what can i do to keep my man happy "not in a sex way"?

Question

i have a man and he's hard to keep happy and i really need to know whats the little things i can do to keep him happy

Answer 1

Get the book proper care and feeding of husbands. That will fill you in on everything.

(If you don't have time to read she has a book on cd too. I bought it to listen to on my way to work)

Here's what I can tell you about the book;
In her newest book, Schlessinger relies upon her experience in private practice, radio and letters she received from men and women in tackling the issue of women who mistreat their men and suffer the consequences of unhappiness. The women who criticize their husbands in the stories that Schlessinger relates are depressed in their marriages and feel little love from their husbands. Unabashedly asserting that man is a "very simple creature," who needs only "direct communication, respect, appreciation, food, and good loving'" to respond with devotion, compassion and love, this controversial marriage and family therapist claims that every woman can achieve a deeply satisfying marriage if she adheres to certain fundamentals men require. Preparing dinner, caring for the children without complaint, greeting her husband with a kiss and engaging in sexual intimacy instead of "tearing down a husband's necessary sense of strength and importance" can result in the harmonious marriage women crave. While many of her listeners and readers claim her unequivocal advice has salvaged teetering marriages and improved marital harmony, others perceive Schlessinger as a throwback to what many see as years of female oppression in the home.
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Answer 2

Well- two things. First of all, your man's not going to be happy all of the time. It's not your fault, that's just the way people are, women included. Second, there are a few things I do to please my hubby, and you, by knowing your man and what his personal preferences are, can elaborate and add to them to come up with your own personal "man-pleasing" recipe. ;) My hubby likes a neat house, for one. I'm not one of those rabid housekeepers- rather, I make sure the house is clean when he leaves for work in the morning, then do whatever I need to do the rest of the day, then do a quick walk-through right before he comes home to pick up clutter. He's exhausted when he comes home, so I try to turn the stereo down and have a glass of ice tea ready and the remote control in his favorite chair so he can put up his feet for a little while before he goes out to do his evening work. The little things are really the biggest things, and just simply attending to his needs is often very happy-making for most men. Leave him a love note in his underwear drawer. Suprise him with something different- guys love variety, and you'll like what it does for your relationship- bread isn't the only thing that can get stale. Think about the things women do that guys complain about all the time- my own personal resolution was to never, ever nag my husband- and that has contributed greatly to the serene atmosphere of our home. Best wishes to you! :) (And Who_Are_You's answer was great- Schlessinger's book is excellent!)

Answer 3

Well that is a tall order now isn't it?! Some facts you fail to mention may have some bearing on the situation. Things like how long have you been married? What are the ages of the children? How did the financial stress occur and how long have they been a factor? What is causing the 'outside pressure'? These are things that need to be evaluated, one at a time. Next would be to formulate a plan to start minimizing the aforement- ioned. As a footnote, if we're talking a young family and the births were boom, one right after the other, it may be your husband see you as a baby plant........just keeps turning them out. That would kill his drive for sure. You may e-mail me to converse further, if you're so inclined, or go with what you've got from myself and others. Good luck.

Answer 4

Communication is the key to anything. If you are equal parts listener and speaker, everything will go much better. Explore each others personalities and find out what makes the other happy. But he has to try to make himself happy as well.

Answer 5

i've always heard the way to a mans heart/happiness is through his stomach. so making some good homecooked meals would work. a relaxing foot or back massage. surprise him with little things like rent his favorite movie and watch it together. buy tickets to a favorite sporting event. give him a free pass to hang with the boys....

Answer 6

be nice to him, make his coffee the night before. If you are getting up to get something ask if he would like anything..... do things without him having to ask you too. Do whatever it is that makes you feel nice and happy when he does things for you.

Answer 7

Try not starting arguments with him or jumping to conclusions. Also try cooking things that he likes. Doing special things with him like watching a favorite movie of his or doing something he likes to do. Give him massage.

Answer 8

You do can try become a good cook, cost i believe man other than "that" they do like to enjoy some good and nicely decorated meal all times :)

Answer 9

Ask him, really really listen to him, see what makes him smile and do that same thing another time another place.

Answer 10

First tell your man that you love him. (only if you do) cook his fav foods, let him hang out. run his bath water, rub his back and complment him on the thinghs he do