omg am i going to far?

Question

me and my bf have been going out a year now and we like to make out and he touches me some times but im ok with it and he fingers me and im ok with that to but im not sure if im going to far im only 14

i will never have sex at my age so im not doing nothin dangerous

Answer 1

Do not do anything until you are ready. If you are feeling like you are going to far then you are. You know the limits of your body!

Do not do anything until you are ready to handle the possible consequences

Answer 2

Ok, to tell you the truth you will end up having sex at and early age if you both keep it up. He will pressure you to take it further. If not him it will be someone else. I said the same thing and I was a teen when I lost my virginity. Boys all boys want sex, and best believe that is on his mind while he is touching you and fingering you. If you are ok with that he will take it a step further just to see how far he can go. Save your body baby. Try asking him what he is thinking about when you guys are making out and see what he says. Also if your mom and dad would have a heart attack if they knew what you and him were doing then you know that you are taking it too far. Listen to them they are always right. They never tell you what you want to hear, but they are right.

Answer 3

Honey, Please dont, I just want to save you heart break for later. If hes that in to you then he will wait till your ready. Just see how long he can hold out, 9 chances out of 10 it wont be long. And not to encourage or discourage, but he probably wont stick around. Im now 20yrs old and i had sex my first time at 14. It's something you can never take back, god i wish i could. Im in a realationship now going on 4 yrs with a few break ups here and there, and we do have sex, and its good and all but guys are very manipulative and can make u give in very eaisly, i still deal with this and its my boyfriend. i think you should wait. If you guys do have end up having sex he will tell someone and they will tellsomeone else and so on. Word gets out quick. The names start flying and before you know it your the school whore, even if it was one guy. Then other guys are gonna think they can get it too. Dont give them the benifit of the doubt and dont let them fool you into thinking the only way to get a guy is to have sex. If you dont want to regret it later, dont do it. Take from a someone whose not to much older than you and wishes she would have never started. I Would gove anything to take it back. And if for somereason you do decide to, Wear a condom, get birth control. from the time i was 15 till the time i graduated 24 girls in my class alone got pregnant and 21 dropped out of school. Just think about it, and be safe.

Answer 4

k im 20...i have had the same boyfriend for five years. when we were 15 we hardly kissed. sounds like you are moving way to fast. your boyfriend needs to respect your body. in my opinion your too young to have a ''sexual relationship'' and doing things with your fingers is considered sexual. it just seems crazy. i really dont think that kind of touching can feel good. and even that is a bit risky to say. just some advice....your boyfriend may want to do all he can with you because after all if you get pregnant he wont be the one delivering a child. also once you loose your virginity its gone...forever...as in never coming back...and it might turn out that you will regret it forever....i hope you think about things and i know this sounds tough but try and talk to your mom. or if you have and older sister or aunt. be safe.

Answer 5

at 14 your hormones rule your brain (and his too) very doubtful you will be together for the rest of your lives - er... 60 years or so.... so slow down before you do something you might regret.. becuase you can NEVER take that back, if he is pushing you and you say no.. and he leaves you.. as strange as it sounds.. think of it is a good thing, because once you have sex it changes your life forever and you are consumed by different thougts, which really you dont need right now.. I mean who really wants to live in a trailer park with 6 kids by the time they are 22? not exactly my goal (incidentaly my goal was to have a horse - which I have)

Answer 6

well you have to understand with guys, that sometimes, guys get so far into it that they cant stop, thats how alot of girls end up getting raped, not saying your b/f would do that, but you never know, how old is he? and too, one day you might not feel the same way that you do now, and something might happen that you will deeply regret, sometimes its just better not to do anything like that.and if you think thats going to be hard, then try double dating so that you guys dont get the chance to do that. be very careful! you are going to far to be 14, dont base your relationship on sexual stuff, live first, because one mistake could make you a very very young mother

Answer 7

Talk to him about it.I know it may seem hard to do, but it is good to talk about it first.If you don't feel that you are ready to handle possible consiquences it may be best to wait.If he really loves you he will wait as long as you need to.Be sure to share your feelings with him.When you do deside to go all the way please think it through and have him use a condom(they are available at planned parenthood) and you should go to planned parent hood and look into getting on birth control.They have a privacy policy if you are worried about your parents finding out.Good luck!

Answer 8

all i can say is do what your heart says you've been with him for a while and I'm glad to hear that. just be safe and smart about what could happen. I'm sure he'd wait if you wanted to because a year is a long time in teenage terms....... if you do be sure to get protection or birth control if there is a planned parent hood near you they can help you out for a $5 donation

Answer 9

If it makes you at all uncomfortable don't do it. Only you can be the judge of what is too far and what is not. Don't let anyones opinion make you decide one way or another. Be careful.

Answer 10

I think it is okay, but if you are at all uncomfortable at any time you need to tell him, once you have done something, it is very difficult to stop doing it. you need to set a limit and let him know it is not okay to cross it before you get to that point.