2006-06-12 07:54:40 · 12 answers · asked by pjhawk 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
She's only 4 months. Don't do the "cry it out" method for any reason in babies under 6 months. It is absolutely not recommended.
If you don't want to change anything, you don't have to. This is not unhealthy for the time being because again shes only 4 months old. The bond with mommy is alwayd stronger than with daddy at first, but eventually the bond with daddy will be just as as strong. If you want to change something, have daddy more involved with day to day care, especially feeding (unless of course you are nursing exclusively). Bathing, playtime, and story books are all good ways to bond as well.
Good Luck!
2006-06-12 08:12:58 · answer #1 · answered by cardboard cowboy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop putting her into bed and make her daddy do it from now on. Regardless, whether she cries or not... She has to be taught that you are not the only parent... I know it is difficult to hear your baby cry, but you will be doing more harm if she continue allowing her to get her way... At times, tough love is the best and it is not like she will be suffering or in pain... She is just crying.. Also, have her daddy more involved with her, so like that she could get use to having him around and see that mommy and daddy are the same...
2006-06-12 08:01:21 · answer #2 · answered by Snowwhite 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The obvious answer is have mommy put her to bed. I'm not sure what you are even asking?
Please do *not* let her cry (at any age). Crying causes the release of cortisol--a stress hormone--even after she *stops* crying. It means that calories that she needs for growth and development will instead go to managing stress. It's like taking food out of her mouth! In addition, it sends her the message that when she is totally dependent, the people who love her the most won't help her. How would you like it if you came home one day in tears over something a friend did and your husband told you to go into another room because he didn't have time for all that noise?! Crying is not good for her physically, emotionally, or psychologically. It is *not* a way to develop a good relationship.
2006-06-12 22:45:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried bringing daddy into the bedtime routine gradually? Try putting her to bed the way you usually do, but have her daddy in the room, not doing anything, but let her see him. Slowly let him do more and more. After a few days of him just being there, let him do the first "quarter" of the work during bedtime and then you take over, but keep him in the room. After a few days move to 50-50, then 75-25, then all daddy. As daddy begins to do more and more make sure you stay in the room. After he is doing all of the routine stay in for a few nights, then let him do it on his own without you in the room. I hope this helps, and if it doesn't I hope you find something that will work for you.
Good luck!!
2006-06-12 10:23:06 · answer #4 · answered by Jacob's Mommy (Plus One) 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aw man. this is tough because they are supposed to learn as early as possible that mommy alone doesn't hold the magic key to sleep. yet 4 months is a little too early to let them cry it out (according to my baby's doctor it should be around 6-7 months before trying that). my suggestion would be to let daddy try for as long as you both can stand the crying, then you can go in and finish up the job. this way at least she is getting the idea that someone else is *trying,* and that someone doesn't have to be you. things that worked for my baby that might or might not for yours: rocking, holding the arms and legs tight so they can't squirm too much, pressing your mouth to forehead and saying 'sh' quietly every so often, stroking side of head or eyebrows, and the mighty pacifier. a routine set of actions helps, and as long as the actions are done she will get the idea after a while that it's bedtime. we did let our baby cry *once in a while,* but never for longer than 3 minutes or so when that little.
Good luck, stay patient!
2006-06-12 08:11:58 · answer #5 · answered by munkygone2hevn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try letting her daddy spend more time with her in the day, feeding her and changing her and bathing. Let him lay her down for naps, too, also try having him rock her. Maybe if she gets used to the idea that he's a good person to take care of her she will be able to be put to bed by him at night.
Good luck.
2006-06-12 08:02:51 · answer #6 · answered by joleiey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't just let her cry. Some people! Try having her spend more time away from you with close family members. Even if she cries, she will stop once you are out of sight.
Also try and have her spend more free time on her tummy and around other little babies. She wiil bet pass this. You have to giv eher time to adjust. Good Luck!
2006-06-12 10:05:45 · answer #7 · answered by sparkling_apple 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, she's still little, so if mommy putting her to bed every night comforts her, then do it!
My oldest is 5 and he still wants me to put him to bed every night, not dad, just me. It's kind of our quality time together when just he and I talk for a minute and hug and kiss before he goes to sleep. You have no idea how comforting it is for some children to have their mom put them to bed.
2006-06-12 09:51:36 · answer #8 · answered by amyvnsn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter was like this and our pediatrician suggested that we (my husband and i) put her to bed together for a week and then after that have my husband do it alone with me checking in on her after about 15 min. This actually worked for us it took about a week until she no longer cried over 20 min. Its hard at first but stick to it! :)
2006-06-12 09:36:48 · answer #9 · answered by sassy_girl54153 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let her cry it out. Do not go back in because she is crying that she got put to bed or put there by someone besides mom.
2006-06-12 08:00:57 · answer #10 · answered by Carp 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋