an emotional deal. I think I would probably marry a man I respect before I would marry one that I lust for.
2006-06-12 15:28:49 · answer #3 · answered by browndiva97 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THAT could leaD TO A COLD EMOTIONALESS marriage. those don't last for long,you'll still be searching for happiness,more prone to cheat as well as be cheated on.if u have children that will be a bad situation for the kids.you can't be afraid to love someone for fear of being hurt.That's a part of life BUT you can be wiser about who u give your heart 2.Love isn't just emotional and physical..You have to RESPECT each other as well.If u can't commnicate with your lover..then u have no connection..its just lustJust what is it u want 2 control????
2006-06-12 15:37:41 · answer #4 · answered by bigwrm95 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are trying to protect yourself , yet you limit the joy and happiness in attempting to do so...don't blame love for your failure...it was a failure to value the power of ones love that caused a loving relationship to fail....one must learn from their mistakes and hope for the best...not condemn their efforts and vow to never fall in love again...You would be destine to fail again to think you can be in what should be a committed relationship without love..
2006-06-12 15:34:37 · answer #5 · answered by Goodspeed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you marry someone and dont love them, you will fall in love with them eventually. Just cause you and your bf break was a horrible one doesnt mean that you cant find love. Just wait until that someone comes along.
2006-06-12 15:32:40 · answer #6 · answered by baby_luv 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well not necessarily, Love is alot of things but how do you expect to maintain a relationship with someone your not "In Love with?" think about it you had someone you were in love with but thats what you will always remember, being in love with him, sometimes its just not ment to be but i got a good feeling you don't regret falling in love with him even now after you broke up, you had something priceless, but its time was over, don't be discouraged be patient, love will find you!
2006-06-12 15:27:13 · answer #7 · answered by joe r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wud betr suggest.. b in a relationship.. where u wil need time 2 know each other.. this way.. u'l develop feelin vry strongly... n wil help da bond stay firm,!!! .. marriage with some1 unknown is gd.. it'l make u responsible n u'l hav g control ovr relationship1!!
2006-06-12 15:26:51 · answer #8 · answered by manish_fame 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hell yeah
2006-06-12 15:27:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋