Yesterday at church my friend carelessly showed my where she had cut her hand intentionally, multiple times. Before I realized it, I slapped her face. It wasn't hard, and I've NEVER done anything like that to someone before. I just pictured her becoming a cutter, and it happened. I then got more gentle with her and begged her to never ever cut herself again. While we talked I kept on pulling up her hand and looking at the slashes. It made me scared, and it made me want to cry. But I couldn't talk to her in private, and I had to leave soon after. Now I'm scared that I might have done the wrong thing. I wasn't mad at her, and I think she knew that, but... I'm worried it might be my fault. I haven't been seeing her a lot lately. I don't know what to do. I can't believe I hit her. Now I'm worried. What can I do?
2006-06-12 07:57:10 · 5 answers · asked by jenbeau_2008 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Make sure your friend knows you care about her, and your response was out of fear for her. Talk to her, and be there for her. Encourage her to talk to a counselor, to get some help. Cutting is usually a sign of some deeper issue.
2006-06-12 08:09:06 · answer #1 · answered by keri gee 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She may have acted casual or nonchalant, but she was most likely gauging your reaction. She exposed a very private part of herself to you and you reacted in literally the worst way possible. She was shocked by your hyperbole and is now actively avoiding you.Yes, cutting is dangerous, but she's still the same girl you've always known, even if she does cut. You should have remained calm and talked to her about it, and (gently) brought up the possibility of her seeing a therapist who can help her with the emotional problems she is surely having. I've answered various questions on cutting before in more detail, so if you go over some of my older posts you will probably get more information.
2006-06-12 08:20:52 · answer #2 · answered by Strange Design 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a serious thing. You should not put yourself down for acting the way you do. But, at the same time, you need to tell someone about this right away. Someone who cuts themself needs special attention and help. Do you have a trusted teacher at school you can talk to? Or a nurse at school? If you still need help, look in the phone book for a local crisis hotline. They may be able to give you more guidance. Good luck and be well.
2006-06-12 08:12:19 · answer #3 · answered by guaposf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure it's not your fault. What I've heard about people cutting themselves is that they have a lot of pain on the inside and they feel that my cutting themselves, it relieves some of the pain temporarily. Normally, people do not cope that way. There has to be psychological issues where they need help but if you aren't a psychologist/psychiatrist, I can't see where/how you are going to make her stop. She needs and is asking for help.
2006-06-12 08:10:30 · answer #4 · answered by butterfliesRfree 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is better to slap a friend in the face than to let them lose there life. pray ,don't worry trust in your faith that your prayers are herd
if you feel you should take action for her sake do so.
2006-06-12 08:22:02 · answer #5 · answered by distroynot 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋