When I was 19 I got married to a wonderful man. Then we had a little boy a week after we were married. Well he began to leave me alone to take care of the baby myself. He would stay out until 11 or 12 at night. And he kept choosing drugs over me and my son. Well I felt like he didn't want to be with me. Then his brother was there for me when he wasn't. His brother told me he liked me then we started seeing each other and I slept with him one time. Then I realized when I made my husband leave for a week how much he really loved me. He called everyday to see me and the baby and wanted to be there. So I ended it with his brother. About 9 monthes went by and I finally told him about me sleeping with his brother. Now he is in ohio and I am in south carolina. He says he will be down here but I don't know if he is really coming back. Everything changed after that day I told him. Should I believe he is coming back or give up??
2006-06-12 08:16:41 · 11 answers · asked by Joy Y 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hi! Friend,
You have us told about drugs and his usage on you and the baby, after you got married, i do think there must be something bothering him during those weeks that kept him away from you.
But when he left you for a week, he really felt how good you are, and bothered to call you every day! that shows he really meant it... ! But after you told him about your relationship with your brother, he must have felt left out....He says he will be soon with you but if he really loves you, he should think that love comes before anything, let that be his brother or anything! and come back and give you courage! cheers!
2006-06-12 08:51:45 · answer #1 · answered by meelu 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As you know, sleeping with his brother was the wrong thing to do no matter what was happening in your marriage. But I can understand it. But by doing so, you have made him not only not trust you, but he feels betrayed by his brother, which is very difficult for him to deal with. I don't agree with drugs, at all. Especially when there are children involved. If he is still using, why would you want him back? You don't want your child around that. You may want to reevaluate your situation if he is still using. If he is, the drugs will ALWAYS come before you, remember that. At least until he is clean and sober for awhile.
2006-06-12 09:15:35 · answer #2 · answered by older&wiserforit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally don't think he is coming back. When you told him you slept with his brother, I think that kind of made his mind up for him, whether to or not to. Everything DOES change when you find out they slept with somebody else, much less your brother. I'm not being mean, just honest, and I know that's what you wanted.....honesty! Good Luck!! Life does go on, even after this.
2006-06-12 08:34:32 · answer #3 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can you say you realize that he really does love you when he left you to take care of HIS baby all by yourself??? And he takes drugs! Is that how he loves you and your son by being a horrible example and not being there? Another example of young people thinking there ready for serious commitments and to have children. I feel sorry for the child that has to be in this type of environment!
2006-06-12 08:27:57 · answer #4 · answered by Venus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I would stay as far away from him and his brother as possible. One does drugs and the other messes around with the brother's wife. I'd learn from my mistakes and rebuild my life a whole lot better than that.
2006-06-12 08:31:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
seems as if your husband did not realize what he had untill it was gone. i do not think that either one of you loved each other because if you love some one with all your heart it is absolutely imposssible to sleep or be with anyone other than the person you love. seems as if the two of you need to do some soul searching. it will be very hard for the two of you to overcome the fact that you slept with his brother.
2006-06-12 08:24:44 · answer #6 · answered by snoopydoo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he chose ANYTHING over his wife and child, don't bother with him. Try rekindling things with the bother or just find a new man. You don't need someone that doesn't have you and your baby on the TOP of their priority list. Good luck.
2006-06-12 08:31:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
is he comming for the right reason, it would be hard for me to accept that my wife slept with my brother, maybe u should be careful and think about why he is comming back, good luck
2006-06-12 08:21:43 · answer #8 · answered by charlesjerrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2014-08-18 06:11:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you want him back?
From what you told it doesn't seem that the marriage you had made you very happy.
2006-06-12 08:25:28 · answer #10 · answered by Bloed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋