Cutting? Please help!?

Question

Yesterday at church my friend carelessly showed my where she had cut her hand intentionally, multiple times. Before I realized it, I slapped her face. It wasn't hard, and I've NEVER done anything like that to someone before. I just pictured her becoming a cutter, and it happened. I then got more gentle with her and begged her to never ever cut herself again. While we talked I kept on pulling up her hand and looking at the slashes. It made me scared, and it made me want to cry. But I couldn't talk to her in private, and I had to leave soon after. Now I'm scared that I might have done the wrong thing. I wasn't mad at her, and I think she knew that, but... I'm worried it might be my fault. I haven't been seeing her a lot lately. I don't know what to do. I can't believe I hit her. Now I'm worried. What can I do?

Answer 1

get some help.
ask your parents or a school counselor or something.
if you cant stop her someone else can.
this is a serious problem among teens so its important she stops.

Answer 2

Whatever you do ... do NOT whats so ever tell a couneslor before you talk to her. I've been cutting since I was 9 ... I am now 14. Two girls at my school figured out/saw that I was cutting and instead of talkin to me or somethin they went and told the school counselor. And to tell you the truth I started cutting more since that cause the school couneslor had never delt with my kind of situation and so she like freaked out! She made me tell my mom right there in her office even after telling me that I could do it when I got home that day. And know she is makin me go to a different counselor in another town. The Mrs. P (school counselor) told ALL of my teachers they had to keep an eye on me which really pissed me off. They treated me different and still do. I dont like it at all! Then with 2 days left of school I wrote a story about a girl diein and they almost sent me to redriver ( the crazy hospital). And I havent talk to those girls since. So talk to her and not when anyone is around. Ask her if she wants to stay the night or something and then when the time is right ask her when the time is right.

Answer 3

I use to be a cutter. Yeah..and when I stopped my best friend got into cutting because of her ****** up life. But since i was a cutter i never wanted anybody to tell people/ II only showed her and my cousin which is her boyfriend now.. And if any of them told somebody about it i would have stopped talking to them.

I would just talk to her about it. Don't tell any adults yet. Let her tell them on her own. Just trust me on that one. But if it does get worse them it is now..you might want to tell a consular or something. Definitely not her parents.

Just be there for her. Don't turn your back on her now. This is something that she doesn't need.

And I wasn't a cutter that did it for attention or love. I did it because i would always get made fun of in school and my family would make fun of me too... and i am not the kind of person that expresses myself..i keep everything to myself. And cutting was the only way to get all the pain i had inside out. So she might be doingg it for that reason..but then again she might be doin it to get attention because she might not have enough..


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Answer 4

first of all its not your fault. its very good that youre concerned, your friend has problems right now and needs you. but she also needs professional help and if youre the one that helps her get it so be it. in most areas you can call 311 for free to find resources to help with mental health issues. it would be wise to talk to your parent or your pastor/priest about the issue honestly she may hate you for a little while for bringing adults into it but youll save her and in the long run she'll thank you. there may be something going on in her home she feels she cant talk about but is truly serious.

Answer 5

In my experience most of the time people cut themselves is because they want love and attention. Some people also do it because they feel hurt and betrayed.What you need to do is go to her give her alot of TLC and ask her if there is a reason why she is doing this.Tell her your not mad and you don't think she is weird.But also let your parents know whats going on and if it gets worse call a help line.

Answer 6

one I think the parents should know if they don't already
tell the parents because in today's world it is just as much fault as the parents, always working and shoving there kids in sports to skip a baby sitter families need to spend time together, there have been cases families do spend time together and cutters still happen, I don't know your friends case but the teen years are a tough time a lot of hormones and a lot of confusion my advice is to tell her parents and show your friend you love him/her

Answer 7

Oh well I cutted before not as much now.But I think you should give her some space stupport her but not in a annoying way.Don't act to worried just hang out with her make more of a effort..

Answer 8

Are you able to call her? My friend did that and I made sure that I was around her whenever I thought she felt down. Write her or e-mail her. Talk to her about her problems and try to get her to talk to an adult that she trusts who can get her some help.

Answer 9

She needs help right away. She is depressed and has anger problems. Tell her to talk to her parents about it. If she won't do it, you need to tell your parents and they will handle it. This cannot be ignored because it will get worse and can lead to suicide.
You are a very good friend.

Answer 10

first of all it is not your fault ok u really need to talk to her and find the reason why she cut herself if u have a heart to heart talk it may help some god bless,


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Answer 11

Tell SOMEONE!!! I have two friends that are cutting but one has stopped now because I told someone and they talked to them. The other one is over her head now (cuts, chemical burns,ect.) but still tell someone.