is it really hard if you get married young?

Answer 1

I was 21, my husabnd was 22 when we got married and it's been six years now. marriage is hard no matter how old you are, it's just tought to share your life so completly with somone. so no matter your age, you just have to expect it to be hard work sometimes, and be willing to do the work.

Answer 2

Well my husband and I married at nineteen as did my mother (my father was 26). It's not easy that's for sure. Do you still like to party and get drunk? If so you aren't ready. When you marry someone, you put them first, before everything and everyone. You have to be selfless. Everything you do for the rest of your life effects that person. Don't listen to these people saying your going to change. You change and grow throughout your entire life. The point is, trying to grow together and not apart. It's definitely hard but no marriage is easy.
Some people say marriage is 50/50. It's not. Some days it's 20/80 and other days it 95/5. Marriage is hard, but if it wasn't, it wouldn't be worth it. I commend you for trying to research on the subject if you are contemplating getting married now. Remember, the factors the throw in, the harder it is. We had a baby boy 10 days shy of being married for 9 months. 3 months after our son was born, my husband was in Iraq and I was try to get out of the Navy so I could stay at home with him. We've had a lot of tough times because of these issues but I wouldn't change a thing! Good luck and God bless!

PS: I have cousins that got married at 16 and after almost 20 years are still together and in happy marriages. It can work if you both work on it!

Answer 3

A marriage takes work, it's not a picnic.

The younger you are when you marry, the less equiped you are to deal with things, therefore, yes I think it is harder on a young married couple.

You should live your life and enjoy it first.

I also agree with what someone else said regarding living together. I think it is a great way to know the whole person before you jump into a marriage.

Answer 4

It has its good and bad, for me I got married when I was 19...I wanted a family sooner than later, and what it forced me to do what was best for the family...it focused my purpose to be a good and loving provider, it made me work hard and stay out of trouble..if there was anything that would have made things better probably would have been gotten a higher education earlier, it may have changed my career path in a more stable direction, and then maybe not...I furthered my education later but it hasn't really done much for my current employment...but for me I lived for the struggle...much that is given or easily obtained is less appreciated.

Answer 5

We'll let me tell you ...I got married at 19 years old...I've now been married for 1and 5 mo. and to tell you the truth it's been going well. We've had our ups and downs already...but I think it has to do with the couple...if they're willing to give all they've got to the relationship...yes, we have disagreement, and fights, and yes sometimes people change too, but that why you have to have communication, patiences...and especially you have been truely in love. Like for example, I love my husband..and I know he loves me...when we fight we get angry..but then we sit down and talk about it...and then we see who's fault was it ..I tell my husband what I feel and think about everything...I'm open with him, and I tell him to be open with me too. I'm now 20 going on to 21, I know I'm still young, but I truely feel that marriage was for me. I'm realistic..I knew how it could be..like bills, reposabilities...and especially marriage...because I knew we were going to have ups and downs.. So if feel that your a resposible person, that you're willing to make your marriage work..and love your husband only...and your sure about it..then go for it...but I do at least feel you should be at least 18 years old. Why..because the older you are the more mature you become...18 is still yound but at least your not a child, and you might be able to know what you really want in life. So from my point of view it getting married makes marriage hard ..I say no..because it just actually depends on the couple..on how they hard they dedicate to their marriage..and if they are mature.

Answer 6

yes it is, i got married at 18 and have been married for 19 years and let me tell you it has been the hardest job you will ever have!!!people change as they get older sometimes together sometimes not, things that did'nt bother you when you were younger may bother you now.. all i know is you really need to think it through first!!! love is great but you cant live off love alone, both people have to try&try hard everyday...and when it's good it's great, you gotta let the good over power the bad!!!!!!

Answer 7

we meet at 18!.20 yrs later and three kids later we are still together and married? the growing pains of life teaches us to look at each other and be glad we had the other there for support.
we have had our trails. but the chioce is simple and i would do it all again. you can search all over for years and the one you should have been with was always right in your face. the grass might look greener on the single side but you learn that. the cold bed and missing of having that someone to support you. no thank you. i'll take the head aches of learning my self and my spouse over that any day. If i can leave you with one thought i will say this........ The world is full of people looking for mates. If you find one that you feel and feels you, keep them and grow with them PERIOD. but any ways good luck going for 50 yrs at least here ...... daddysr2003

Answer 8

When your young you don't honestly know what you want from life and you have not had the time to live much of an adult life so in a short time you will be wanting more from your life. You will start wishing that you could go out with friends and you can't. You will be tied down with money problems and add kids to this and your in a hole you can't get out of.

Answer 9

I did it, and it sucked and lasted almost three years. When we are young, we have a tendancy to think the way it is is the way it will always be, it's not. It sucked!

If there is anyway to wait and not get married too young, you might just have a better chance of making it.

Answer 10

Well, every case is different, but a 50 or 60 year commitment is huge. Often people change as they age and you may find that you grow in different directions if you and your fiance get married before you find out who you really are as a person.

Answer 11

i think it's more difficult getting married young (during the 20's)...thises are the years you're developing your individuality. I say wait till you're in your 30's...you're older and wiser about a lot of stuff. and if you're in good physical shape, don't worry about having kids in the 30's. they'll be a lot more stable than growing up in the informative years with young parents.