Who do you trust more, someone who is scared of what people will think, or someone who is confident?

Question

Some people try to make sure they don't look too odd, so they don't get ridculed or made fun of. But I just wear what I like, sometimes that being more normal, and sometimes it being really odd. I'm not trying to make any statemeant by the way I dress, I just cant' stand to wear clothes I don't like, or clothes that don't look good on me. I'm not worried about what people might think for the most part, because I have nothing to hide. I'm a nice guy, I help people out, and I don't do anything wrong. But peopple always eye me suspiciously and don't seem to trust anyone who looks wierd. It doesn't make sense to me, because if I had something to hide, or if I was doing illeagle things or bad things, I would be sure to blend in, and not stand out. It seems kinda stupid to me to look "suspicious" in any sort of way, and then do something mean, or somoething that could get you in trouble. Especially knowing people are idiots and stare you down for just walking around anyway.

Answer 1

I think people who try to blend in can be more dangerous in the long run, simply because you can't readily recognize the situations in which they will take advantage of others or act in socially irresponsible ways.

They're also more apt to go along with the crowd, even if the crowd is wrong.

Those who are more up-front about being their own individual person and not prone to groupthink are at least a little more honest up-front, and you can trust that when they do something, it's because they believe it's right rather than because it's merely convenient or safe.

I think some people are put-off by the non-conformists simply because they don't come across as "team players" or seem to not care about how other people feel or think sometimes.

What I've learned in life is that sometimes it's okay to fit in, if I don't have an integrity issue about it, and so earn "capital" that I can spend on the issues that really matter to me. Letting people know I empathize with them or aren't out to just buck the system in general gives me more room to push back when I see something that really needs to be fought against.

Answer 2

I'd trust a confident person - but not an arrogant person. In the long run it doesn't really matter what you look like on the outside - it's how you feel on the inside. My brother used to get all dressed "weird" for school and dyed his hair yellow and black. I used to wear all black. It is all really a way to say to others "hey look at me! I am a person who matters!" He and I eventually become real comfortable in our own skins. I kept the real stuff that made me confortable and got rid of the showy stuff. As for the people who eye you suspiciously, screw em! Well, maybe not, but sometimes people have a hard time dealing with anything out of the ordinary. I'd just ignore them. You are your only you.

Answer 3

What people see in their first glance is not often a good portrayal of who a person really is. People will love you for being who you are and not backing down in the face of adversity, and the people who look down on you don't matter anyway. If someone really cares about you, they will want you to be yourself.

Answer 4

It used to be simply dumb good fortune that they bought an e mail to you. It's a rip-off as stated above. As to how they bought your e mail deal with, they do not know something approximately you or your e mail deal with until you answer to them. Do NOT answer to them. Don't even hassle studying any e mail from any individual you do not know. Just delete it.

Answer 5

Confidant, because they know what is comfortable, they do not think what will look good or cool or fashionable etc.

Answer 6

people with a lot of confidence are frightening because some of them think they can get away with anything

Answer 7

Someone who is confident!!!!!!!!!!!!!!